A Conversation With Arnon.
A gentle, intelligent, sensitive soul who
asked for nothing. He preferred to give to
others, both financially and spiritually.
Arnon (pronounced with the emphasis on the
second syllable, not the first), was a man
that was loved and respected by many people,
a man who became one of my dearest friends
in life that i can never forget and that i
first met him in the 90's in Hawaii,
as a fellow voluntary staff member
with Anthony Robbins. Arnon was a door
guard, always smiling, socially shy,
soft spoken, a tall, cuddly teddy
bear. He persistently requested that i
give him a smile and i consistently
refused. One morning over breakfast,
he again requested i smile. I again
declined. Another staff member then
said to me, "Tracy, Arnon is giving
you a gift. Are you going to refuse
it?" I of course burst into smile and
laughter, i understood, and the rest
is history. He captured my heart with
his beautiful smile, his gentle ways,
his kind spirit, his brilliant mind,
and his endearing awkward social
Arnon was a student at Tulane University, New
Orleans from 1992 to 1997, and after graduation he
excitedly called to tell me he was moving to Los
Angeles. I got to watch Arnon grow and develop. He
found his first serious girlfriend (he was a late
bloomer), began his career in computer technology,
and made new friends as he started his life as a
university graduate stepping out onto the world
1997 New Years
Eve, Studio City, CA
We had many happy and fun times
together both in Los Angeles (with friend Gina),
and staffing at Anthony Robbins awesome seminars -
in Hawaii, Anaheim, Palm Springs and Dana Point -
where i also met his mum Tamara, his sister Maya,
and his fun loving brother Ilan.
Born into the Jewish faith Arnon was a confirmed
agnostic, but searched for something as yet
undefined but deep within himself. I recognized
and told him in Hawaii that i could feel he was a
healer, and that he had a strong, untapped
spiritual energy that was waiting to be unleashed.
I urged him to look within, find the key and
unlock this gift for himself and the world.
Very quickly, Arnon found the key, Pranic Healing.
He drank it in, feeding his body, mind and soul,
letting it light and guide his path ahead for
15yrs. He studied with passion and with deep love,
embracing his new family of fellow Pranic healers,
and soon enough became a respected instructor,
teacher and healer. He had finally found 'home' on
earth within his soul.
Arnon got married.
Always marching to the beat of his own drum, Arnon met
and married a beautiful Indian girl from the UK. They
had a Sikh-Jewish wedding in Santa Barbara, followed
by the birth of two wonderful boys - Alex and Anand -
and began a new life chapter in peaceful Oregon. He
became very successful financially - providing what
every family dreams of, stability and security,
allowing his wife to be a full time mum - and was
beloved by his Pranic healing community. Tithing was
very important to him and he frequently gave to
charity. My best friend Gina and i, were very proud
and happy for him.
wife enjoys talking non-stop, only pausing to laugh
infectiously - our favourite subject was Frank
Spencer from 'Some Mother's Do 'Ave 'Em" (it's a
British thing), and of course Arnon didn't get it ;)
For awhile, Arnon used to travel back and forth to
work, and also to teach Pranic healing classes. On
his long drives home he would call me late at night
to help his drive pass faster, and to keep him
awake. He loved to be mentally challenged and to
have stimulating conversations. We had many
wonderful talks about life, family, friends,
spirituality and philosophy. He had dreams and plans
and many things he wanted to accomplish. I cherish
those hours he shared with me.
He avoided disputes as he hated conflict, and so he
shut out mundane daily life and household duties. He
preferred privacy and to bury himself in his
complicated, technological computer world of
software development, or to be in the deep embrace
of his other world, Pranic healing and teaching. He
was never a social butterfly as he had attempted in
the 90's. He did not smoke (he hated it), drink
alcohol, do drugs, or eat meat.
have to interact with each other to spiritually grow
and it was inner conflict resulting from daily life
that became his downfall. Cancer is nearly always
triggered by either prolonged emotional stress
(financial burden or relationship conflict), or by a
shock/trauma event. Because this wickedly brilliant
mind was only comfortable expressing emotion through
his spiritual work and studies, personal stress and
conflict was repressed and ignored.
Note: We are all spiritual beings having a
human experience. Human ego's often get the upper
hand, causing us to be who we are not. In being who we
are not, we discover who we truly are. No-one is
immune to ego chaos, domination and the need to be in
control (of ourselves or another), but it is our
spirituality that will evolve if we rise above ego
driven drama, learn from it, forgive, and LET GO.
In the summer of 2012, the family took a
wonderful overdue vacation in Hawaii (i was
originally going to join them as a babysitter if
needed), and life seemed to be going well. Everyone
appeared happy and healthy.
I never made it up to Oregon to visit, until late in
Arnon's illness, in October 2013. He was first
diagnosed with Stage 4 Diffuse large B-cell
lymphoma (DLBCL), in the early springtime of
2013. I had not spoken to him for awhile since he
now worked from home. I was very shocked as he was
only 38 years old - his children only 5 and 7yrs
In May, Arnon and i had a few conversations about
his diagnosis, his full intention to immediately
proceed with chemo, and we attempted to explore his
emotional issues. He was so very strong, his
stubbornness served him well, and he sailed through
the first months of orthodox medicine with clarity
and focus. The chemo seemingly had no effect on his
mind which remained grounded and sharp. He even
continued his computer work from his bed, and he
delighted in telling every nurse and doctor that he
met about Pranic healing.
2013 - We had long conversations on the
phone from his hospital bed whilst he was strong
enough, and one day he took and sent me a
beautiful photo of the view from his bed,
overlooking Portland, Oregon.
Sadly, his wellness
was short lived and after a vacation climbing
mountains in Idaho with his father, his wife and two
children, Arnon's body took a turn for the worst
from which he never recovered. In July he was
diagnosed with Acute Lymphoblastic Leukemia
(ALL). The cancer was in his bone marrow
(the mind/body connection indicates previous deep
trauma, causing self de-evaluation), and later found
in his lungs (fear) and his sinus
(deep mental conflict). He had practically no immune
system, barely any white blood cells or platelets.
Arnon's internal emotional
trauma and stress remained unaddressed,
a sugar free, alkaline
diet was never adhered to, and although
he had access to Hemp Oil
he refused it because he didn't like the taste
(dosage size is a grain of rice). Actually nothing
was changed other than the introduction of more
drugs, more chemo, endless blood transfusions, pain
medication (synthetic heroin), fluids and
antibiotics - his body was flooded non-stop, day in
and day out. There was no respect, no dignity. Arnon
never stood a chance. The possibility for miracles
was an empty illusion. He battled with tremendous
bravery and courage through the following dark and
painful months, underwent two emergency surgeries on
his sinus cavities, and finally left his body on
I last saw Arnon on October 29th, the afternoon he
was being transferred to Seattle, Washington for
more drugs and experimental chemo. I finally got to
spend two wonderful hours with this special and
fragile soul, flooding his body with healing and
love. When i kissed him goodbye and whispered "I
love you", i felt in my heart i would never see him
again, i had no delusions, but part of me refused to
give up and refused to let go.
following five weeks seemed like five years as i
continued to step up my intense cancer research
every waking moment, day in and day out. When
Arnon returned from his Seattle clinical trials
and went right back to Portland hospital, my heart
was beyond crushed by Arnon's state of health
which had taken a dramatically dark turn from the
Seattle chemotherapy. Iatrogenic disease (deadly
affect of chemotherapy poison), became very
apparent, invading his lungs, his sinus, his lips
and his mouth (he could barely eat or talk). He
had bacteria, fungus and yeast infections.
I knew with
absolutely no doubt, 2 weeks prior to Arnon's
actual passing, that he was going to leave the
earth very soon. Every day was hell for me, not
knowing how he was doing, not being able to be
with him, to give him love and healing. I asked
his spirit guides to take him asap, be it for his
highest good, and to remove him from his
suffering. I then had a visit from spirit that
confirmed the time was close.
The night he finally crossed over, i was not told,
but i was up all night, very restless and i only
slept for a couple of hours as the sun came up.
Arnon's dad called me a few hours later and
confirmed what my soul already knew.
Arnon's nickname was Bear - my beloved Bear had
finally returned home.
I cannot express the depth of my love for this
gentle, kind, intelligent, peaceful soul. We have
a special soul bond that will never be broken and
within the first 3 days of his passing, i felt his
warmth and love around me, he comforted me and
yes, he made me smile once again.
May all who suffer be free from
May all those in fear find freedom from fear.
May all who grieve find freedom from grief.
May all living beings be free.
~ The Buddha
in his last few months of life, Arnon continued to
tithe to an organization in the Philippines,
helping to save many lives devastated by Typhoon
Haiyan. The Davidovici family and friends have
chosen a non-profit children's cancer organization
at the bottom of this page to honor his memory.
mention goes to Arnon's sister-in-law and husband,
two incredible human beings that loved
and looked after Arnon's two little
boys during his illness - their focus,
strength, sacrifice and courage is
Arnon and i both shared a thirst for knowledge and
exploration, and he leaves me with a gift of a
deeper understanding and insight regarding cancer.
I did not have the opportunity or the chance to
help Arnon become well, but i have the rest of my
life to continue helping others, and to guide them
so they may not experience the suffering he
endured needlessly. Choices in dealing with
cancer, must be researched and made without FEAR,
which is unfortunately the place most patients and
families come from. Blind faith and trust very
rarely extends or saves lives. Grief, fear and
religious belief muddies reality. DETOXIFICATION
of the body and mind is critical. RESEARCH is
Personally i would have pulled Arnon from the
orthodox, barbaric, antiquated medical protocols
months ago, but that was not my right and not my
decision to make, so i stood by helplessly,
witnessing in silence the horror of toxic orthodox therapy
which is simply a science experiment of deadly
drug cocktails. I watched conventional medicine
legally murder him. He never stood a chance.
Arnon was adamant and strong willed regarding his
hasty, fear based, logical choice of conventional
oncology. He also chose to firmly adhere to Pranic
healing protocol. The point being, stubborn as
Taurus the bull (he was actually Cancer/Leo cusp),
he lived his life his way.
and my son (who knew him since he was 11yrs old), will
miss him always and never forget him. Namaste Arnon
The one and only miracle that can be said to
occur, was that i discovered genius Dr. Sam
Chachoua who has a protocol that kills
cancer. I contacted Arnon's wife to tell her i
could connect with him but i received no reply. It
became too late, but it is not too late for Dr.
Sam who must be made known to the world despite
orthodox medicine denying his existence - the $11
million lawsuit he won against Cedars Sinai
hospital is public record - forcing him to
continue his work and research in hiding in
Mexico. Multiple attempts have been made on Dr.
Sam's life, so he is not easily accessible.
Chachoua - A brilliant, compassionate,
Australian born, Jewish medical genius
of Egyptian ancestry
Dr. Sam's Induced Remission
Therapy (IRT) must become a recognized
cancer protocol, demanded as such by all of us.
Then and only then, will lives be saved by this
new technology against AIDS, cancer, heart disease
and other terminal illnesses. Agonizing torture,
suffering and what amounts to legalized murder
must end. Dr. Sam graduated from medical school at
only 18 yrs of age, after he watched his own
father die of bone cancer multiple myeloma,
which is the reason he has dedicated his life to
saving others from the same fate.
Become acquainted with Dr. Sam, and what NBC News
called in August 2000 "THE MOST EFFECTIVE
THERAPY AGAINST CANCER AND AIDS IN
beat cancer by loving herself, forgiveness, and
the healing powers of Chi-Lel Qigong. NEVER
underestimate the incredible regenerative powers
of the mind and the body!
Here follows a conversation of
sorts, with Arnon. He belonged to a group on the
internet called Quora, a question and answer
website. His intelligence, love, spirituality and
humor shines through, as does his simplistic,
grounded, and non-judgemental approach to life.
Some of the questions are obviously ironic ...
A Conversation With Arnon.
What are the best
ways to start a New Year?
Give to others. As you give, so shall you
How has having a biblical
first name made an impact on your life?
Arnon is actually a biblical river. I've been
told it means "Joy through dancing and singing".
However, except for the difficulty in
pronunciation, it really hasn't had much effect.
How did you pick up your
I used to write my name in regular print as a
signature. I got tired of people saying "No!
You're SIGNATURE goes there!" It happened
more time than I can count... "That IS my
signature!" So after a few years of that, I
started making it messier. Now its just big A
and big D with wavy line after each.
If life had to be defined
in one word what would that word be?
School OR Lessons.
Does free will
According to Theosophy (and many other spiritual
schools), we are born into physical existence to
learn certain lessons. Those lessons are
based on certain karma (or the causality that
others have mentioned). Those target lessons and
an individual's karma determine a "destiny" for
Within that destiny, we have certain free will
whether to go the path of learning the lessons or
not. If we avoid our destiny, life gets harder;
there is more resistance when we get off the path.
However, if we learn our lessons faster (thus
"exceeding" our causes), we have MORE freedom to
move to greater lessons and greater
works. The wisest among us have the most free
will; of course, those people choose to align
their free will with the greater good.
What are the most
underrated life skills?
Peace, calmness and rational thought in the face
of adversity. Many
people throw all rationality out the door under
pressure or stress, and make hasty, emotional, or
capitulating decisions. Meditation, mental
exercises, and mental scenario practice can help.
teaching Pranic healing - October 2012.
your career path, is money or role more
Learning is most important. If you learn, the
roles and the money will grow. When you
interview, if you can tell a story of what you
learned from your previous jobs and how you
overcame a previous challenge, it goes a long way
to telling them how you will act in their
company. When they ask you where you see
yourself in 5 years, a good stock answer is
"Learning as much as I can and bringing value from
that learning to the company I am working for."
Personally, I prefer any job that gives me many
opportunities to learn over money and role. Money
comes in a close second, but if I'm earning a lot
of money in a rote, repetitive job, my quality of
life would suffer. Role only matters to me in
the breadth of learning it allows me to have
(lower jobs have more limited scope and ability to
look into other projects) and the influence to get
my ideas out into a company. Role is a
distant third (or fourth or fifth... I'd have to
think about what others might be in there).
Is emotion the slave to reason or vice versa?
The two are different and equal. The
question is whether the person is slave to the
emotion or the reason at any given time.
As an example, should love (an emotion) rule
over our reason? In some cases yes, in some
no. It's reasonable to tell a person
everything that is wrong about them, so they
can fix it, but is it loving? Actually, it
could be a loving act (telling someone
something they can correct) in small doses, if
the person is open to that input. The question
is whether the person decides do do the loving
thing or reasonable thing (or both).
Well, then, how does the person
decide? Are they driven by their passion? Are
they driven by compassion? Are they driven by
the logical thinking out of consequences? Are
they driven by some knowledge of what is for
the greatest good of this person?
The person is the key factor here. Their
decisions improve as they improve their
character. That doesn't mean they are more
logically driven or more emotionally driven,
but by the higher forms of both (e.g. moving
from passion to compassion). Logic and emotion
are two inputs, both of which we must use to
make our life decisions.
Alternative interpretation: The charioteer is
the soul. The horses are intellect and
emotion. The soul has to keep both on track to
go where he wants to go. If one lets intellect
rule with no heart, the person is ruthless. If
one lets emotion rule, the person chases
desires without considering consequences. The
soul keeps these on track, and balanced, to
target one in a positive direction.
Many people try to make emotion a form of
reason. I disagree with that assertion.
What are good ways to
have the perfect life?
Enjoy what you have and always strive for more.
If you don't enjoy and appreciate with what you
have, you will never feel peace. You will
never feel settled. The day that I first
said, "If my life stayed the same, it would be a
great life", I felt this feeling. I called it
But we are also striving beings; we need a
mission, a goal, in life (On that same day, I
called this "ambition"). Those who retire
with no aims are dead in a few years. Strive
to improve what you have, your conditions,
yourself, to better than what they are even though
they are great already. If there is no
improvement you desire in your own life or in your
own character, improve the lives of those around
you, and eventually, those you don't even know.
Remember, life has changes. It
has it's ups and downs. You can't guarantee
everything will be as it is for the rest of your
life. But if you have ambition beyond the
satisfaction, a perfect life is easier to
have. For example, if you strive to have
twice the income you really satisfied with, and an
economic change happens that halves your income,
satisfaction still continues. This is a
superficial example, but can be applied in all
areas of life.
What do people miss about
Nothing. Life just continues to get better
How is today different
What are quintessential
My work provided laptop, just had Outlook go down.
Now my company pays me $X to waste time talking to
these darn IT guys from India (getting paid
$X/10). Since I'm working from home, I waste
my time watching online TV on my home computer,
while the IT guy worked on my computer remotely
(so I don't even have to guide him). It took
that guy TWO WHOLE HOURS to get it done so I
couldn't get any REAL work done today. My day
And now a
couple from my kids that actually happened
1) "Dad! This burrito (with fresh healthy
ingredients just made by their mom) isn't as
good as the Taco Bell ones!"
2) The other one ... crying - "Dad, I hate
you. You only gave me ONE cookie!"
3) New one ... not exactly a problem, but
definitely first world: Upon seeing me open my
car door with a key, rather than the wireless
fob, for the first time, my son says "Wow,
Dad! That's cool! I didn't know you could do
Why do some white guys like
Arnon had an
Interfaith marriage - Sikh and Jew.
I'm a white guy who married an Indian
girl. That she was Indian didn't even factor
into the equation.
What is it like being
Although I agree with the other things that have
been said, I have to say that being tall FEELS
normal! It's normal to see over everyone's head
and reach things they can't. It's normal for
almost everyone to look up at me (physically), and
actually a little weird spending time with guys
who I have to look up to (physically -- there are
plenty I look up to metaphorically).
It's normal for my wife
to be 10.5 inches shorter than me, and to
adjust for that when hugging or kissing. It's
normal, but annoying, to not fit into the
drivers seat after she drives the car.
Basically, because it's always been this way, I
don't think about it in a normal day until someone
like you calls my attention to it.
What are the wisest
quotes you've ever heard or read?
Wisdom implies time, process, and lots of dumb
Assuming God (any god you
like) is real, what would you ask them/it?
Strength to overcome my weaknesses. Guidance
to know the best way forward. Patience with
myself as I continue to struggle.
Why should I
desire to live as long as possible?
When I decide to leave this earth at the ripe old
age of 263, I will have enjoyed:
1) Seeing my 8th generation of descendants excel
because they will have had Old Arnon to guide them
with his wisdom.
2) After 100 years of compounded investment
growth, I will have unbelievable amounts of money
to spend (probably
on all my great-great-great-great grandkids,
and of course, my wife).
3) Peace on earth (and the remote outer colonies)
created through the United World Netizens (aka
UWN, aka Triple UN).
4) Taken a step through the Infinite Probability
Portal over to visit Earth 2, Terra 5, and
Andromeda Galactic Hub.
5) Taking a weekend trip with my
wife to the asteroid belt (with
the requisite zero G drinks at Solar Sailor's Pub)
6) Learning 100 languages (and they are all
accessible on my brain dock which has an Solid
Quantum Yotta Drive with the latest 364 Yotta
capacity with enhanced research and analysis
7) My Phone/Pad/TV will have a perpetual energy
core (1000 year warranty) with a variable screen
size, of course, from 1 inch square wristwatch to
20X40 ft movie screen on demand. It will allow me
to stream any video in the universe (the latest
Supernova in Gamma Quadrant was hot in the last
year), including all the memories from the last
100 years in Super eXtra Hexa Definition.
8) Having 10^13 points on Quora ;) Just
kidding ... Actually the enjoyable part would be
watching Quora finally decide if God exists or
not, and whether free will exists or not.
9) I will finally understand
women (although that took 262 years!).
Why do most people view
death so negatively?
I don't believe this is the only life we have, yet
I want it to last as long as possible. I have
a lot to do in this life before I take a
I have had a strange experiment, when I tell
people that I want to live until 263 years
old. Many people ask "Why would you want to
live that long?" My
response: "Really?!?!? Is your life that
bad? Why would you NOT want to live that
If you died today, would
you die happy?
Satisfaction and ambition.
A few years ago I came to a realization that I was
content with the way my life was going. I
would be satisfied if everything continued on the
same path for the rest of my life. It was
(is) a very freeing and relaxing feeling.
However, at the same time, I knew I could do
better. I wanted more. This ambition has
continued to drive me to new heights, happy the
whole way that this life is great and is on the
right path. That's not to say I don't have stress
and strife, but it's part of the process of the
life I choose. If I stayed in the life I am
satisfied with, my ambitious side wouldn't be
So my answer is yes and no. I would be happy
about my life, but I would not feel
complete. Plus I
have young kids.
Does God punish
souls at the final judgment day?
According to my studies (and specifically
Theosophy), the real "punishment" is by the person
himself realizing what he or she has done. At
the end of a life, the person is led through a
review of his or her life, with full awareness
now, rather than the limited awareness while in
the body. The person gets to experience joy
for things not previously noticed, and also
experiences pain and regret for negative actions
done. The purpose, however, is not to punish,
but to learn. Through this review, the person
learns and grows and resolves to change behavior
in the next life. I would expect that "final
judgment", whatever that is, would be equivalent.
COMPLIMENTARY AND ALTERNATIVE MEDICINE:
As friends and readers of this extensive website
can attest, i have dedicated my life to
alternative healing, specializing in cancer
research and therapy for several years now.
Arnon's immediate choice of healing was orthodox
medicine. He held the firm belief (ironically made
obvious below, written in 2011), that Pranic
healing and chemo, would save his life. I respected his choice, regardless that
i did not hold the same belief.
His wife purchased a Far Infrared Hothouse Dome
(heat therapy - known as hyperthermia
- is used extensively in Europe and Japan as a
cancer therapy), but it was far, far too late ...
three days after it arrived, Arnon passed on.
Why don't people
use alternative medicine more often (e.g.,
herbal, acupuncture, meditation, energy
I value western medicine and its skills and
improvement in our life, but there are gaps in
knowledge that are still addressed by ancient
knowledge and skills. So-called "alternative"
techniques are the conventional medicine in other
countries. The point is to use the right tool
for the right problem.
These practices have grown in the west due to the
inability of western medicine to solve many
chronic issues. Unfortunately, as has been
stated, many charlatans have also stepped up with
"snake oils." One reason it's not used more
often is that people have a tendency to listen to
naysayers (some of whom have been taken in by
charlatans) rather than investigating for
themselves with people who actually have
experience with these practices. Since many
comments have been related to the efficacy of
so-called "alternative medicine," let's talk about
From personal experience, chiropractic has healed
TMJ problems for me and addressed back pains that
result from my sedentary life sitting in front of
a computer. I have multiple experiences with
Pranic Healing, but one drastic example is when I
got a pretty bad burn from picking up a hot iron
(from the iron side ... ouch). The pain was
gone in FIVE MINUTES (I've been told it takes 2-3
days with normal procedures) through the immediate
use of Pranic Healing.
My son was
running around a coffee table, slipped and
gashed the side of his eye. At that
moment, with the amount of blood gushing out,
we couldn't tell if it was the eye itself or
the side. We were freaking out and about
to call 911, but just two minutes of work the
gushing blood reduced enough that we could see
it was just the side of the eye. Five
minutes after hitting his eye, the bleeding
stopped, and five minutes later the swelling
went away. By 15 minutes, he was laughing
and running around the living room again (we
moved the table into the corner). This
and many other normal childhood incidents are why
I call Pranic Healing "parental stress relief".
My day job is as a lead Technical Architect
(designing and building information systems and
applications, for those who don't know that title)
at a major communications company. I don't
tend to talk about this with people in that line
of work, but one time it came up in
conversation. He told me if ANYONE else had
told him this stuff he would not believe, but he
had been working with me for two years and he knew
I was rational and thought things through very
My examples above are relatively minor issues
because I tend to address our issues early.
However, I have had many clients with issues (like
arthritis, cancer, AIDS, and even things as simple
as migraine headaches) that medical science simply
has not satisfactorily addressed yet. The
"yet" is important, because I expect that someday
they might. One example case (which I have
testimonials for), the doctors had given the
client 3 months to live, as the chemotherapy was
simply not working. His normal response to chemo
was to be out of commission for a week. The
first result (which in this case we can only
attribute to the Pranic Healing done on the same
day) was that he only felt the chemo for the
evening and was normal by the next day. He
started to work with me, changed his diet, and
tried several other processes. After two months,
the MRI found that the tumors were gone. He has
gone on to learn how to work on himself to
maintain his own health.
Now let's explore the part that
really gets people: the responsiveness to
treatment depends both on the specific situation
of the client and the skill of the healer.
Many people point to this and say "See! The
results are psychosomatic," but the answer is not
so simple. The truth is that Western medicine
works differently on different people as well.
Let's take the case of cancer again (but we could
as easily take arthritis, AIDS, psychological
issues, or many other ailments). The treatment of
cancer is not as simple and straightforward as
setting a bone. There are many different
treatments for cancer (different chemical
cocktails and radiation treatments) and many
different types of cancer. Even with one type of
cancer, the same western treatment will have
varying results in different patients. A more
skilled doctor with more experience will know
better what techniques will have the best results
on an individualized basis. In fact, there are
books and articles stating that those who get the
best results are those who are their own
advocates. The same is true of eastern healing
techniques and healers. Results will vary, so you
must explore what treatment is correct and adjust
So how do you find a good healer? Note that this
answer applies for both western doctors and
eastern doctors and healers of any type.
Training and a certificate are not enough ... we
all know there are many people (and doctors) with
tons of certifications who we wouldn't go anywhere
near. The key is to look at results. If you have a
significant issue, and need a lot of work, get
testimonials, talk to previous patients, review
negative results, question the methods, and other
due diligence that you would normally do when
signing up for anything. In this case, it's not
just time and money invested, but potentially your
life. Make sure you have the right doctor/healer
for the job. Unfortunately, many people just take
the first opinion without doing the additional due
diligence. For less significant issues, one can
experiment more, but don't skip the effort of
validating what you are being told.
To sum up, no ailment has one and only one
solution.I find that results are best when
multiple healers/doctors work together. I
have NEVER told a client to change anything their
doctor told them, and like I stated earlier, I do
my work along with the chemotherapy or other
treatment. A broken bone must be set before
we can accelerate the process of healing the
bone. I have had clients ask me timidly if
they can also meet with a nutritionist or some
other type of healer, and I encourage them
wholeheartedly. To reiterate, use the right
tool for the right problem.
It has been asked why much evidence for
"alternative" techniques seems anecdotal. I
recently had a conversation with a doctor who said
that even the evidence for dietary changes
improving health is anecdotal. The reason is that
it's very hard to have a controlled study of diet
(and some of these other techniques). Many of
the studies for these drugs and treatments are
from people in hospitals or in expensive
labs. In these places, diet and other factors
can be somewhat controlled. This is the
scientific method; comparing a controlled baseline
to a different set of conditions.
However, according to this doctor, people
self-reporting diet tend to be inaccurate or even
lie. Very hard to control. This is true
also of people who we see as healers for 1-3 hours
in a week. What are they doing the rest of
FYI: What is 'Pranic Healing'? A collective
hodge-podge of healing techniques and philosophy
taken from multiple global sources including
occultists, spiritual practitioners, Eastern
healing modalities, various religions, Hindu
literature, and yoga. Founder Filipino Choa Kok
Sui, was a successful business man and chemical
engineer. Drawn to esoteric science at an early
age, he launched his spiritual thesis named modern
Pranic healing in 1987, but died of pneumonia
twenty years later in 2007, age only 53 yrs.
Choa Kok Sui -
founder of Pranic 'healing'.
SPIRITUALITY - RELIGION -
What is the difference
between spirituality, religion, and church?
My mother used to say, "Religion divides.
Religion is a structure of belief and a set of
guidelines for how to live life or be a better
person. There are many different religions because
there are many types of people and different
cultures who have different philosophies. It is
appropriate and good for these people to have these
structures to guide them. The division comes in
where people forget that the fact that someone else
chooses another path does not make them wrong.
Spirituality in general focuses on unity and
open-mindedness. Everyone has their own individual
path of discovery, and each is good. Additionally,
"all paths lead to the same destination" ultimately.
Religion and spirituality can be practiced together
or separately. I know many devout religious people
who also acknowledge that their experience is
different and individual from their other
parishioners, but accept all practices. There are,
of course, religious people who focus on the form
and structure of the religion to the exclusion of
all others. That's simply where they are.
There are religious churches and spiritual churches.
Spiritual churches would be those like Science of
Mind, Center for Spiritual Living, and Unity
Churches (these are just some I know; I'm sure there
are plenty others). I've seen many of these churches
who even bring in the symbols from all the major
religions to be inclusive and acknowledge members of
their church who practice both.
Is one particular religion the
one true religion?
No. All religions at their roots are both a
framework for belief AND a guideline for becoming
a better person. They were developed in different
time periods and regions to work for certain types
of people. Just like different people like
different forms of physical exercise, there are
many forms of "character exercise" or spiritual
exercise. All people are free to pick the belief
system that works for them and helps them move
What fundamental elements exist
consistently and coherently in every religion
and every spiritual ethic?
Both The Law of Karma (or cause and effect) and
The Golden Rule are taught universally in all
major religions. Below are just some of the
religious references (you can find them in other
religions as well).
The Law of Karma is basically all variations of :
"As you give, so shall
God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. --
Galatians 6:7 (Christian)
For with the same measure that ye mete, withal it
shall be measured to you again. -- Luke 6:38
Thou shalt receive requital and reward in just
return for whatsoever thou doest. -- Koran (Islam)
Just as a farmer plants a certain kind of seed and
gets a certain crop, so it is with good and bad
seeds. -- Mahabharata (Hindu)
So long as an evil deed has not karmically
matured, the fool thinks his deed to be sweet as
honey; but when his evil deed karmically matures,
he falls into untold misery. -- Dhammapada (Wisdom
The Golden Rule is all variations of "Do
unto others as you would have them do into
you" (yang or active
version) and "Do not do unto others as you would
not have others do unto you" (yin or passive
Do not do unto others what you do not want others
to do unto you. -- Confucius
As ye would that men should do to you, do ye also
to them likewise. -- Luke 6:31
This is the sum of all true righteousness: Deal
with others as thou wouldst thyself be dealth by.
Do nothing to thy neighbor which thou wouldst not
have him do to thee hereafter. -- Mahabharata
Whatever thou likest no for thine own self, for
any person else, too, like it not. -- Dhammapada
Noblest religion this -- that thou
shouldst like for others what thou likest for
thyself and what thou feelest painful for thyself,
hold that as painful for all others too. -- Koran
Is there any evidence for
Many people argue what constitutes evidence. Many
people say that if God was to appear right in
front of us, we wouldn't believe it was him. Well,
here's one view.
Excerpt from Master Choa Kok Sui, 'The Existence
of God is Self Evident', (followed by some
1. The existence of God is self-evident. It is
amazing that those who have eyes do not see.The
existence of a camera factory is self-evident by
the existence of the camera. The existence of God
is self-evident by the existence of the eye, which
is infinitely more complicated than a camera.
2. The existence of a computer factory is
self-evident by the existence of the computer. The
existence of God is self-evident by the existence
of the brain, which is infinitely more complex
than the most advanced computer.
7. A beautiful rose is made of only four physical
b. trace minerals
Only God can make something so
complex, so beautiful, with just these four
physical ingredients. Scientists, even if given
trillions of U.S. dollars, will not be able to
produce a rose with just these four physical
8. The flowers, the fruits, the plants, and the
trees are produced with these four physical
ingredients. To produce chemicals you need
chemical factories, chemists and chemical
engineers. Many of the biochemicals in the
flowers, in the fruits, in the plants and in the
trees cannot be reproduced by the biochemists and
the chemical engineers. Yet a plant or a tree,
which is not managed by biochemists and chemical
engineers and is much smaller than a chemical
factory, produces them... Nature is God's factory.
To see nature is to see the creation of God. The
existence of God is self-evident!
For several years, I made the mental efforts to
argue these points, especially #7. What about
seeds? DNA? Try going down that rabbit hole and
see where that takes you. Challenging these
statements (and many others in the book) has been
intellectually and spiritually stimulating, and I
have not been able to find a flaw in his logic. I
invite you to try.
I was agnostic for the first part of my
life. I tell people that I have never
believed in God. I went from not believing there
is a God to KNOWING there is a God. Belief didn't
enter into the picture. It is self-evident
physically, intellectually, and spiritually.
If God is omnipotent and knows
what we will do before he created us, how can we
have free will?
brother and sister - Ilan and Maya.
His other sister Talia was a bone marrow match,
but she never got the chance.
You are discussing in four-dimensional space-time,
which includes only a single timeline. Current
physics postulates AT LEAST 11 dimensions.
Assume for a moment, that dimension number 5 is
choice. The choices we make would spread out
into at least a "time plane" or maybe even a "time
cube" (three dimensions of time). With this, we
have only covered six dimensions of time and space
(and there is much more beyond that). The
theory postulated above is at least as plausible
as the "all the higher dimensions are curled up in
little balls" theory. There is much more knowable
than our four dimensional minds can fathom.
Discussion of the scope of omniscience is a
subject for a different time, but let's stick with
the fact that within a given space (e.g. the
universe), God knows everything.
I believe I'm actually expanding the definition of
omniscience beyond what most people actually think
it is. There is never only one choice. All choices
are known and calculated (and possibly exist
simultaneously, though I'm not an expert in
Most people think of omnipotence and omniscience
as absolutes and in three or four dimensions.
That's what creates these supposed
paradoxes. "If God has the ability, it must
be used" and "If God knows everything, we have no
free will". But this is a higher-dimensional
universe where there are multiple possibilities of
what we might do.
Omnipotence: He could stop us, just like I could
stop my child from falling the first time they go
on a bike. But I let my child fall and get back on
the bike again and again so that he builds his own
skills and confidence. There are a large number of
physical, emotional and mental skills that we all
need to gain.
Omniscience: I'm sure it's
more complex than this, but we could think of it
as probabilities. Omniscience is not knowing a
single future; it is knowing the space of all
possible futures. The future is in flux. You may
have a 99% chance of choosing chocolate, but
there's always that possibility that this time you
might choose vanilla with fruit and sprinkles. God
may know our propensities, but does not lock us
into a specific choice.
Most people think of omnipotence and omniscience
as absolutes and in three or four dimensions.
That's what creates these supposed
paradoxes. "If God has the ability, it must
be used" and "If God knows everything, we have no
free will". But this is a multi-dimensional
universe where there are multiple possibilities of
what we might do. God may know our propensities,
but does not lock us into a specific choice.
Omniscience is not knowing a single future; it is
knowing the space of all possible futures. The
future is in flux. You may have a 99% chance of
choosing chocolate, but there's always that
possibility that this time you might choose
vanilla with fruit and sprinkles.
We have free will because we choose the correct
path or the mistaken path (or one of the many in
between). God does not stop us from making those
choices, so our will is free.
Sure he knows ... just like I know my son will
fall the first time he tries to ride. I'm saying
he doesn't exercise his omnipotence to stop our
Is God a paradox?
I have seen this many times, and the assumption
that if he will not, he is not "all good" is where
this goes off track. Are people intended to
act as little children being guided at every turn?
Or are they intended to learn and grow and become
wise? I don't know about you, but "all good" for
me means that I consistently become a better
Wisdom implies time, process, and lots of dumb
mistakes. If God intends us to grow, he has to
take off the training wheels, and let us make
mistakes. Those mistakes will cause pain and
"evil". But how else would we become wise beings
To throw in an analogy: A parent helps a
child ride a bike for the first time. The child
falls and hurts his knee and cries. The parent
could have avoided all the pain by keeping the
training wheels on, but a greater good was served
by the child learning to ride the bike
himself. Of course, the parent then
encourages the child to get back on and ride
again. Now multiply this times every skill in
existence, physical, emotional, and mental, and
you can see the complexity of the situation.
Can God solve P=NP?
If one assumes that God is beyond time, does
polynomial time matter?
Do the majority
of intellectual people believe in religion?
The majority of intelligent people dissect
everything they believe in. So would an
intelligent person believe EVERY part of a
religion without question? Unlikely. After
questioning, would an intelligent person believe
that the principles and practices have value
regardless of the stories' basis in fact?
Most people are more intelligent than you think.
Take any religion or spiritual practice and five
people in that practice and you can uncover
differences in their belief systems. Some will
emphasize some parts and some others. In truth,
even those who "accept the Bible as the Word of
God" without question, will debate the meaning of
those words. So "belief in religion" is too
general a term.
If you convert into
Judaism, and your father asks you to come
worship other gods with him, what should you
do according to the 10 commandments?
This question presumes that there are "other
gods". There is one God by many names. I have
worshiped with four religions in one month, and
the feeling was the same. All are striving for
greater connection with the same universal force.
Robert Davidovici - a world famous violinist.
Why are Jews not
Jews and Hindus are alike in that regard. The
general thought is that everyone has their own
path. Why would you want to change yours? Most
Jews just aim to live a good life by the
principles in which they were raised. The majority
of the Jewish religion is really a manual on how
to live a good life.
However, if you want to know more, there are reams
and reams of books on Judaism and Jewish thought.
All of these are available in many bookstores and
online. Choose your favorite subject.
In response to "our" God being "famous"... just a
sec... need to stop laughing. The whole concept is
something that doesn't occur to a Jew. There is
only one God, no matter what you choose to call
him. And one's belief in God doesn't make a bit of
difference in that truth. Notice that the
Commandment was to believe; not to force others to
believe as you do. All that is asked of a Jew is
to live a good life. (The whole concept that one
had to believe to be "saved" was a Christian
invention in 553 A.D.)
How would you describe
Islam in three words?
All religions similar.
Does the Big Bang
theory rule out Creation?
Why do people try to take things as conflicting?
According to what I've been taught, creation is
ongoing and evolutionary. Creation was not a
single event, but continues now in every moment
and in all of us. The proper term is Evolutionary
This obviously does not agree with a literal
interpretation of the Bible, but aligns with the
metaphorical and Kabbalistic interpretations. In
Judaism, there are four levels in one must
understand the Torah at to be a try biblical
scholar. The literal interpretation is only one of
the four, and is the most esoteric.
How do you become
By finding the darkest places within yourself, and
bringing "light" to those places. The dark places
are the areas we don't like about ourselves, don't
want to acknowledge, and the negative, stagnant
emotions that we all keep within. Bringing "light"
- forgiveness of others
- generosity (of time, money, and positive
- mental and emotional clarity
- mental and emotional freedom (not being stuck in
the same ruts, or too attached to a specific
- moderation and balance (not being too excessive
in any particular area of life)
- constancy of effort, dedication, and focus
There is no magic bullet. Although it is "easy",
those negative emotions and stagnant patterns hold
us back. It is a long and rewarding effort. The
nice part is that it is not a single event. The
efforts one makes show up continuously in
improvement of character and better interactions
These results can be achieved
through many paths of meditation, prayer, study,
and many life events. Any activity which
challenges your old beliefs or patterns is an
opportunity for progress forward, including having
a child, starting a company and many other life
changing events. Meditation, prayer, and
study help to get past the blockages we have. But
I know many growing people (some who have no other
practice) whose life is a meditation, striving
each day to be better than the next. That is the
path to illumination, and in truth, that is
Arnon leading a
- his passion, joy and greatest love.
What do the
enlightened understand that others just don't
I was taught that enlightenment has many facets,
many levels, and many manifestations. A person
could be more enlightened about baseball
statistics than me (most are), which means you
understand not only what a number means, but how
that applies in a player's career and a team's
chances for reaching the playoffs. But for me it's
just a number. In the same way, I understand the
ins and outs of computer systems and applications
design, but for others, it's all gibberish ...
they just want it to work. The same is true of
parenting, business management, and so on and so
on. There are any number of ways that others are
more enlightened than me, and vice versa. I can
always learn something unique from everyone I
Now I know this question was probably asked in a
"spiritual enlightenment" context. And the answer
is still the same. You might say that a great
person understands the inner workings of the
universe, but what does that mean? The universe is
multi-faceted and large and has such depth to
every law that there are many levels to that one
So, as my teacher said, if someone tells you they
are an enlightened being, you can ask them,
respectfully, "To what level?" and "In what
areas?" Even someone who is soul-aware or
even god-aware is aware to a certain extent and in
a certain domain. Even the great beings are called
the Buddha of Compassion and the Medicine Buddha
and so on. That's because they have areas of
The experience of enlightenment is unique and
indescribable (as my teacher said as an analogy,
"How do you describe an orgasm to someone who
hasn't had one?"). It is also hard to describe
because it is unique to every individual. There
are those who believe that all enlightenment is
the same, but that is a projection on other
people. In fact, my own experience of
enlightenment has grown over time. The first time
was like dipping a toe in an ocean. Over time the
experience grows to fill the ocean, and then the
one realizes that there is limitless space beyond
that ocean. This is an unsatisfactory description,
but I know it is true for others from years and
years of reading about and talking to others about
The ancients said "You know a tree by it's
fruits." What they meant was that you know an
enlightened person by the effect they have on the
people around them. By the good works they do for
those they know and those they don't. We know that
enlightenment is unique and individual because
each person grows and gives differently from their
experience of enlightenment. The "enlightened"
understand the depth of a subject to such an
extent that it seems magical or transcendent to
us, and there are limitless subjects to master.
Is there Absolute Truth?
mom and uncle
- Tamara, with her brother Chaim.
Yes, there is an Absolute Truth which contains all
other truths. To understand, one must realize that
truth has many levels and facets, and can look
different depending on how you look at it. And
lesser truths are encompassed by, but not
invalidated by, higher truths.
As an example, all of the following are true:
- 1+1=2 (base 10)
- 1+1=10 (binary)
- 1+1=11 (unary)
- 1+1=1 (boolean logic)
- 1+1=3 (Steven Covey synergy)
- 1+1 = a family
They are all facets of the same Absolute Truth,
looked at from different frames of reference. All
are true, and yet all are different, and yet all
are connected into one singular Absolute Truth.
In spiritual or religious circles, the following
are all true:
- Service is the path to God
- Love is the path to God
- Understanding is the path to God
- Jesus is the path to God
- Dedication is the path to God
- Ceremony or ritual is the path to God
- The ego is the path to God
- The monad is the path to God
- The Higher Soul is the path to God
- Harmony is the path to God
- Conflict is the path to God
- Sacrifice is the path to God
- Suffering is the path to God
- Study is the path to God
- Prayer is the path to God
- Letting go is the path to God
- There is no path to God because we are God
Some people only accept one of these
truths, but all are true, and are subsumed by the
greater truth that "There are many paths to God".
This does not invalidate the truth of the people
who say "There is only one path to God", because
that IS TRUE for that person. There is yet a
higher truth that encompasses all that were stated
before that "All paths to God are one." And ALL of
these statements are simply reflections on the
Absolute Truth of God.
June/July 2011 - Thoughts on
"With nothing else to do or place to be, have
you just been aware of the sensations of the
sun, wind and ground? Letting go in meditation
is exactly the same except that the awareness
is on inner senses rather than outer senses.
"Just be aware and let go.""
"How does one "let go" in meditation? No
answer I ever got before I experienced it
myself was satisfactory. However, the other
day, after a picnic, I had an inspiration for
explaining it! Have you ever laid on the grass
in a park (or on a beach) and just relaxed?"
What is the craziest
thing you have ever said (or done) at an
interview and still got the job?
When the interviewer asked me about certain
technologies, I told him that I didn't know them,
and asked him about them. He was talking almost
the entire interview. I got the job.
What's the greatest
experience you've had when your flight was
I had never flown business class before. Coming
back from the Philippines to Portland, OR, I had a
4 hour layover in Taiwan and another one in San
Francisco ... I was up for a very broken night. I
decided to pay $35 to go to my airline's lounge,
which gives comfortable seating, WiFi, and a large
buffet of food. For four hours, it was worth it.
About one hour in (after already having a great
dinner), they asked me if they could change my
flight. I would be in Taiwan for 8 hours, then
jump flights in Seattle, and take a hopper to
Portland. They gave me access you a recliner chair
in a private room (so now I got 7 hours of sleep),
and upgraded me to business class.
For those of you who have never experienced
international business class, there were hot moist
towels all the time, so I felt refreshed (since I
was already well rested, I didn't need to sleep on
the flight). The seats recline all the way back
and there is no seat next to me. I got to pick my
movies/shows on the screen (that's becoming more
common these days). Food was first class quality.
Suffice it to say that my trip went from a
sleepless night to a dream vacation in itself. I
have a rule now that if my layover is more than 2
hours, I go to the airline's lounge. It probably
wouldn't be THIS good in the US (US first class is
worse than international business class), but the
amenities are worth it, and there are possible
on the Internet really real?
Relationships exist at multiple levels:
In college, I had a couple of internet (and
eventually phone) romantic relationships. Although
the physical is strongly missed, since it is not
there, the other levels are much more intense. The
bond feels stronger, much faster (maybe too fast)
than when the physical relationship is not there.
Since you were not specific to romantic
relationships, I work in an international company,
and have build strong mental-level relationships
with people whom I have never met. When the IM
turns green, that has the same effect as them
coming into the office. IMs feel like having a
conversation over the cube wall. I have built
quite good friendships with these people whom I
have never seen. Of course, the relationships get
stronger with those whom I am also on the phone
with 5 times a day.
And I have a depth of mental relationship with you
people on Quora, this knowledge/idea network, that
is completely different.
So, in my opinion, these are not
superficial. Only those who believe that
physical is the most important would say so.
Is it more selfish to
have children or to remain childless?
I had a friend once who said it was selfish to
want YOUR OWN child, when there are so many
children out there needing a loving parent. He
What are the
things/customs you do or follow without any
I'm a white guy and I don't write in or highlight
book pages, though I learned it in adulthood. It's
a gesture of respect to the knowledge in the book
and the author of the book. The same with pointing
feet towards the teacher of a class. Since I was a
kid, I never wrote in books for the same reason
(though I don't know where I learned that ...
everyone around me did).
May 28th 2013
INTELLIGENCE, STUPIDITY, EMOTION, THOUGHTS:
How much untapped brain
power exists in the world?
Since the explanation of the question refers to
mental power (not the physical computing capacity
of the brain), I will answer to that framing of
I have found that a lot of people are great at
focus, they just focus on the wrong that they
received 20 years or 20 minutes ago, rather than
focusing on the solution which would improve their
and others lives.
I have found that a lot of people understand
numbers and math, but apply it to baseball or
gambling or gaming, rather than economics and
saving for the up and down cycles in their lives.
I have found that a lot of people understand their
limits (whether their own or imposed by others),
but choose to stay within them (very precisely and
carefully in some cases), rather than regularly
making the effort to step beyond them. This is
also a use of mental power.
I have found that a lot of people apply their
mental power to understanding the people around
them, rather than math and science. This is just
as valid a use of mental power. My brother, for example, is a
social genius ... though I'm not faulting his
math and science.
I don't think that mental power is unused, but
rather misused (based on the speaker's
perception). When people are told they don't apply
themselves, that just means they are not applying
the mental power to what the speaker believes they
should. I have found that a lot of people make
choices in life that others don't agree with.
That being said, there are those who
can apply more of their mental power to positive,
rather than destructive (self-destructive or
externally destructive), endeavors. How many? 100%
of humanity. Every single one of us, even
the most positive, has some place we put mental
effort where it detracts from our lives. Every
single one of us has the capacity to improve our
lives every day through the proper application of
Is it possible to be
really smart in some ways and really stupid in
Geeks who read Quora tend to be intellectually
smart. Socially smart is another story ... or is
that just me :)
How can you tell if someone is
By the questions they ask.
Anyone can talk in depth about a subject they have
spent a lot of time on, but how many willingly
open their minds continuously to expand
further? They must question and then LISTEN
to the answer (I know many who question and then
Does being extremely
smart make you lonely?
Smarts do not make you lonely. Arrogance about how
smart you are is what drives people away and makes
you lonely. If you are really smart, you should
study what makes people like people more (e.g.
humility, joyfulness, talking to people at their
own level) and implement those practices.
How would you
The ability to question appropriately and LISTEN
to the answers (too many people question and just
Arnon and dear friend
1997 hiking the Santa Monica Mountains.
What can I do to
become more intelligent?
Throughout your day, don't take the easy route to
an answer. Need to add up some costs? Try to do it
in your head before pulling out the calculator.
Look up every word you read that you don't
understand, and work to understand the roots of
those words (your vocabulary will grow by leaps
and bounds). After an interaction with a person,
take some time to review it and consider what may
have been behind what was said and what you could
have added/changed in the conversation. When you
have a question, spend a few minutes thinking
through possible answers, before you jump on
Google or Quora. And when you read the answers,
try to think of other information that might not
have been included.
Every moment of every day is an opportunity to
sharpen your mind. Even if you don't have the time
every day to follow the excellent suggestions
given, you DO have time to think in your own life
more. At first it will be hard, but that means you
are exercising the mental muscle. Over time, you
will think faster and be more aware of things in
your day. You know you are doing it right when
your number of questions in a day is growing.
"Judge a person by their questions, rather than
their answers" - Voltaire (yes, I looked up that
quote before putting it here, and realized I had
it wrong before and the wrong person). Always be
Do intelligent people
tend to be unhappy? If so, why?
The technical term is "morbid introspection". We
always are good at less things than we are not
good at. We don't know more things than we
know. As we become more aware of our
"failings", it is easy to be burdened by the
weight of it. This is actually a bit of ego
thinking one has the ability or responsibility to
After one gets tired of beating oneself up over it
(I used to call it "mental self-flagellation"),
one begins to realize that one is not expected to
know everything and these "failings" are actually
opportunities to grow. Historically, those who are
the wisest are also the most humble, because the
road ahead gets LONGE - one realizes that what one
knows is but a drop in the bucket.
How should one
react to controversial opinions held by highly
Don't blindly believe what I say. Don't believe me
because others convince you of my words. Don't
believe anything you see, read, or hear from
others, whether of authority, religious teachers
or texts. Don't rely on logic alone, nor
speculation. Don't infer or be deceived by
Do not give up your authority and follow blindly
the will of others. This way will lead to only
Find out for yourself what is truth, what is real.
Discover that there are virtuous things and there
are non-virtuous things. Once you have discovered
for yourself give up the bad and embrace the good.
- The Buddha
If he would say that about his own words, what
more of the words of any other wise or intelligent
people. We must discriminate with regards to what
everyone tells us, no matter how highly we regard
what they say in certain subjects.
How can you tell whether
someone is wiser than you?
To answer this, one must first define a
I think the wisest are open to the largest set of
possibilities, including mine. So a wise one
will question intelligently and respectfully,
looking to learn the most. Then they will
share their opinion (as opinion, not fact) in the
best way for me to understand it. They might
say it in 100 different ways to 100 different
people, because what's important is the concept,
not how it's said.
Why is it important to be
smart rather than important to be good?
"Good" implies you have skill in the referred to
subject. "Smart" implies you can analyze the
subject and build more skill, becoming "good",
then "better", then "best". One who is smart can
usually also continually grow to master multiple
This implies that it's more
important to teach children passion in learning
and how to go about it, rather than rote learning.
It is more important to learn concepts than
details. Learning a multiplication table makes a
child "good" (from 1 to 20), but learning why one
wants to multiply and how it applies to the real
world ("If you want 5 of that toy and each is
$6.99, how much do you need?"), they will quickly
learn 1 through 20 and far beyond.
Many schools will teach the proper way to write a
letter first. Then have them write words and learn
spelling. Then sentences and so on, taking years
to get "good". My son's
school took the "smart" approach, and he wrote
a BOOK (literally, all the kids did) in the
first semester of kindergarten. Who cares
which order he writes a "b" in if it looks
like a "b". Who cares how he spells a word
initially, as long as it's understandable
("nise" vs. "nice" can be learned later).
Instead, he wrote a book about a fictional
character he made up. This
generates more passion to write and read, where
those spellings will be corrected naturally.
Note: the teachers do correct spelling
occasionally, but only on about one writing sample
in ten ... to keep the momentum in the right
In evaluating a new
acquaintance, what is the best way to
distinguish mental laziness from general
Find your passion, do
what makes you happy,
and never stop learning!
The two are functionally the same in my opinion.
Assuming you are looking to hire, don't.
That being said, people who are intelligent must
have some place to exercise that intelligence.
It's like a muscle - if they don't use it, they
ARE generally stupid. Therefore, finding out if
someone is intelligent requires finding those
areas in which they use that muscle. In those
areas, they would be enthused and coherent.
I would ask that person what they were interested
in and have a discussion about that subject. If
they show deep thought and clear understanding of
the subject, it means they have intelligence in
subjects where they choose to exercise it.
Now, if you want them to exercise it in another
subject, you are going to have to find a way to
motivate them to be enthusiastic about that
Do intelligent lazy
people achieve more in life than intelligent
I tell people that I'm good because I'm lazy.
Rather than trying to power through in the most
obvious path, I sit back for a bit to think if
there is a more efficient path to what needs to be
achieved. I regularly get the same results in one
half to one tenth the time.
Let me give some specific examples in software
1) Testing is boring, long, and a lot of effort.
So I have learned to test in my head. As I'm
coding, I'm running through potential flows of the
system, and I correct problems before they would
ever be head scratchers in testing. It doesn't
catch everything, but it reduces testing and
searching time significantly.
2) Because I have the ability to have the whole
system in my head, I can notice where something is
becoming (or will become) repetitive and code a
class which takes multiple instances into account.
3) I think ahead to what the logical next steps of
the system are in the next 6-12 months, and code
those flexibilities into the system. It might take
an extra half an hour right now, but it saves
hours when marketing/executives ask for it and I
4) When talking to a client, I'm
designing the system in my head down to quite a
bit of detail. Many times, I have told them what
won't work (for the system or for user
interaction) right in the first hour or two of
talking to them about requirements. These changes,
made halfway into development (or even worse, at
user testing), would take much more effort.
Sometimes, alternative ideas I have come up with
at these meetings have become the centerpiece of
the site, rather than what the client thought they
Applying extra mental leverage up front allows me
to save a lot of time in the end, and increases
Cases in point:
a) For a performance management system, my
colleagues were proposing (and coding) a 40 table
data structure. I proposed an alternative with
three tables, one being a hierarchy linking table.
This new structure had MUCH more expressive power,
and MUCH more flexibility. It allowed the
business owners to change the structure of
measurements and their meanings on the fly,
literally, and also differently per business unit,
where the other structure would have been locked
in place (we gave them administration screens to
change the structure and calculations). It also
allowed both the data warehousing code (PL/SQL
which rolled up and down the hierarchy doing
calculations) and the database linking code, and
the Java code working on the display to be MUCH
b) Using the principles above, I was able to do a
complete restructuring of a large code base for a
major site (moving to Hibernate, Spring, and a
layered architecture) in two weeks because I was
able to test much of it in my head. I was able to
change 20-40 classes a day, running tests for
everything I had done at the end of the week (or
the end of a module). Those who would have been
testing each step would have taken two to three
months (I know because I have seen it done).
This does not work for all things! Being
efficient with my wife DOES NOT WORK!
She sees it as cold and distant. She
also wants to hear the steps in my thinking,
not the jumps that I make. The only thing that
laziness buys me at home is that I realize
it's more effective to hire someone to clean
than do it myself ... and I still get it from
my wife if I don't make SOME effort cleaning
the dishes or after the kids. Perceived
effort is important sometimes here. We
had to interview 5 location, 5 bands, etc.
etc. for all of our wedding stuff, even though
we both knew the first or second was the one
we were going with.
myself, Gina, and Rog, climbed a mountain in 1997
on my birthday - what a happy, beautiful
afternoon. Sixteen years later, in 2013 on my
birthday, i was in an Oregon hospital visiting
Arnon, battling to save his life.
thoughtful people happier or less happy than
It depends on the focus of one's thoughts.
If one focuses on their internal weaknesses and
the failings in the world, they take themselves
down a vicious circle. The technical term for
constant thought on one's weaknesses is "morbid
introspection" (I used to call it "mental
self-flagellation"). We always are good at less
things than we are not good at. We don't know more
things than we know. As we become more aware of
our "failings", it is easy to be burdened by the
weight of it. Add to that a negative view on
the external world, and a thoughtful person will
become more and more unhappy.
If one instead chooses to focus on their strengths
and the beauty and joy in the world, one begins to
realize that one's "failings" are actually
opportunities to grow. These ones take joy in the
challenge of life and every step along the way.
These are likely happier than the one who
thoughtlessly takes life as it is without
direction, purpose, or passion for growth (as in
the example hedonist given by Nan).
There are many variations in between
these. Ultimately, it is not one's
thoughtfulness that makes one happy or unhappy,
but where one focuses one's thought and the
interpretation of the evidence around them.
What is the
difference between consciousness and mind?
I think of meta-levels. The mind
thinks. Consciousness is thought ABOUT
thought, meaning thinking about our own thought
process and the effects on the world around
us. This is where self-awareness begins (the
child realizes he is separate from this thing he
waves in front of his face).
How does one achieve true
One doesn't. We are subjective
beings. We can adapt for that subjectivity,
but never eliminate it.
How valuable is Myers-Briggs
A few years ago, I think I came out as an
INTP. I just took the test again and came
out as an INTJ. After reading Paul King's answer,
I read both of the descriptions, and both could
describe me at different times. Whether I exercise
one or the other is really situational or based on
my confidence or interest at the time. Very
How do I get over
"analysis paralysis"? I know what I want to
accomplish, but I spent too much time thinking
and not doing.
Take the first step. Once you are moving in a
direction, you will learn more about that
direction, and can re-adjust. As others have
said, in every step, in any direction, is growth
... even if the only growth is having overcome the
fear to take that step.
Arnon 23 yrs
old, out on the town having fun!
Horses: Do horses
celebrate New Year's?
Is there a foolproof way to
tell identical twins apart?
Pierce an ear for one of the children ;)
Is black a color?
My sons use a black crayon ...
Does God have feet?
If God is everywhere and nothing is outside of
God, then God has at least 7 billion pairs of
human feet and innumerable animal feet, table
feet, chair feet and so on.
Arnon, his wife, Gina and her husband.
What does it feel like for
a long-time vegetarian to discover they've
accidentally consumed meat?
I was recently served chicken soup instead of the
vegetable soup I ordered. It was a dark dinner
theater, so I didn't notice and just scooped it into
my mouth. I noticed the taste was strange, and
as I chewed I noticed that the texture was more
meaty than expected. I looked at the next spoonful
in the dim light to make sure I wasn't fooling
myself with a unique vegetable (it's happened
before, but more often with fake meats or
burgers). Vegetarians need to pay close
attention with soups because many have meat base,
but this had actual chicken in it. After that,
I took it back and got what I ordered.
I didn't have any of the emotions others have
stated. It was just a mistake. I was
taught long ago, "What goes into your mouth may
dirty your body, but what comes out of your mouth
can dirty your soul." What one eats comes out in a
few hours or a day ... what one says affects their
character. When something like this happens, if one
gets angry and especially says negative things to
the waiter, they may as well have just eaten the
meat. It would have had less negative effect on
Should I feel
sad while eating animals?
No. Enjoy the food you chose to eat. I say this as
a vegetarian. But that's my choice, and have no
issue with those who make other choices.
How could it be argued
that imagination is more valuable than
Imagination creates hypotheses. Knowledge is the
result of testing those hypotheses.
Do the same laws of
physics apply everywhere in the cosmos?
To be honest, we don't know. We assume so and test
those hypotheses through telescopes, but there may
be exceptions to the rules.
Assuming Moore's law will
be correct for the next 100 years. How long do
we have before artificial intelligence takes
over the planet?
What if there are
phenomena possible in this Universe, in which
one needs to believe first, in order to
understand/observe rather than
understand/observe in order to believe?
As I was reading through these answers, it
occurred to me that observation bias plays a big
role here. Some people can have the truth put
right in their face, but will not see it. It
always comes back to whether or not someone
accepts (believes) the axioms on which logic is
based, and the evidence which leads to
Some other historical and modern cases which
everyone believes in now:
a) Global Climate Change ... only
those who accepted the evidence ("believed") could
see the trend.
b) The earth goes around the sun (people didn't
believe it even when evidence was given ... until
c) The earth is round (though I've seen other
questions on Quora that say people back then
weren't as disbelieving as popular stores say).
Additionally, there is what one could call
perception bias (or "I'll believe it when I see
it"). It is fair to say that that which we can
cannot perceive is MUCH more than what we can
perceive. Mankind has built tools to detect things
outside of our perception and translate them to
perceivable signals (microscopes, x-ray detectors,
etc). However we have just begun to build these
detectors. One must have a hypothesis and believe
in such hypothesis to even conceive of building
such a detector.
Lastly, I had another thought (which one could
call mass belief effects): If enough people
believe that stock X will go up, you will see it.
What did Nietzsche mean
when he said "if you stare into the abyss, the
abyss stares back at you"?
Notice he said "stare" or "gaze long", not just
look into the abyss. As you think deeply
(about anything), that thought changes you.
What's the insight inside
"the truth will set you free"?
It is the process of thinking about what is true
that allows you to escape delusions. Thinking
deeply takes effort. The reason that they are
called "mass delusions" is that the masses are
mentally lazy, and will accept the truth that is
most convenient, even if it does not serve them.
"The truth will set you free" is about the
process, not the end goal.
What are some
theoretically possible ways to achieve faster
than light communication?
Arnon is the
blond on the left with the red heart.
He inherited his super intelligence from
his parents and grand-parents.
As a top high school
student, how can I deal with depression and
frustration stemming from the fact that high
school has largely been an unenjoyable waste
of time for me?
Just one additional note: your adult life does not
necessarily have to be mindless work. I
noticed a lot of people saying that. Some of it
may be, but if you do what you enjoy, most of it
is enjoyable and mentally stimulating.
I agree with what many said about taking the time
to do additional work. Don't feel trapped; feel
happy that you have time to study what you
love. My entire adult life I have had
two simultaneous (and sometimes changing) careers,
each with multiple projects. I don't have too
many chances to get bored. In school, I
studied ahead, and asked what I thought were
I wish I had thought of what others stated here to
make the study of my fellow students a second
career ... What motivates them? What are their
fears and joys? What are their strengths and
weaknesses? That study will be time well
spent and serve you well.
What data structures does
the human brain use?
This can be answered at many levels. Technically,
the brain stores information in the chemical and
electrical composition of the neuron and in it's
connections to other neurons.
But I choose to answer at a level that is more
practical to our daily lives. Sometime in high
school, I figured out how my mind organized
information. It puts related facts in folders
where my mind organized them into coherent
responses. These folders have connections to other
folders in related subjects or higher levels
(meta-levels) of the same subject.
When I realized this, I found that if I didn't
understand a subject, I could imagine a folder
with a title and just dump all the information in
there. At a certain point, once a critical mass of
information was in the folder, it would start to
self-organize and gel into understanding. To this
day, I still create a title first whenever I am
starting a project or trying to understand
something (I have
a big one I'm working on labelled "Happy
Wife"). The folder title doesn't
have to be "right"; it just needs to be
indicative. What is important is the folder.
I don't really know the structure inside the
folder, but that is probably the way it should be.
Initially I just pile things in there when I don't
understand. Eventually, I start to understand some
of the connections inside the folder. Then the
structure grows from there, sometimes splitting
into sub-folders as I understand the sub domains
It was only years later that I saw
studies that framed the mind structure in similar
ways. Now they have "mind maps" As a tool (I don't
use these but it's similar in some ways).
loved being in a classroom both as a teacher or
intelligent students benefit less from homework
than other students in any given class?
How about an answer from an intelligent student.
What qualifies me as an intelligent student?
* Graduated 10th in my class at a Magnet High
School for gifted children.
* 4.1 HS GPA (this school put an A grade at 4 and
an A+ at 4.33).
* 1470 SAT score (back when SATs went to 1600).
* 3.75 college GPA - Magna Cum Laude honors.
* Graduated college with 2 majors and 3 minors and
1.5 times the credits I needed to graduate.
I WANTED to learn more. When I was young, I would
take things apart to learn more about them. If I
hadn't been given homework, I would have
researched additional things. The homework helped
to guide my studies. My standard work in late
HS and college was to do the next day's reading so
that I could ask more intelligent questions in
class the next day. I noticed that knocking the
teacher off the standard teaching track gave all
of us more, because it also brought out more
passion from the teacher and showed their deep
understanding of the subject. I STILL learn
constantly. If I don't understand a word that I'm
reading, I look it up (rather than just let it
pass by) and I look at the roots of that word so
that I can see if I can apply it in other
contexts. There are a multitude of opportunities
to always be learning.
It is a fallacy to believe that a teacher can
teach 25+ students all at their individual level.
Homework brings more individuality into learning,
allowing students to learn at their own pace, and
review many times (which would disrupt the
class). Imagine having a student like me who
wanted all the extra stuff, and a student who is
struggling to understand the basics. One
teacher has a hard time serving both equally.
Homework allowed me to extend. I like some of
the current models (like is encouraged by Khan
Academy) where the rote teaching is given as
homework, and the teacher is more a coach than a
repeater of rote information year after year (I
don't mean to deride teachers here by any
have a significant impact on the child's ability and
dedication to learning, but I disagree that most
parents don't care. I believe that some parents don't
know where to start and don't have the time. I have two little ones now, and
my wife has been going through workbooks with each
of them since before they were three years old.
They consider it FUN, rather than a chore, because
that's how she makes it (thank God for my wife).
They are passionate about reading because my wife
makes it into a fun activity to do. I
would also add that the quality of teachers also has a
huge impact on how a student responds to learning (I
was lucky in this regards, and aim for my children to
be as well).
I currently have two simultaneous careers (plus two little ones) and
although I constantly learn on the job, I miss the
times when I could just pick up a book and learn more
about a subject. My reading list keeps growing, but
unfortunately, I don't make much impact on it on a
regular basis (thank God
for my wife being an encouraging, dedicated coach
with the children, because I don't have the time
to be there for them that much).
To put this in context, I graduated HS in 1992 and
college in 1997 (I took a year off to be an
entrepreneur). This was before 'No Child Left Behind'
and the focus on passing tests. I hear that the level
of homework has gotten excessive these days, but I
don't have direct experience to judge by.
Luckily, the administrator at the public school where
my children are going spends absolutely no time on the
standardized tests. He focuses on providing a high
standard of education, and encouraging the kids to
love learning. The kids take the tests and pass
at a very high rate. This is the #3 school in the
country - counting both public and private
schools. Again, thank
God for my wife for doing all the research to find
the best school :).
What are some
of the most useful online resources for
parents with young children?
It depends what you mean by young, but my kids
started using khanacademy.org at 3 yrs old.
June 2012 - The children:
"Feeling the love ... my youngest boy,
to win an argument with his older brother,
says "Dad said so, and Dad is right about
EVERYTHING!!!" I need to take him to my next
work meeting ... or discussion with my wife."
How much power does the
President of United States really have?
Anonymous had a great list for the powers he has,
but one man only has so much attention. So he
appoints people to lead these various
powers. The truth is only so much
intelligence and so many decisions would filter up
So although he has the final say and ultimate
responsibility, he doesn't actually exercise these
powers on a daily or even monthly
basis. There are many other people who
actually exercise and utilize these powers on his
So how much power is REALLY his and how much is
theirs? I guess that depends on his attention
at any given time. If they don't screw up, and
play the political game well, they can be
appointed across various Presidents, and thus the
power is really theirs.
Would US citizens be
served better if there were more members of
Congress has a hard enough time coming to a
consensus NOW! Adding more members would make
this harder. With more members, there would
be more opinions and amendments, bringing debate
to a crawl.
There is a certain size team in any organization
that is effective for getting things
done. Congress already breaks into committees
to do this, but then they bring decisions back to
500 other members who have no expertise in the
given subject. Not that I blame them; it's
not possible to know everything.
Proud father to be
What are the best
I've found that companies who have nationwide
offices seem to have people used to communicating on
the phone and online meeting software
regularly. Nationwide teams are part of the
way of life. I used to travel to a company office to
just sit on the phone all day. Now I sit at home and
no one (except those who I tell) know the
difference. And I don't know when my colleagues are
working from the office or home that day.
Are telephone calls an
inefficient mode of communication?
Most ways to look at this are subjective. But from a
cost perspective, depending on your plan, you
generally pay more for the data for Skype voice
calls than you do for standard mobile voice minutes.
What was daily life like
before the internet?
I used to have to watch TV (or record it) when the
cable company said!
Awesome Loren Slocum
and Tony Robbins.
Outstanding magic moments - the 1990's.
"How often do you get a huge new
understanding of something you learned 10-20
years ago? It helps having several geniuses as
teachers. Have one (or several) teachers whose
books you read or classes you take. Sometimes
it's like I have little copies of them in my
head, discussing and coming out with new pearls
"Last night I was talking with a friend who was
asking about how I deal with "difficult" people.
As I was forming the answer (not that I'm an
expert, but I have some experience), I realized
that I only used one need of what Tony taught as
SIX needs. That was something I learned 18 years
ago, and now I got a whole new level to the
teaching! A gift that keeps on giving!"
"I recommend reading and learning from Master
Choa Kok Sui and Tony Robbins. The beauty of
these genius teachers is that not only do they
have teachings that keep on giving, but they
also recommend other great teachers and books.
If you read, think, and put things together,
your life will continue to improve even years
AFTER you have read the books." Extracts from
Arnon's Facebook - Written May 2011
Oregon - Arnon crossed over around
July 23rd 1974 - December 21st 2013.
Checklist for cancer
'Bear' has begun a new journey
but all i have to do is close my eyes and
i see his beautiful smile and i feel his
his illness, i researched, wrote and added
two new pages to guide cancer patients, and
their families, towards health and recovery:
- alternative vs
IS cancer - understand it and heal.
IS A WAKE-UP CALL TO LET
DETOXIFICATION OF THE BODY AND MIND IS
Until we meet again ...
To honor Arnon's memory, his
family and friends have chosen to give
donations in his name to: Israel
Children's Cancer Foundation - a non-profit
organization - www.israelcancer.org
This charity was decided
on for these reasons:
Arnon was born in Israel, he lives on thru his
two little boys, he loved to tithe
and give to others, it's non-profit, and
because cancer took his life.