A Conversation With Arnon.
A gentle, intelligent,
sensitive soul who asked for nothing.
He preferred to give to others, both
financially and spiritually.
Arnon (pronounced with the emphasis on the second
syllable, not the first), was a man that was loved
and respected by many people, a man who became one
of my dearest friends in life that i can never
forget and that i miss deeply.
I first met him in the 90's in Hawaii, as a fellow
voluntary staff member with Anthony Robbins. Arnon
was a door guard, always smiling, socially shy, soft
spoken, a tall, cuddly teddy bear. He persistently
requested that i give him a smile and i consistently
refused. One morning over breakfast, he again
requested i smile. I again declined. Another staff
member then said to me, "Tracy, Arnon is giving you
a gift. Are you going to refuse it?" I of course
burst into smile and laughter, i understood, and the
rest is history. He captured my heart with his
beautiful smile, his gentle ways, his kind spirit,
his brilliant mind, and his endearing awkward social
Arnon was a student at Tulane University, New
Orleans from 1992 to 1997, and after graduation he
excitedly called to tell me he was moving to Los
Angeles. I got to watch Arnon grow and develop. He
found his first serious girlfriend (he was a late
bloomer), began his career in computer technology,
and made new friends as he started his life as a
university graduate stepping out onto the world
1997 New Years Eve,
Studio City, CA - Arnon and myself.
We had many happy and fun times together both in Los
Angeles (with friend Gina), and staffing at Anthony
Robbins awesome seminars - in Hawaii, Anaheim, Palm
Springs and Dana Point - where i also met his mum
Tamara, his sister Maya, and his fun loving brother
Born into the Jewish faith Arnon was a confirmed
agnostic, but searched for something as yet
undefined but deep within himself. I recognized and
told him in Hawaii that i could feel he was a
healer, and that he had a strong, untapped spiritual
energy that was waiting to be unleashed. I urged him
to look within, find the key and unlock this gift
for himself and the world.
Very quickly, Arnon found the key, Pranic Healing.
He drank it in, feeding his body, mind and soul,
letting it light and guide his path ahead for 15yrs.
He studied with passion and with deep love,
embracing his new family of fellow Pranic healers,
and soon enough became a respected instructor,
teacher and healer. He had finally found 'home' on
earth within his soul.
Marriage and Children:
Arnon got married.
Always marching to the beat of his own drum, Arnon
met and married a beautiful Indian girl from the UK.
They had a Sikh-Jewish wedding in Santa Barbara,
followed by the birth of two wonderful boys - Alex
and Anand - and began a new life chapter in peaceful
Oregon. He became very successful financially -
providing what every family dreams of, stability and
security, allowing his wife to be a full time mum -
and was beloved by his Pranic healing community.
Tithing was very important to him and he frequently
gave to charity. My best friend Gina and i, were
very proud and happy for him.
Arnon's wife enjoys talking non-stop, only
pausing to laugh infectiously - especially about
our favourite subject Frank Spencer from 'Some
Mother's Do 'Ave 'Em" (it's a British thing),
and of course Arnon didn't get it ;)
For awhile, Arnon used to travel back and forth to
work, and also to teach Pranic healing classes. On
his long drives home he would call me late at night
to help his drive pass faster, and to keep him
awake. He loved to be mentally challenged and to
have stimulating conversations. We had many
wonderful talks about life, family, friends,
spirituality and philosophy. He had dreams and plans
and many things he wanted to accomplish. I cherish
those hours he shared with me.
He avoided disputes as he hated conflict, and so he
shut out mundane daily life and household duties. He
preferred privacy and to bury himself in his
complicated, technological computer world of
software development, or to be in the deep embrace
of his other world, Pranic healing and teaching. He
was never a social butterfly as he had attempted in
the 90's. He did not smoke (he hated it), drink
alcohol, do drugs, or eat meat.
Unfortunately, humans have to
interact with each other to spiritually grow and it
was inner conflict resulting from daily life that
became his downfall. Cancer is nearly always
triggered by either prolonged emotional stress
(financial burden or relationship conflict), or by a
shock/trauma event. Because this wickedly brilliant
mind was only comfortable expressing emotion through
his spiritual work and studies, personal stress and
conflict was repressed and ignored.
Note: We are all spiritual beings having a
human experience. Human ego's often get the upper
hand, causing us to be who we are not. In being who
we are not, we discover who we truly are. No-one is
immune to ego chaos, domination and the need to be
in control (of ourselves or another), but it is our
spirituality that will evolve if we rise above ego
driven drama, learn from it, forgive, and LET GO.
In the summer of
2012, the family took a wonderful
overdue vacation in Hawaii (i was
originally going to join them as a babysitter if
needed), and life seemed to be going well. Everyone
appeared happy and healthy.
I never made it up to Oregon to visit, until late in
Arnon's illness, in October 2013. He was first
diagnosed with Stage 4 Diffuse large B-cell
lymphoma (DLBCL), in the early springtime of
2013. I had not spoken to him for awhile since he
now worked from home. I
was very shocked as he was only 38 years old -
his children only 5 and 7yrs old.
In May, Arnon and i had a few conversations
about his diagnosis, his full intention to
immediately proceed with chemo, and we attempted to
explore his emotional issues. He was so very strong,
his stubbornness served him well, and he sailed
through the first months of orthodox medicine with
clarity and focus. The chemo seemingly had no effect
on his mind which remained grounded and sharp. He
even continued his computer work from his bed, and
he delighted in telling every nurse and doctor that
he met about Pranic healing.
Fall 2013 - We had
long conversations on the phone from his hospital
bed whilst he was strong enough,
and one day he took and sent me a beautiful photo
of the view from his bed, overlooking Portland,
Sadly, his wellness
was short lived and after a vacation climbing
mountains in Idaho with his father, his wife and two
children, Arnon's body took a turn for the worst
from which he never recovered. In July he was
diagnosed with Acute Lymphoblastic Leukemia
(ALL). The cancer was in his bone marrow
(the mind/body connection indicates previous deep
trauma, causing self de-evaluation), and later found
in his lungs (fear) and his sinus
(deep mental conflict). He had practically no immune
system, barely any white blood cells or platelets.
Arnon's internal emotional
trauma and stress remained unaddressed,
a sugar free, alkaline
diet was never adhered to, and although
he had access to Hemp Oil
he refused it because he didn't like the taste
(dosage size is a grain of rice). Actually nothing
was changed other than the introduction of more
drugs, more chemo, endless blood transfusions, pain
medication (synthetic heroin), fluids and
antibiotics - his body was flooded non-stop, day in
and day out. There was no respect, no dignity. Arnon
never stood a chance. The possibility for miracles
was an empty illusion. He battled with tremendous
bravery and courage through the following dark and
painful months, underwent two emergency surgeries on
his sinus cavities, and finally left his body on
I last saw Arnon on October 29th, the afternoon he
was being transferred to Seattle, Washington for
more drugs and experimental chemo. I finally got to
spend two wonderful hours with this special and
fragile soul, flooding his body with healing and
love. When i kissed him goodbye and whispered "I
love you", i felt in my heart i would never see him
again, i had no delusions, but part of me refused to
give up and refused to let go.
The following five weeks
seemed like five years as i continued to step up my
intense cancer research every waking moment, day in
and day out. When Arnon returned from his Seattle
clinical trials and went right back to Portland
hospital, my heart was beyond crushed by Arnon's
state of health which had taken a dramatically dark
turn from the Seattle chemotherapy. Iatrogenic
disease (deadly affect of chemotherapy poison),
became very apparent, invading his lungs, his sinus,
his lips and his mouth (he could barely eat or
talk). He had bacteria, fungus and
I knew with
absolutely no doubt, 2 weeks prior to Arnon's actual
passing, that he was going to leave the earth very
soon. Every day was hell for me, not knowing how he
was doing, not being able to be with him, to give
him love and healing. I asked his spirit guides to
take him asap, be it for his highest good, and to
remove him from his suffering. I then had a visit
from spirit that confirmed the time was close.
The night he finally crossed over, i was not told,
but i was up all night, very restless and i only
slept for a couple of hours as the sun came up.
Arnon's dad called me a few hours later and
confirmed what my soul already knew.
Arnon's nickname was Bear - my beloved Bear had
finally returned home.
I cannot express the depth of my love for this
gentle, kind, intelligent, peaceful soul. We have a
special soul bond that will never be broken and
within the first 3 days of his passing, i felt his
warmth and love around me, he comforted me and yes,
he made me smile once again.
May all who suffer be free from
May all those in fear find freedom from fear.
May all who grieve find freedom from grief.
May all living beings be free.
~ The Buddha
Even in his last few
months of life, Arnon continued to tithe to an
organization in the Philippines, helping to save
many lives devastated by Typhoon Haiyan.
The Davidovici family and friends have chosen a
non-profit children's cancer organization at the
bottom of this page to honor his memory.
A special mention goes to
Arnon's sister-in-law and
husband, two incredible human beings
that loved and looked after Arnon's two
little boys during his illness - their
focus, strength, sacrifice and courage
is beyond words.
Arnon and i both shared a thirst for knowledge and
exploration, and he leaves me with a gift of a
deeper understanding and insight regarding cancer. I
did not have the opportunity or the chance to help
Arnon become well, but i have the rest of my life to
continue helping others, and to guide them so they
may not experience the suffering he endured
needlessly. Choices in dealing with cancer, must be
researched and made without FEAR, which is
unfortunately the place most patients and families
come from. Blind faith and trust very rarely extends
or saves lives. Grief, fear and religious belief
muddies reality. DETOXIFICATION of the body and mind
is critical. RESEARCH is critical.
Personally i would have pulled Arnon from the
orthodox, barbaric, antiquated medical protocols
months ago, but that was not my right and not my
decision to make, so i stood by helplessly,
witnessing in silence the horror of toxic orthodox therapy
which is simply a science experiment of deadly drug
cocktails. I watched conventional medicine legally murder
him. He never stood a chance.
Arnon was adamant and strong willed regarding his
hasty, fear based, logical choice of conventional
oncology. He also chose to firmly adhere to Pranic
healing protocol. The point being, stubborn as
Taurus the bull (he was actually Cancer/Leo cusp), he
lived his life his way.
Myself, Gina, and my
son (who knew him since he was 11yrs old), will miss
him always and never forget him. Namaste.
The one and only miracle that can be said to
occur, was that i discovered Dr. Sam
Chachoua. I contacted Arnon's wife to tell
her i could connect with him but i received no
reply. It became too late, but it is not too
late for Dr. Sam who must be made known to the
world despite orthodox medicine denying his
existence - the $11 million lawsuit he won
against Cedars Sinai hospital is public record -
forcing him to continue his work and research in
hiding in Mexico.
Dr. Sam Chachoua -
A brilliant, compassionate, Australian born,
Jewish medical genius of Egyptian ancestry
Dr.Sam's Induced Remission Therapy (IRT)
works, and it must become a recognized cancer
protocol, demanded as such by all of us. Then and
only then, will lives be saved by this new
technology against AIDS, cancer, heart disease and
other terminal illnesses. Agonizing torture,
suffering and what amounts to legalized murder must
end. Dr. Sam graduated from medical school at only
18 yrs of age, after he watched his own father die
of bone cancer multiple myeloma, which is
the reason he has dedicated his life to saving
others from the same fate.
Become acquainted with Dr. Sam, and what NBC News
called in August 2000 "THE MOST EFFECTIVE THERAPY
AGAINST CANCER AND AIDS IN HISTORY." -
Ginny beat cancer by loving herself, forgiveness,
and the healing powers of Chi-Lel Qigong.
NEVER underestimate the incredible regenerative
powers of the mind and the body!
Here follows a conversation of sorts, with Arnon. He
belonged to a group on the internet called Quora, a
question and answer website. His intelligence, love,
spirituality and humor shines through, as does his
simplistic, grounded, and non-judgemental approach
to life. Some of the questions are obviously ironic
Conversation With Arnon.
What are the best ways to
start a New Year?
Give to others. As you give, so shall you
How has having a biblical
first name made an impact on your life?
Arnon is actually a biblical river. I've been
told it means "Joy through dancing and singing".
However, except for the difficulty in pronunciation,
it really hasn't had much effect.
How did you pick up your
I used to write my name in regular print as a
signature. I got tired of people saying "No!
You're SIGNATURE goes there!" It happened more
time than I can count... "That IS my
signature!" So after a few years of that, I
started making it messier. Now its just big A
and big D with wavy line after each.
If life had to be defined
in one word what would that word be?
School OR Lessons.
Does free will exist?
According to Theosophy (and many other spiritual
schools), we are born into physical existence to
learn certain lessons. Those lessons are based
on certain karma (or the causality that others have
mentioned). Those target lessons and an individual's
karma determine a "destiny" for that life.
Within that destiny, we have certain free will
whether to go the path of learning the lessons or
not. If we avoid our destiny, life gets harder;
there is more resistance when we get off the path.
However, if we learn our lessons faster (thus
"exceeding" our causes), we have MORE freedom to
move to greater lessons and greater works. The
wisest among us have the most free will; of course,
those people choose to align their free will with
the greater good.
What are the most
underrated life skills?
Peace, calmness and rational thought in the face of
Many people throw all rationality out the door under
pressure or stress, and make hasty, emotional, or
capitulating decisions. Meditation, mental
exercises, and mental scenario practice can help.
Pranic healing - October 2012.
career path, is money or role more important?
Learning is most important. If you learn, the
roles and the money will grow. When you
interview, if you can tell a story of what you
learned from your previous jobs and how you overcame
a previous challenge, it goes a long way to telling
them how you will act in their company. When
they ask you where you see yourself in 5 years, a
good stock answer is "Learning as much as I can and
bringing value from that learning to the company I
am working for."
Personally, I prefer any job that gives me many
opportunities to learn over money and role. Money
comes in a close second, but if I'm earning a lot of
money in a rote, repetitive job, my quality of life
would suffer. Role only matters to me in the
breadth of learning it allows me to have (lower jobs
have more limited scope and ability to look into
other projects) and the influence to get my ideas
out into a company. Role is a distant third (or
fourth or fifth... I'd have to think about what
others might be in there).
Is emotion the slave to reason or vice
are different and equal. The question is
whether the person is slave to the emotion or
the reason at any given time.
As an example, should love (an emotion) rule
over our reason? In some cases yes, in some no.
It's reasonable to tell a person everything that
is wrong about them, so they can fix it, but is
it loving? Actually, it could be a loving act
(telling someone something they can correct) in
small doses, if the person is open to that
input. The question is whether the person
decides do do the loving thing or reasonable
thing (or both).
Well, then, how does the person decide? Are they
driven by their passion? Are they driven by
compassion? Are they driven by the logical
thinking out of consequences? Are they driven by
some knowledge of what is for the greatest good
of this person?
The person is the key factor here. Their
decisions improve as they improve their
character. That doesn't mean they are more
logically driven or more emotionally driven, but
by the higher forms of both (e.g. moving from
passion to compassion). Logic and emotion are
two inputs, both of which we must use to make
our life decisions.
Alternative interpretation: The charioteer is
the soul. The horses are intellect and emotion.
The soul has to keep both on track to go where
he wants to go. If one lets intellect rule with
no heart, the person is ruthless. If one lets
emotion rule, one the person chases desires
without considering consequences. The soul keeps
these on track, and balanced, to target one in a
Many people try to make emotion a form of
reason. I disagree with that assertion.
What are good ways to have
the perfect life?
Enjoy what you have and always strive for more.
If you don't enjoy and appreciate with what you
have, you will never feel peace. You will never
feel settled. The day that I first said, "If my
life stayed the same, it would be a great life", I
felt this feeling. I called it "satisfaction".
But we are also striving beings; we need a mission,
a goal, in life (On that same day, I called this
"ambition"). Those who retire with no aims are
dead in a few years. Strive to improve what you
have, your conditions, yourself, to better than what
they are even though they are great already.
If there is no improvement you desire in your own
life or in your own character, improve the lives of
those around you, and eventually, those you don't
Remember, life has changes. It has it's ups and
downs. You can't guarantee everything will be
as it is for the rest of your life. But if you
have ambition beyond the satisfaction, a perfect
life is easier to have. For example, if you
strive to have twice the income you really satisfied
with, and an economic change happens that halves
your income, satisfaction still continues. This
is a superficial example, but can be applied in all
areas of life.
What do people miss about
Nothing. Life just continues to get better and
How is today different from
What are quintessential
My work provided laptop, just had Outlook go down.
Now my company pays me $X to waste time talking to
these darn IT guys from India (getting paid
$X/10). Since I'm working from home, I waste my
time watching online TV on my home computer, while
the IT guy worked on my computer remotely (so I
don't even have to guide him). It took that guy
TWO WHOLE HOURS to get it done so I couldn't get any
REAL work done today. My day sucked!
And now a couple from my
kids that actually happened today:
1) "Dad! This burrito (with fresh healthy
ingredients just made by their mom) isn't as
good as the Taco Bell ones!"
2) The other one ... crying - "Dad, I hate you.
You only gave me ONE cookie!"
3) New one ... not exactly a problem, but
definitely first world: Upon seeing me open my
car door with a key, rather than the wireless
fob, for the first time, my son says "Wow, Dad!
That's cool! I didn't know you could do that!"
do some white guys like black girls?
Arnon had an
Interfaith marriage - Sikh and Jew.
I'm a white guy who married an Indian
girl. That she was Indian didn't even factor
into the equation.
What is it like being tall?
Although I agree with the other things that have
been said, I have to say that being tall FEELS
normal! It's normal to see over everyone's head and
reach things they can't. It's normal for almost
everyone to look up at me (physically), and actually
a little weird spending time with guys who I have to
look up to (physically -- there are plenty I look up
It's normal for my wife to
be 10.5 inches shorter than me, and to adjust
for that when hugging or kissing. It's normal,
but annoying, to not fit into the drivers seat
after she drives the car.
Basically, because it's always been this way, I
don't think about it in a normal day until someone
like you calls my attention to it.
What are the wisest quotes
you've ever heard or read?
Wisdom implies time, process, and lots of dumb
Assuming God (any god you
like) is real, what would you ask them/it?
Strength to overcome my weaknesses. Guidance to
know the best way forward. Patience with myself
as I continue to struggle.
Why should I desire to live
as long as possible?
When I decide to leave this earth at the ripe old
age of 263, I will have enjoyed:
1) Seeing my 8th generation of descendants excel
because they will have had Old Arnon to guide them
with his wisdom.
2) After 100 years of compounded investment growth,
I will have unbelievable amounts of money to spend
(probably on all my
great-great-great-great grandkids, and of
course, my wife).
3) Peace on earth (and the remote outer colonies)
created through the United World Netizens (aka UWN,
aka Triple UN).
4) Taken a step through the Infinite Probability
Portal over to visit Earth 2, Terra 5, and Andromeda
5) Taking a weekend trip with my
wife to the asteroid belt (with
the requisite zero G drinks at Solar Sailor's Pub)
6) Learning 100 languages (and they are all
accessible on my brain dock which has an Solid
Quantum Yotta Drive with the latest 364 Yotta
capacity with enhanced research and analysis
7) My Phone/Pad/TV will have a perpetual energy core
(1000 year warranty) with a variable screen size, of
course, from 1 inch square wristwatch to 20X40 ft
movie screen on demand. It will allow me to stream
any video in the universe (the latest Supernova in
Gamma Quadrant was hot in the last year), including
all the memories from the last 100 years in Super
eXtra Hexa Definition.
8) Having 10^13 points on Quora ;) Just
kidding ... Actually the enjoyable part would be
watching Quora finally decide if God exists or not,
and whether free will exists or not.
9) I will finally understand women
(although that took 262 years!).
Why do most people view
death so negatively?
I don't believe this is the only life we have, yet I
want it to last as long as possible. I have a
lot to do in this life before I take a "vacation".
I have had a strange experiment, when I tell people
that I want to live until 263 years old. Many
people ask "Why would you want to live that
long?" My response: "Really?!?!? Is
your life that bad? Why would you NOT want to
live that long?"
If you died today, would
you die happy?
Satisfaction and ambition.
A few years ago I came to a realization that I was
content with the way my life was going. I would
be satisfied if everything continued on the same
path for the rest of my life. It was (is) a
very freeing and relaxing feeling.
However, at the same time, I knew I could do
better. I wanted more. This ambition has
continued to drive me to new heights, happy the
whole way that this life is great and is on the
right path. That's not to say I don't have stress
and strife, but it's part of the process of the life
I choose. If I stayed in the life I am
satisfied with, my ambitious side wouldn't be happy.
So my answer is yes and no. I would be happy
about my life, but I would not feel complete. Plus I have young kids.
Does God punish souls at
the final judgment day?
According to my studies (and specifically
Theosophy), the real "punishment" is by the person
himself realizing what he or she has done. At
the end of a life, the person is led through a
review of his or her life, with full awareness now,
rather than the limited awareness while in the
body. The person gets to experience joy for
things not previously noticed, and also experiences
pain and regret for negative actions done. The
purpose, however, is not to punish, but to
learn. Through this review, the person learns
and grows and resolves to change behavior in the
next life. I would expect that "final
judgment", whatever that is, would be equivalent.
COMPLIMENTARY AND ALTERNATIVE MEDICINE:
As readers of this extensive website can attest, i
have dedicated my life to alternative healing,
specializing in cancer research and therapy for
several years now. Arnon's immediate choice of
healing was orthodox medicine. He held the firm
belief (ironically made obvious below, written in
2011), that Pranic healing and chemo, would save his
life. I respected his choice,
regardless that i did not hold the same belief.
His wife purchased a Far Infrared Hothouse Dome
(heat therapy - hyperthermia
- is used extensively in Europe and Japan as a
cancer therapy), but it was far, far too late ...
three days after it arrived, Arnon passed on.
Why don't people use
alternative medicine more often (e.g., herbal,
acupuncture, meditation, energy healing)?
I value western medicine and its skills and
improvement in our life, but there are gaps in
knowledge that are still addressed by ancient
knowledge and skills. So-called "alternative"
techniques are the conventional medicine in other
countries. The point is to use the right tool
for the right problem.
These practices have grown in the west due to the
inability of western medicine to solve many chronic
issues. Unfortunately, as has been stated,
many charlatans have also stepped up with "snake
oils." One reason it's not used more often is
that people have a tendency to listen to naysayers
(some of whom have been taken in by charlatans)
rather than investigating for themselves with people
who actually have experience with these
practices. Since many comments have been
related to the efficacy of so-called "alternative
medicine," let's talk about that.
From personal experience, chiropractic has healed
TMJ problems for me and addressed back pains that
result from my sedentary life sitting in front of a
computer. I have multiple experiences with
Pranic Healing, but one drastic example is when I
got a pretty bad burn from picking up a hot iron
(from the iron side ... ouch). The pain was
gone in FIVE MINUTES (I've been told it takes 2-3
days with normal procedures) through the immediate
use of Pranic Healing.
My son was running around a
coffee table, slipped and gashed the side of his
eye. At that moment, with the amount of
blood gushing out, we couldn't tell if it was
the eye itself or the side. We were
freaking out and about to call 911, but just two
minutes of work the gushing blood reduced enough
that we could see it was just the side of the
eye. Five minutes after hitting his eye,
the bleeding stopped, and five minutes later the
swelling went away. By 15 minutes, he was
laughing and running around the living room
again (we moved the table into the corner). This
and many other normal childhood incidents are why I
call Pranic Healing "parental stress relief".
My day job is as a lead Technical Architect
(designing and building information systems and
applications, for those who don't know that title)
at a major communications company. I don't tend
to talk about this with people in that line of work,
but one time it came up in conversation. He
told me if ANYONE else had told him this stuff he
would not believe, but he had been working with me
for two years and he knew I was rational and thought
things through very well.
My examples above are relatively minor issues
because I tend to address our issues early. However,
I have had many clients with issues (like arthritis,
cancer, AIDS, and even things as simple as migraine
headaches) that medical science simply has not
satisfactorily addressed yet. The "yet" is
important, because I expect that someday they might.
One example case (which I have testimonials for),
the doctors had given the client 3 months to live,
as the chemotherapy was simply not working. His
normal response to chemo was to be out of commission
for a week. The first result (which in this
case we can only attribute to the Pranic Healing
done on the same day) was that he only felt the
chemo for the evening and was normal by the next
day. He started to work with me, changed his
diet, and tried several other processes. After two
months, the MRI found that the tumors were gone. He
has gone on to learn how to work on himself to
maintain his own health.
Now let's explore the part that really gets people:
the responsiveness to treatment depends both on the
specific situation of the client and the skill of
the healer. Many people point to this and say
"See! The results are psychosomatic," but the answer
is not so simple. The truth is that Western medicine
works differently on different people as well. Let's
take the case of cancer again (but we could as
easily take arthritis, AIDS, psychological issues,
or many other ailments). The treatment of cancer is
not as simple and straightforward as setting a bone.
There are many different treatments for cancer
(different chemical cocktails and radiation
treatments) and many different types of cancer. Even
with one type of cancer, the same western treatment
will have varying results in different patients. A
more skilled doctor with more experience will know
better what techniques will have the best results on
an individualized basis. In fact, there are books
and articles stating that those who get the best
results are those who are their own advocates. The
same is true of eastern healing techniques and
healers. Results will vary, so you must explore what
treatment is correct and adjust accordingly
So how do you find a good healer? Note that this
answer applies for both western doctors and eastern
doctors and healers of any type. Training and
a certificate are not enough ... we all know there
are many people (and doctors) with tons of
certifications who we wouldn't go anywhere near. The
key is to look at results. If you have a significant
issue, and need a lot of work, get testimonials,
talk to previous patients, review negative results,
question the methods, and other due diligence that
you would normally do when signing up for anything.
In this case, it's not just time and money invested,
but potentially your life. Make sure you have the
right doctor/healer for the job. Unfortunately, many
people just take the first opinion without doing the
additional due diligence. For less significant
issues, one can experiment more, but don't skip the
effort of validating what you are being told.
To sum up, no ailment has one and only one
solution.I find that results are best when multiple
healers/doctors work together. I have NEVER
told a client to change anything their doctor told
them, and like I stated earlier, I do my work along
with the chemotherapy or other treatment. A
broken bone must be set before we can accelerate the
process of healing the bone. I have had clients
ask me timidly if they can also meet with a
nutritionist or some other type of healer, and I
encourage them wholeheartedly. To reiterate,
use the right tool for the right problem.
It has been asked why much evidence for
"alternative" techniques seems anecdotal. I
recently had a conversation with a doctor who said
that even the evidence for dietary changes improving
health is anecdotal. The reason is that it's very
hard to have a controlled study of diet (and some of
these other techniques). Many of the studies
for these drugs and treatments are from people in
hospitals or in expensive labs. In these
places, diet and other factors can be somewhat
controlled. This is the scientific method;
comparing a controlled baseline to a different set
However, according to this doctor, people
self-reporting diet tend to be inaccurate or even
lie. Very hard to control. This is true
also of people who we see as healers for 1-3 hours
in a week. What are they doing the rest of the
FYI: What is Pranic 'healing'? A collective
hodge-podge of healing techniques and philosophy
taken from multiple global sources including
occultists, spiritual practitioners, Eastern healing
modalities, various religions, Hindu literature, and
yoga. Founder Filipino Choa Kok Sui, was a
successful business man and chemical engineer. Drawn
to esoteric science at an early age, he launched his
spiritual thesis named modern Pranic healing in
1987, but died of pneumonia twenty years later in
2007, age only 53 yrs.
Choa Kok Sui -
founder of Pranic 'healing'.
SPIRITUALITY - RELIGION -
What is the difference
between spirituality, religion, and church?
My mother used to say, "Religion divides.
Religion is a structure of belief and a set of
guidelines for how to live life or be a better
person. There are many different religions because
there are many types of people and different
cultures who have different philosophies. It is
appropriate and good for these people to have these
structures to guide them. The division comes in
where people forget that the fact that someone else
chooses another path does not make them wrong.
Spirituality in general focuses on unity and
open-mindedness. Everyone has their own individual
path of discovery, and each is good. Additionally,
"all paths lead to the same destination" ultimately.
Religion and spirituality can be practiced together
or separately. I know many devout religious people
who also acknowledge that their experience is
different and individual from their other
parishioners, but accept all practices. There are,
of course, religious people who focus on the form
and structure of the religion to the exclusion of
all others. That's simply where they are.
There are religious churches and spiritual churches.
Spiritual churches would be those like Science of
Mind, Center for Spiritual Living, and Unity
Churches (these are just some I know; I'm sure there
are plenty others). I've seen many of these churches
who even bring in the symbols from all the major
religions to be inclusive and acknowledge members of
their church who practice both.
one particular religion the one true religion?
No. All religions at their roots are both a
framework for belief AND a guideline for becoming a
better person. They were developed in different time
periods and regions to work for certain types of
people. Just like different people like different
forms of physical exercise, there are many forms of
"character exercise" or spiritual exercise. All
people are free to pick the belief system that works
for them and helps them move through life.
fundamental elements exist consistently and
coherently in every religion and every spiritual
Both The Law of Karma (or cause and effect) and The
Golden Rule are taught universally in all major
religions. Below are just some of the religious
references (you can find them in other religions as
The Law of Karma is basically all variations of : "As you give, so shall you
God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. --
Galatians 6:7 (Christian)
For with the same measure that ye mete, withal it
shall be measured to you again. -- Luke 6:38
Thou shalt receive requital and reward in just
return for whatsoever thou doest. -- Koran (Islam)
Just as a farmer plants a certain kind of seed and
gets a certain crop, so it is with good and bad
seeds. -- Mahabharata (Hindu)
So long as an evil deed has not karmically matured,
the fool thinks his deed to be sweet as honey; but
when his evil deed karmically matures, he falls into
untold misery. -- Dhammapada (Wisdom of Buddha)
The Golden Rule is all variations of "Do unto
others as you would have them do into you"
(yang or active version) and "Do not do
unto others as you would not have others do unto
you" (yin or passive version).
Do not do unto others what you do not want others to
do unto you. -- Confucius
As ye would that men should do to you, do ye also to
them likewise. -- Luke 6:31
This is the sum of all true righteousness: Deal with
others as thou wouldst thyself be dealth by. Do
nothing to thy neighbor which thou wouldst not have
him do to thee hereafter. -- Mahabharata
Whatever thou likest no for thine own self, for any
person else, too, like it not. -- Dhammapada
Noblest religion this -- that thou shouldst like for
others what thou likest for thyself and what thou
feelest painful for thyself, hold that as painful
for all others too. -- Koran
Is there any evidence for
Many people argue what constitutes evidence. Many
people say that if God was to appear right in front
of us, we wouldn't believe it was him. Well, here's
Excerpt from Master Choa Kok Sui, 'The Existence of
God is Self Evident', (followed by some additional
1. The existence of God is self-evident. It is
amazing that those who have eyes do not see.The
existence of a camera factory is self-evident by the
existence of the camera. The existence of God is
self-evident by the existence of the eye, which is
infinitely more complicated than a camera.
2. The existence of a computer factory is
self-evident by the existence of the computer. The
existence of God is self-evident by the existence of
the brain, which is infinitely more complex than the
most advanced computer.
7. A beautiful rose is made of only four physical
b. trace minerals
Only God can make something so complex, so
beautiful, with just these four physical
ingredients. Scientists, even if given trillions of
U.S. dollars, will not be able to produce a rose
with just these four physical ingredients.
8. The flowers, the fruits, the plants, and the
trees are produced with these four physical
ingredients. To produce chemicals you need chemical
factories, chemists and chemical engineers. Many of
the biochemicals in the flowers, in the fruits, in
the plants and in the trees cannot be reproduced by
the biochemists and the chemical engineers. Yet a
plant or a tree, which is not managed by biochemists
and chemical engineers and is much smaller than a
chemical factory, produces them... Nature is God's
factory. To see nature is to see the creation of
God. The existence of God is self-evident!
For several years, I made the mental efforts to
argue these points, especially #7. What about seeds?
DNA? Try going down that rabbit hole and see where
that takes you. Challenging these statements (and
many others in the book) has been intellectually and
spiritually stimulating, and I have not been able to
find a flaw in his logic. I invite you to try.
I was agnostic for the first part of my life. I
tell people that I have never believed in God. I
went from not believing there is a God to KNOWING
there is a God. Belief didn't enter into the
picture. It is self-evident physically,
intellectually, and spiritually.
God is omnipotent and knows what we will do
before he created us, how can we have free will?
brother and sister - Ilan and Maya.
His other sister Talia was a bone marrow match,
but she never got the chance.
You are discussing in four-dimensional space-time,
which includes only a single timeline. Current
physics postulates AT LEAST 11 dimensions.
Assume for a moment, that dimension number 5 is
choice. The choices we make would spread out
into at least a "time plane" or maybe even a "time
cube" (three dimensions of time). With this, we have
only covered six dimensions of time and space (and
there is much more beyond that). The theory
postulated above is at least as plausible as the
"all the higher dimensions are curled up in little
balls" theory. There is much more knowable than our
four dimensional minds can fathom.
Discussion of the scope of omniscience is a subject
for a different time, but let's stick with the fact
that within a given space (e.g. the universe), God
I believe I'm actually expanding the definition of
omniscience beyond what most people actually think
it is. There is never only one choice. All choices
are known and calculated (and possibly exist
simultaneously, though I'm not an expert in
Most people think of omnipotence and omniscience as
absolutes and in three or four dimensions. That's
what creates these supposed paradoxes. "If God
has the ability, it must be used" and "If God knows
everything, we have no free will". But this is a
higher-dimensional universe where there are multiple
possibilities of what we might do.
Omnipotence: He could stop us, just like I could
stop my child from falling the first time they go on
a bike. But I let my child fall and get back on the
bike again and again so that he builds his own
skills and confidence. There are a large number of
physical, emotional and mental skills that we all
need to gain.
Omniscience: I'm sure it's more complex than
this, but we could think of it as probabilities.
Omniscience is not knowing a single future; it is
knowing the space of all possible futures. The
future is in flux. You may have a 99% chance of
choosing chocolate, but there's always that
possibility that this time you might choose vanilla
with fruit and sprinkles. God may know our
propensities, but does not lock us into a specific
Most people think of omnipotence and omniscience as
absolutes and in three or four dimensions. That's
what creates these supposed paradoxes. "If God
has the ability, it must be used" and "If God knows
everything, we have no free will". But this is a
multi-dimensional universe where there are multiple
possibilities of what we might do. God may know our
propensities, but does not lock us into a specific
Omniscience is not knowing a single future; it is
knowing the space of all possible futures. The
future is in flux. You may have a 99% chance of
choosing chocolate, but there's always that
possibility that this time you might choose vanilla
with fruit and sprinkles.
We have free will because we choose the correct path
or the mistaken path (or one of the many in
between). God does not stop us from making those
choices, so our will is free.
Sure he knows ... just like I know my son will fall
the first time he tries to ride. I'm saying he
doesn't exercise his omnipotence to stop our
Is God a paradox?
I have seen this many times, and the assumption that
if he will not, he is not "all good" is where this
goes off track. Are people intended to act as
little children being guided at every turn? Or are
they intended to learn and grow and become
wise? I don't know about you, but "all good"
for me means that I consistently become a better
Wisdom implies time, process, and lots of dumb
mistakes. If God intends us to grow, he has to take
off the training wheels, and let us make mistakes.
Those mistakes will cause pain and "evil". But how
else would we become wise beings ourselves?
To throw in an analogy: A parent helps a child
ride a bike for the first time. The child falls and
hurts his knee and cries. The parent could have
avoided all the pain by keeping the training wheels
on, but a greater good was served by the child
learning to ride the bike himself. Of course,
the parent then encourages the child to get back on
and ride again. Now multiply this times every skill
in existence, physical, emotional, and mental, and
you can see the complexity of the situation.
Can God solve P=NP?
If one assumes that God is beyond time, does
polynomial time matter?
Do the majority of
intellectual people believe in religion?
The majority of intelligent people dissect
everything they believe in. So would an intelligent
person believe EVERY part of a religion without
question? Unlikely. After questioning, would an
intelligent person believe that the principles and
practices have value regardless of the stories'
basis in fact? Likely.
Most people are more intelligent than you think.
Take any religion or spiritual practice and five
people in that practice and you can uncover
differences in their belief systems. Some will
emphasize some parts and some others. In truth, even
those who "accept the Bible as the Word of God"
without question, will debate the meaning of those
words. So "belief in religion" is too general a
If you convert into
Judaism, and your father asks you to come
worship other gods with him, what should you do
according to the 10 commandments?
This question presumes that there are "other gods".
There is one God by many names. I have worshiped
with four religions in one month, and the feeling
was the same. All are striving for greater
connection with the same universal force.
Arnon's dad, Robert
Davidovici - a world famous violinist.
Why are Jews not
Jews and Hindus are alike in that regard. The
general thought is that everyone has their own path.
Why would you want to change yours? Most Jews just
aim to live a good life by the principles in which
they were raised. The majority of the Jewish
religion is really a manual on how to live a good
However, if you want to know more, there are reams
and reams of books on Judaism and Jewish thought.
All of these are available in many bookstores and
online. Choose your favorite subject.
In response to "our" God being "famous"... just a
sec... need to stop laughing. The whole concept is
something that doesn't occur to a Jew. There is only
one God, no matter what you choose to call him. And
one's belief in God doesn't make a bit of difference
in that truth. Notice that the Commandment was to
believe; not to force others to believe as you do.
All that is asked of a Jew is to live a good life.
(The whole concept that one had to believe to be
"saved" was a Christian invention in 553 A.D.)
How would you describe
Islam in three words?
All religions similar.
Does the Big Bang theory
rule out Creation?
Why do people try to take things as conflicting?
According to what I've been taught, creation is
ongoing and evolutionary. Creation was not a single
event, but continues now in every moment and in all
of us. The proper term is Evolutionary Creation.
This obviously does not agree with a literal
interpretation of the Bible, but aligns with the
metaphorical and Kabbalistic interpretations. In
Judaism, there are four levels in one must
understand the Torah at to be a try biblical
scholar. The literal interpretation is only one of
the four, and is the most esoteric.
How do you become
By finding the darkest places within yourself, and
bringing "light" to those places. The dark places
are the areas we don't like about ourselves, don't
want to acknowledge, and the negative, stagnant
emotions that we all keep within. Bringing "light"
- forgiveness of others
- generosity (of time, money, and positive emotion)
- mental and emotional clarity
- mental and emotional freedom (not being stuck in
the same ruts, or too attached to a specific belief
- moderation and balance (not being too excessive in
any particular area of life)
- constancy of effort, dedication, and focus
There is no magic bullet. Although it is "easy",
those negative emotions and stagnant patterns hold
us back. It is a long and rewarding effort. The nice
part is that it is not a single event. The efforts
one makes show up continuously in improvement of
character and better interactions with people.
These results can be achieved through many paths of
meditation, prayer, study, and many life events. Any
activity which challenges your old beliefs or
patterns is an opportunity for progress forward,
including having a child, starting a company and
many other life changing events. Meditation,
prayer, and study help to get past the blockages we
have. But I know many growing people (some who have
no other practice) whose life is a meditation,
striving each day to be better than the next. That
is the path to illumination, and in truth, that is
Arnon leading a
beautiful meditation - his passion, joy and
What do the enlightened
understand that others just don't get yet?
I was taught that enlightenment has many facets,
many levels, and many manifestations. A person could
be more enlightened about baseball statistics than
me (most are), which means you understand not only
what a number means, but how that applies in a
player's career and a team's chances for reaching
the playoffs. But for me it's just a number. In the
same way, I understand the ins and outs of computer
systems and applications design, but for others,
it's all gibberish ... they just want it to work.
The same is true of parenting, business management,
and so on and so on. There are any number of ways
that others are more enlightened than me, and vice
versa. I can always learn something unique from
everyone I meet.
Now I know this question was probably asked in a
"spiritual enlightenment" context. And the answer is
still the same. You might say that a great person
understands the inner workings of the universe, but
what does that mean? The universe is multi-faceted
and large and has such depth to every law that there
are many levels to that one law.
So, as my teacher said, if someone tells you they
are an enlightened being, you can ask them,
respectfully, "To what level?" and "In what
areas?" Even someone who is soul-aware or even
god-aware is aware to a certain extent and in a
certain domain. Even the great beings are called the
Buddha of Compassion and the Medicine Buddha and so
on. That's because they have areas of
The experience of enlightenment is unique and
indescribable (as my teacher said as an analogy,
"How do you describe an orgasm to someone who hasn't
had one?"). It is also hard to describe because it
is unique to every individual. There are those who
believe that all enlightenment is the same, but that
is a projection on other people. In fact, my own
experience of enlightenment has grown over time. The
first time was like dipping a toe in an ocean. Over
time the experience grows to fill the ocean, and
then the one realizes that there is limitless space
beyond that ocean. This is an unsatisfactory
description, but I know it is true for others from
years and years of reading about and talking to
others about their experiences.
The ancients said "You know a tree by it's fruits."
What they meant was that you know an enlightened
person by the effect they have on the people around
them. By the good works they do for those they know
and those they don't. We know that enlightenment is
unique and individual because each person grows and
gives differently from their experience of
enlightenment. The "enlightened" understand the
depth of a subject to such an extent that it seems
magical or transcendent to us, and there are
limitless subjects to master.
there Absolute Truth?
Arnon's devoted mom
and uncle - Tamara, with her brother Chaim.
Yes, there is an Absolute Truth which contains all
other truths. To understand, one must realize that
truth has many levels and facets, and can look
different depending on how you look at it. And
lesser truths are encompassed by, but not
invalidated by, higher truths.
As an example, all of the following are true:
- 1+1=2 (base 10)
- 1+1=10 (binary)
- 1+1=11 (unary)
- 1+1=1 (boolean logic)
- 1+1=3 (Steven Covey synergy)
- 1+1 = a family
They are all facets of the same Absolute Truth,
looked at from different frames of reference. All
are true, and yet all are different, and yet all are
connected into one singular Absolute Truth.
In spiritual or religious circles, the following are
- Service is the path to God
- Love is the path to God
- Understanding is the path to God
- Jesus is the path to God
- Dedication is the path to God
- Ceremony or ritual is the path to God
- The ego is the path to God
- The monad is the path to God
- The Higher Soul is the path to God
- Harmony is the path to God
- Conflict is the path to God
- Sacrifice is the path to God
- Suffering is the path to God
- Study is the path to God
- Prayer is the path to God
- Letting go is the path to God
- There is no path to God because we are God
Some people only accept one of these truths, but all
are true, and are subsumed by the greater truth that
"There are many paths to God". This does not
invalidate the truth of the people who say "There is
only one path to God", because that IS TRUE for that
person. There is yet a higher truth that encompasses
all that were stated before that "All paths to God
are one." And ALL of these statements are simply
reflections on the Absolute Truth of God.
Facebook June/July 2011 - Thoughts
"With nothing else to do or place to be, have
you just been aware of the sensations of the
sun, wind and ground? Letting go in meditation
is exactly the same except that the awareness is
on inner senses rather than outer senses. "Just
be aware and let go.""
"How does one "let go" in meditation? No
answer I ever got before I experienced it myself
was satisfactory. However, the other day, after
a picnic, I had an inspiration for explaining
it! Have you ever laid on the grass in a park
(or on a beach) and just relaxed?"
What is the craziest thing
you have ever said (or done) at an interview and
still got the job?
When the interviewer asked me about certain
technologies, I told him that I didn't know them,
and asked him about them. He was talking almost the
entire interview. I got the job.
What's the greatest
experience you've had when your flight was
I had never flown business class before. Coming back
from the Philippines to Portland, OR, I had a 4 hour
layover in Taiwan and another one in San Francisco
... I was up for a very broken night. I decided to
pay $35 to go to my airline's lounge, which gives
comfortable seating, WiFi, and a large buffet of
food. For four hours, it was worth it.
About one hour in (after already having a great
dinner), they asked me if they could change my
flight. I would be in Taiwan for 8 hours, then jump
flights in Seattle, and take a hopper to Portland.
They gave me access you a recliner chair in a
private room (so now I got 7 hours of sleep), and
upgraded me to business class.
For those of you who have never experienced
international business class, there were hot moist
towels all the time, so I felt refreshed (since I
was already well rested, I didn't need to sleep on
the flight). The seats recline all the way back and
there is no seat next to me. I got to pick my
movies/shows on the screen (that's becoming more
common these days). Food was first class quality.
Suffice it to say that my trip went from a sleepless
night to a dream vacation in itself. I have a rule
now that if my layover is more than 2 hours, I go to
the airline's lounge. It probably wouldn't be THIS
good in the US (US first class is worse than
international business class), but the amenities are
worth it, and there are possible upgrades.
Are relationships on the
Internet really real?
Relationships exist at multiple levels:
In college, I had a couple of internet (and
eventually phone) romantic relationships. Although
the physical is strongly missed, since it is not
there, the other levels are much more intense. The
bond feels stronger, much faster (maybe too fast)
than when the physical relationship is not there.
Since you were not specific to romantic
relationships, I work in an international company,
and have build strong mental-level relationships
with people whom I have never met. When the IM turns
green, that has the same effect as them coming into
the office. IMs feel like having a conversation over
the cube wall. I have built quite good friendships
with these people whom I have never seen. Of course,
the relationships get stronger with those whom I am
also on the phone with 5 times a day.
And I have a depth of mental relationship with you
people on Quora, this knowledge/idea network, that
is completely different.
So, in my opinion, these are not
superficial. Only those who believe that
physical is the most important would say so.
Is it more selfish to have
children or to remain childless?
I had a friend once who said it was selfish to want
YOUR OWN child, when there are so many children out
there needing a loving parent. He adopted.
What are the things/customs
you do or follow without any reason?
I'm a white guy and I don't write in or highlight
book pages, though I learned it in adulthood. It's a
gesture of respect to the knowledge in the book and
the author of the book. The same with pointing feet
towards the teacher of a class. Since I was a kid, I
never wrote in books for the same reason (though I
don't know where I learned that ... everyone around
May 28th 2013
THE MIND - INTELLIGENCE, STUPIDITY, EMOTION,
How much untapped brain
power exists in the world?
Since the explanation of the question refers to
mental power (not the physical computing capacity of
the brain), I will answer to that framing of the
I have found that a lot of people are great at
focus, they just focus on the wrong that they
received 20 years or 20 minutes ago, rather than
focusing on the solution which would improve their
and others lives.
I have found that a lot of people understand numbers
and math, but apply it to baseball or gambling or
gaming, rather than economics and saving for the up
and down cycles in their lives.
I have found that a lot of people understand their
limits (whether their own or imposed by others), but
choose to stay within them (very precisely and
carefully in some cases), rather than regularly
making the effort to step beyond them. This is also
a use of mental power.
I have found that a lot of people apply their mental
power to understanding the people around them,
rather than math and science. This is just as valid
a use of mental power. My
brother, for example, is a social genius ...
though I'm not faulting his math and science.
I don't think that mental power is unused, but
rather misused (based on the speaker's perception).
When people are told they don't apply themselves,
that just means they are not applying the mental
power to what the speaker believes they should. I
have found that a lot of people make choices in life
that others don't agree with.
That being said, there are those who can apply more
of their mental power to positive, rather than
destructive (self-destructive or externally
destructive), endeavors. How many? 100% of
humanity. Every single one of us, even the
most positive, has some place we put mental effort
where it detracts from our lives. Every single one
of us has the capacity to improve our lives every
day through the proper application of mental effort.
Is it possible to be really
smart in some ways and really stupid in some
Geeks who read Quora tend to be intellectually
smart. Socially smart is another story ... or is
that just me :)
can you tell if someone is smart?
By the questions they ask.
Anyone can talk in depth about a subject they have
spent a lot of time on, but how many willingly open
their minds continuously to expand
further? They must question and then LISTEN to
the answer (I know many who question and then keep
Does being extremely smart
make you lonely?
Smarts do not make you lonely. Arrogance about how
smart you are is what drives people away and makes
you lonely. If you are really smart, you should
study what makes people like people more (e.g.
humility, joyfulness, talking to people at their own
level) and implement those practices.
How would you define
The ability to question appropriately and LISTEN to
the answers (too many people question and just keep
Arnon and dear
friend Gina - 1997 hiking the Santa Monica
What can I do to become
Throughout your day, don't take the easy route to an
answer. Need to add up some costs? Try to do it in
your head before pulling out the calculator. Look up
every word you read that you don't understand, and
work to understand the roots of those words (your
vocabulary will grow by leaps and bounds). After an
interaction with a person, take some time to review
it and consider what may have been behind what was
said and what you could have added/changed in the
conversation. When you have a question, spend a few
minutes thinking through possible answers, before
you jump on Google or Quora. And when you read the
answers, try to think of other information that
might not have been included.
Every moment of every day is an opportunity to
sharpen your mind. Even if you don't have the time
every day to follow the excellent suggestions given,
you DO have time to think in your own life more. At
first it will be hard, but that means you are
exercising the mental muscle. Over time, you will
think faster and be more aware of things in your
day. You know you are doing it right when your
number of questions in a day is growing. "Judge a
person by their questions, rather than their
answers" - Voltaire (yes, I looked up that quote
before putting it here, and realized I had it wrong
before and the wrong person). Always be learning.
Do intelligent people tend
to be unhappy? If so, why?
The technical term is "morbid introspection". We
always are good at less things than we are not good
at. We don't know more things than we know. As
we become more aware of our "failings", it is easy
to be burdened by the weight of it. This is actually
a bit of ego thinking one has the ability or
responsibility to know everything.
After one gets tired of beating oneself up over it
(I used to call it "mental self-flagellation"), one
begins to realize that one is not expected to know
everything and these "failings" are actually
opportunities to grow. Historically, those who are
the wisest are also the most humble, because the
road ahead gets LONGE - one realizes that what one
knows is but a drop in the bucket.
How should one react to
controversial opinions held by highly
Don't blindly believe what I say. Don't believe me
because others convince you of my words. Don't
believe anything you see, read, or hear from others,
whether of authority, religious teachers or texts.
Don't rely on logic alone, nor speculation. Don't
infer or be deceived by appearances.
Do not give up your authority and follow blindly the
will of others. This way will lead to only delusion.
Find out for yourself what is truth, what is real.
Discover that there are virtuous things and there
are non-virtuous things. Once you have discovered
for yourself give up the bad and embrace the good.
- The Buddha
If he would say that about his own words, what more
of the words of any other wise or intelligent
people. We must discriminate with regards to what
everyone tells us, no matter how highly we regard
what they say in certain subjects.
How can you tell whether
someone is wiser than you?
To answer this, one must first define a measurement
I think the wisest are open to the largest set of
possibilities, including mine. So a wise one
will question intelligently and respectfully,
looking to learn the most. Then they will share
their opinion (as opinion, not fact) in the best way
for me to understand it. They might say it in
100 different ways to 100 different people, because
what's important is the concept, not how it's said.
Why is it important to be
smart rather than important to be good?
"Good" implies you have skill in the referred to
subject. "Smart" implies you can analyze the subject
and build more skill, becoming "good", then
"better", then "best". One who is smart can usually
also continually grow to master multiple subjects.
This implies that it's more important to teach
children passion in learning and how to go about it,
rather than rote learning. It is more important to
learn concepts than details. Learning a
multiplication table makes a child "good" (from 1 to
20), but learning why one wants to multiply and how
it applies to the real world ("If you want 5 of that
toy and each is $6.99, how much do you need?"), they
will quickly learn 1 through 20 and far beyond.
Many schools will teach the proper way to write a
letter first. Then have them write words and learn
spelling. Then sentences and so on, taking years to
get "good". My son's
school took the "smart" approach, and he wrote a
BOOK (literally, all the kids did) in the first
semester of kindergarten. Who cares which order
he writes a "b" in if it looks like a "b". Who
cares how he spells a word initially, as long as
it's understandable ("nise" vs. "nice" can be
learned later). Instead, he wrote a book about a
fictional character he made up. This
generates more passion to write and read, where
those spellings will be corrected naturally.
Note: the teachers do correct spelling occasionally,
but only on about one writing sample in ten ... to
keep the momentum in the right direction.
evaluating a new acquaintance, what is the best
way to distinguish mental laziness from general
Find your passion,
do what makes you happy, and never stop learning!
The two are functionally the same in my opinion.
Assuming you are looking to hire, don't.
That being said, people who are intelligent must
have some place to exercise that intelligence. It's
like a muscle - if they don't use it, they ARE
generally stupid. Therefore, finding out if someone
is intelligent requires finding those areas in which
they use that muscle. In those areas, they would be
enthused and coherent.
I would ask that person what they were interested in
and have a discussion about that subject. If they
show deep thought and clear understanding of the
subject, it means they have intelligence in subjects
where they choose to exercise it. Now, if you
want them to exercise it in another subject, you are
going to have to find a way to motivate them to be
enthusiastic about that subject ...
Do intelligent lazy people
achieve more in life than intelligent active
I tell people that I'm good because I'm lazy. Rather
than trying to power through in the most obvious
path, I sit back for a bit to think if there is a
more efficient path to what needs to be achieved. I
regularly get the same results in one half to one
tenth the time.
Let me give some specific examples in software
1) Testing is boring, long, and a lot of effort. So
I have learned to test in my head. As I'm coding,
I'm running through potential flows of the system,
and I correct problems before they would ever be
head scratchers in testing. It doesn't catch
everything, but it reduces testing and searching
2) Because I have the ability to have the whole
system in my head, I can notice where something is
becoming (or will become) repetitive and code a
class which takes multiple instances into account.
3) I think ahead to what the logical next steps of
the system are in the next 6-12 months, and code
those flexibilities into the system. It might take
an extra half an hour right now, but it saves hours
when marketing/executives ask for it and I say,
4) When talking to a client, I'm designing the
system in my head down to quite a bit of detail.
Many times, I have told them what won't work (for
the system or for user interaction) right in the
first hour or two of talking to them about
requirements. These changes, made halfway into
development (or even worse, at user testing), would
take much more effort. Sometimes, alternative
ideas I have come up with at these meetings have
become the centerpiece of the site, rather than what
the client thought they wanted.
Applying extra mental leverage up front allows me to
save a lot of time in the end, and increases
Cases in point:
a) For a performance management system, my
colleagues were proposing (and coding) a 40 table
data structure. I proposed an alternative with three
tables, one being a hierarchy linking table. This
new structure had MUCH more expressive power, and
MUCH more flexibility. It allowed the business
owners to change the structure of measurements and
their meanings on the fly, literally, and also
differently per business unit, where the other
structure would have been locked in place (we gave
them administration screens to change the structure
and calculations). It also allowed both the data
warehousing code (PL/SQL which rolled up and down
the hierarchy doing calculations) and the database
linking code, and the Java code working on the
display to be MUCH simpler.
b) Using the principles above, I was able to do a
complete restructuring of a large code base for a
major site (moving to Hibernate, Spring, and a
layered architecture) in two weeks because I was
able to test much of it in my head. I was able to
change 20-40 classes a day, running tests for
everything I had done at the end of the week (or the
end of a module). Those who would have been testing
each step would have taken two to three months (I
know because I have seen it done).
BEWARE: This does not
work for all things! Being efficient with my
wife DOES NOT WORK! She sees it as cold
and distant. She also wants to hear the
steps in my thinking, not the jumps that I make.
The only thing that laziness buys me at home is
that I realize it's more effective to hire
someone to clean than do it myself ... and I
still get it from my wife if I don't make SOME
effort cleaning the dishes or after the
kids. Perceived effort is important
sometimes here. We had to interview 5
location, 5 bands, etc. etc. for all of our
wedding stuff, even though we both knew the
first or second was the one we were going with.
Gina, and Rog, climbed a mountain in 1997 on my
Sixteen years later, in 2013 on my birthday, i was
in an Oregon hospital visiting Arnon.
thoughtful people happier or less happy than
It depends on the focus of one's thoughts.
If one focuses on their internal weaknesses and the
failings in the world, they take themselves down a
vicious circle. The technical term for constant
thought on one's weaknesses is "morbid
introspection" (I used to call it "mental
self-flagellation"). We always are good at less
things than we are not good at. We don't know more
things than we know. As we become more aware of our
"failings", it is easy to be burdened by the weight
of it. Add to that a negative view on the
external world, and a thoughtful person will become
more and more unhappy.
If one instead chooses to focus on their strengths
and the beauty and joy in the world, one begins to
realize that one's "failings" are actually
opportunities to grow. These ones take joy in the
challenge of life and every step along the way.
These are likely happier than the one who
thoughtlessly takes life as it is without direction,
purpose, or passion for growth (as in the example
hedonist given by Nan).
There are many variations in between
these. Ultimately, it is not one's
thoughtfulness that makes one happy or unhappy, but
where one focuses one's thought and the
interpretation of the evidence around them.
What is the difference
between consciousness and mind?
I think of meta-levels. The mind
thinks. Consciousness is thought ABOUT thought,
meaning thinking about our own thought process and
the effects on the world around us. This is
where self-awareness begins (the child realizes he
is separate from this thing he waves in front of his
How does one achieve true
One doesn't. We are subjective beings. We
can adapt for that subjectivity, but never eliminate
How valuable is
Myers-Briggs personality typing?
A few years ago, I think I came out as an
INTP. I just took the test again and came
out as an INTJ. After reading Paul King's
answer, I read both of the descriptions, and
both could describe me at different times.
Whether I exercise one or the other is really
situational or based on my confidence or
interest at the time. Very interesting.
How do I get over "analysis
paralysis"? I know what I want to accomplish,
but I spent too much time thinking and not
Take the first step. Once you are moving in a
direction, you will learn more about that direction,
and can re-adjust. As others have said, in
every step, in any direction, is growth ... even if
the only growth is having overcome the fear to take
Arnon 23 yrs old,
out on the town having fun!
horses celebrate New Year's?
Is there a foolproof way to
tell identical twins apart?
Pierce an ear for one of the children ;)
Is black a color?
My sons use a black crayon ...
Does God have feet?
If God is everywhere and nothing is outside of
God, then God has at least 7 billion pairs of
human feet and innumerable animal feet, table
feet, chair feet and so on.
Restaurant 2007 - Arnon, his wife Aman,
Gina and her husband.
What does it feel like for
a long-time vegetarian to discover they've
accidentally consumed meat?
I was recently served chicken soup instead of the
vegetable soup I ordered. It was a dark dinner
theater, so I didn't notice and just scooped it into
my mouth. I noticed the taste was strange, and
as I chewed I noticed that the texture was more
meaty than expected. I looked at the next spoonful
in the dim light to make sure I wasn't fooling
myself with a unique vegetable (it's happened
before, but more often with fake meats or
burgers). Vegetarians need to pay close
attention with soups because many have meat base,
but this had actual chicken in it. After that,
I took it back and got what I ordered.
I didn't have any of the emotions others have
stated. It was just a mistake. I was
taught long ago, "What goes into your mouth may
dirty your body, but what comes out of your mouth
can dirty your soul." What one eats comes out in a
few hours or a day ... what one says affects their
character. When something like this happens,
if one gets angry and especially says negative
things to the waiter, they may as well have just
eaten the meat. It would have had less negative
effect on their system.
Should I feel sad while eating
No. Enjoy the food you chose to eat. I say this as a
vegetarian. But that's my choice, and have no issue
with those who make other choices.
How could it be argued that
imagination is more valuable than knowledge?
Imagination creates hypotheses. Knowledge is the
result of testing those hypotheses.
Do the same laws of physics
apply everywhere in the cosmos?
To be honest, we don't know. We assume so and test
those hypotheses through telescopes, but there may
be exceptions to the rules.
Assuming Moore's law will
be correct for the next 100 years. How long do
we have before artificial intelligence takes
over the planet?
What if there are phenomena
possible in this Universe, in which one needs to
believe first, in order to understand/observe
rather than understand/observe in order to
As I was reading through these answers, it occurred
to me that observation bias plays a big role here.
Some people can have the truth put right in their
face, but will not see it. It always comes back to
whether or not someone accepts (believes) the axioms
on which logic is based, and the evidence which
leads to conclusions.
Some other historical and modern cases which
everyone believes in now:
a) Global Climate Change ... only those who accepted
the evidence ("believed") could see the trend.
b) The earth goes around the sun (people didn't
believe it even when evidence was given ... until
c) The earth is round (though I've seen other
questions on Quora that say people back then weren't
as disbelieving as popular stores say).
Additionally, there is what one could call
perception bias (or "I'll believe it when I see
it"). It is fair to say that that which we can
cannot perceive is MUCH more than what we can
perceive. Mankind has built tools to detect things
outside of our perception and translate them to
perceivable signals (microscopes, x-ray detectors,
etc). However we have just begun to build these
detectors. One must have a hypothesis and believe in
such hypothesis to even conceive of building such a
Lastly, I had another thought (which one could call
mass belief effects): If enough people believe that
stock X will go up, you will see it.
What did Nietzsche mean
when he said "if you stare into the abyss, the
abyss stares back at you"?
Notice he said "stare" or "gaze long", not just look
into the abyss. As you think deeply (about
anything), that thought changes you.
What's the insight inside
"the truth will set you free"?
It is the process of thinking about what is true
that allows you to escape delusions. Thinking deeply
takes effort. The reason that they are called
"mass delusions" is that the masses are mentally
lazy, and will accept the truth that is most
convenient, even if it does not serve them. "The
truth will set you free" is about the process, not
the end goal.
What are some theoretically
possible ways to achieve faster than light
Arnon is the blond
on the left with the red heart.
He inherited his super intelligence from his
parents and grand-parents.
As a top high school
student, how can I deal with depression and
frustration stemming from the fact that high
school has largely been an unenjoyable waste of
time for me?
Just one additional note: your adult life does not
necessarily have to be mindless work. I noticed
a lot of people saying that. Some of it may be, but
if you do what you enjoy, most of it is enjoyable
and mentally stimulating.
I agree with what many said about taking the time to
do additional work. Don't feel trapped; feel happy
that you have time to study what you love. My
entire adult life I have had two simultaneous
(and sometimes changing) careers, each with multiple
projects. I don't have too many chances to get
bored. In school, I studied ahead, and asked
what I thought were cooler questions.
I wish I had thought of what others stated here to
make the study of my fellow students a second career
... What motivates them? What are their fears and
joys? What are their strengths and
weaknesses? That study will be time well spent
and serve you well.
What data structures does
the human brain use?
This can be answered at many levels. Technically,
the brain stores information in the chemical and
electrical composition of the neuron and in it's
connections to other neurons.
But I choose to answer at a level that is more
practical to our daily lives. Sometime in high
school, I figured out how my mind organized
information. It puts related facts in folders where
my mind organized them into coherent responses.
These folders have connections to other folders in
related subjects or higher levels (meta-levels) of
the same subject.
When I realized this, I found that if I didn't
understand a subject, I could imagine a folder with
a title and just dump all the information in there.
At a certain point, once a critical mass of
information was in the folder, it would start to
self-organize and gel into understanding. To this
day, I still create a title first whenever I am
starting a project or trying to understand something
(I have a big one I'm
working on labelled "Happy Wife").
The folder title doesn't have to be "right"; it just
needs to be indicative. What is important is the
I don't really know the structure inside the folder,
but that is probably the way it should be. Initially
I just pile things in there when I don't understand.
Eventually, I start to understand some of the
connections inside the folder. Then the structure
grows from there, sometimes splitting into
sub-folders as I understand the sub domains better.
It was only years later that I saw studies that
framed the mind structure in similar ways. Now they
have "mind maps" As a tool (I don't use these but
it's similar in some ways).
Arnon loved being
in a classroom both as a teacher or student.
Do more intelligent
students benefit less from homework than other
students in any given class?
How about an answer from an intelligent
student. What qualifies me as an intelligent
* Graduated 10th in my class at a Magnet High School
for gifted children.
* 4.1 HS GPA (this school put an A grade at 4 and an
A+ at 4.33).
* 1470 SAT score (back when SATs went to 1600).
* 3.75 college GPA - Magna Cum Laude honors.
* Graduated college with 2 majors and 3 minors and
1.5 times the credits I needed to graduate.
I WANTED to learn more. When I was young, I would
take things apart to learn more about them. If I
hadn't been given homework, I would have researched
additional things. The homework helped to guide my
studies. My standard work in late HS and
college was to do the next day's reading so that I
could ask more intelligent questions in class the
next day. I noticed that knocking the teacher off
the standard teaching track gave all of us more,
because it also brought out more passion from the
teacher and showed their deep understanding of the
subject. I STILL learn constantly. If I don't
understand a word that I'm reading, I look it up
(rather than just let it pass by) and I look at the
roots of that word so that I can see if I can apply
it in other contexts. There are a multitude of
opportunities to always be learning.
It is a fallacy to believe that a teacher can teach
25+ students all at their individual level. Homework
brings more individuality into learning, allowing
students to learn at their own pace, and review many
times (which would disrupt the class). Imagine
having a student like me who wanted all the extra
stuff, and a student who is struggling to understand
the basics. One teacher has a hard time serving
both equally. Homework allowed me to extend. I
like some of the current models (like is encouraged
by Khan Academy) where the rote teaching is given as
homework, and the teacher is more a coach than a
repeater of rote information year after year (I
don't mean to deride teachers here by any stretch).
Yes, parents have a
significant impact on the child's ability and
dedication to learning, but I disagree that most
parents don't care. I believe that some parents
don't know where to start and don't have the time. I have two little ones now,
and my wife has been going through workbooks
with each of them since before they were three
years old. They consider it FUN, rather than a
chore, because that's how she makes it (thank
God for my wife). They are passionate about
reading because my wife makes it into a fun
activity to do. I would also add
that the quality of teachers also has a huge impact
on how a student responds to learning (I was lucky
in this regards, and aim for my children to be as
I currently have two simultaneous careers (plus two little ones) and
although I constantly learn on the job, I miss the
times when I could just pick up a book and learn
more about a subject. My reading list keeps growing,
but unfortunately, I don't make much impact on it on
a regular basis (thank
God for my wife being an encouraging, dedicated
coach with the children, because I don't have
the time to be there for them that much).
To put this in context, I graduated HS in 1992 and
college in 1997 (I took a year off to be an
entrepreneur). This was before 'No Child Left
Behind' and the focus on passing tests. I hear that
the level of homework has gotten excessive these
days, but I don't have direct experience to judge
Luckily, the administrator at the public school
where my children are going spends absolutely no
time on the standardized tests. He focuses on
providing a high standard of education, and
encouraging the kids to love learning. The kids
take the tests and pass at a very high
rate. This is the #3 school in the country -
counting both public and private schools. Again, thank God for my wife for
doing all the research to find the best school
What are some of the most
useful online resources for parents with young
It depends what you mean by young, but my kids
started using khanacademy.org at 3 yrs old.
Facebook June 2012 - The
"Feeling the love ... my youngest boy, to
win an argument with his older brother, says
"Dad said so, and Dad is right about
EVERYTHING!!!" I need to take him to my next
work meeting ... or discussion with my wife."
How much power does the
President of United States really have?
Anonymous had a great list for the powers he has,
but one man only has so much attention. So he
appoints people to lead these various
powers. The truth is only so much intelligence
and so many decisions would filter up to him.
So although he has the final say and ultimate
responsibility, he doesn't actually exercise these
powers on a daily or even monthly basis. There
are many other people who actually exercise and
utilize these powers on his behalf.
So how much power is REALLY his and how much is
theirs? I guess that depends on his attention
at any given time. If they don't screw up, and play
the political game well, they can be appointed
across various Presidents, and thus the power is
Would US citizens be served
better if there were more members of Congress?
Congress has a hard enough time coming to a
consensus NOW! Adding more members would make
this harder. With more members, there would be
more opinions and amendments, bringing debate to a
There is a certain size team in any organization
that is effective for getting things
done. Congress already breaks into committees
to do this, but then they bring decisions back to
500 other members who have no expertise in the given
subject. Not that I blame them; it's not
possible to know everything.
Proud father to be
What are the best
I've found that companies who have nationwide
offices seem to have people used to communicating on
the phone and online meeting software
regularly. Nationwide teams are part of the
way of life. I used to travel to a company office to
just sit on the phone all day. Now I sit at home and
no one (except those who I tell) know the
difference. And I don't know when my colleagues are
working from the office or home that day.
Are telephone calls an
inefficient mode of communication?
Most ways to look at this are subjective. But from a
cost perspective, depending on your plan, you
generally pay more for the data for Skype voice
calls than you do for standard mobile voice minutes.
What was daily life like
before the internet?
I used to have to watch TV (or record it) when the
cable company said!
Facebook - Written May 2011
Awesome Loren Slocum
and Tony Robbins.
Outstanding magic moments - the 1990's.
do you get a huge new understanding of something
you learned 10-20 years ago? It helps having
several geniuses as teachers. Have one (or
several) teachers whose books you read or
classes you take. Sometimes it's like I have
little copies of them in my head, discussing and
coming out with new pearls of wisdom!"
"Last night I was talking with a friend who was
asking about how I deal with "difficult" people.
As I was forming the answer (not that I'm an
expert, but I have some experience), I realized
that I only used one need of what Tony taught as
SIX needs. That was something I learned 18 years
ago, and now I got a whole new level to the
teaching! A gift that keeps on giving!"
"I recommend reading and learning from Master
Choa Kok Sui and Tony Robbins. The beauty of
these genius teachers is that not only do they
have teachings that keep on giving, but they
also recommend other great teachers and books.
If you read, think, and put things together,
your life will continue to improve even years
AFTER you have read the books."
Sunset over Oregon
- Arnon crossed over around 6pm.
July 23rd 1974 - December 21st 2013.
Checklist for cancer
patients - alternative and conventional.
'Bear' has begun a new journey but all i have
to do is close my eyes and i see his beautiful
smile and i feel his essence.
During his illness, i added two new pages to
guide cancer patients, and their families,
towards health and recovery:
What IS cancer -
understand it and heal.
IS A WAKE-UP CALL TO CHANGE.
DETOXIFICATION OF THE BODY AND MIND IS
Until we meet again ...
To honor Arnon's memory, his family and friends
have chosen to give donations in his name to:
Cancer Foundation - a unique non-profit
This charity was decided on because Arnon was
born in Israel, he lives on thru his two little
he loved to tithe and give to others, it's
non-profit, and because cancer took his life.
Extensive health and nutritional guidance.
Natural healing as nature intended.