Conversation with Arnon
Davidovici
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SOQI News.
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  A Conversation With Arnon.
Over 80 life questions, with answers
written between 2011 and 2013.

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13th Edition Contents:

Arnon.

In memory of my special friend,
who died of cancer, compounded by
 iatrogenic disease, at just 39yrs old.

Maybe this story will help save others.
It's all about choices.

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A Conversation With Arnon.

Arnon-Davidovici

A gentle, intelligent, sensitive soul who asked for nothing.
He preferred to give to others, both financially and spiritually.


The 1990's:
Arnon (pronounced with the emphasis on the second syllable, not the first), was a man that was loved and respected by many people, a man who became one of my dearest friends in life that i can never forget and that i miss deeply.

I first met him in the 90's in Hawaii, as a fellow voluntary staff member with Anthony Robbins. Arnon was a door guard, always smiling, socially shy, soft spoken, a tall, cuddly teddy bear. He persistently requested that i give him a smile and i consistently refused. One morning over breakfast, he again requested i smile. I again declined. Another staff member then said to me, "Tracy, Arnon is giving you a gift. Are you going to refuse it?" I of course burst into smile and laughter, i understood, and the rest is history. He captured my heart with his beautiful smile, his gentle ways, his kind spirit, his brilliant mind, and his endearing awkward social skills.

Arnon was a student at Tulane University, New Orleans from 1992 to 1997, and after graduation he excitedly called to tell me he was moving to Los Angeles. I got to watch Arnon grow and develop. He found his first serious girlfriend (he was a late bloomer), began his career in computer technology, and made new friends as he started his life as a university graduate stepping out onto the world stage.

New year
1997 New Years Eve, Studio City, CA - Arnon and myself.

We had many happy and fun times together both in Los Angeles (with friend Gina), and staffing at Anthony Robbins awesome seminars - in Hawaii, Anaheim, Palm Springs and Dana Point - where i also met his mum Tamara, his sister Maya, and his fun loving brother Ilan.

Born into the Jewish faith Arnon was a confirmed agnostic, but searched for something as yet undefined but deep within himself. I recognized and told him in Hawaii that i could feel he was a healer, and that he had a strong, untapped spiritual energy that was waiting to be unleashed. I urged him to look within, find the key and unlock this gift for himself and the world.

Very quickly, Arnon found the key, Pranic Healing. He drank it in, feeding his body, mind and soul, letting it light and guide his path ahead for 15yrs. He studied with passion and with deep love, embracing his new family of fellow Pranic healers, and soon enough became a respected instructor, teacher and healer. He had finally found 'home' on earth within his soul.

Marriage
2003 - Arnon got married.

Marriage and Children:
Always marching to the beat of his own drum, Arnon met and married a beautiful Indian girl from the UK. They had a Sikh-Jewish wedding in Santa Barbara, followed by the birth of two wonderful boys - Alex and Anand - and began a new life chapter in peaceful Oregon. He became very successful financially - providing what every family dreams of, stability and security, allowing his wife to be a full time mum - and was beloved by his Pranic healing community. Tithing was very important to him and he frequently gave to charity. My best friend Gina and i, were very proud and happy for him.

Sidebar - Arnon's wife enjoys talking non-stop, only pausing to laugh infectiously - especially about our favourite subject Frank Spencer from 'Some Mother's Do 'Ave 'Em" (it's a British thing), and of course Arnon didn't get it ;)

For awhile, Arnon used to travel back and forth to work, and also to teach Pranic healing classes. On his long drives home he would call me late at night to help his drive pass faster, and to keep him awake. He loved to be mentally challenged and to have stimulating conversations. We had many wonderful talks about life, family, friends, spirituality and philosophy. He had dreams and plans and many things he wanted to accomplish. I cherish those hours he shared with me.

Inner Conflict:
He avoided disputes as he hated conflict, and so he shut out mundane daily life and household duties. He preferred privacy and to bury himself in his complicated, technological computer world of software development, or to be in the deep embrace of his other world, Pranic healing and teaching. He was never a social butterfly as he had attempted in the 90's. He did not smoke (he hated it), drink alcohol, do drugs, or eat meat.

Negative

Unfortunately, humans have to interact with each other to spiritually grow and it was inner conflict resulting from daily life that became his downfall. Cancer is nearly always triggered by either prolonged emotional stress (financial burden or relationship conflict), or by a shock/trauma event. Because this wickedly brilliant mind was only comfortable expressing emotion through his spiritual work and studies, personal stress and conflict was repressed and ignored.

Note: We are all spiritual beings having a human experience. Human ego's often get the upper hand, causing us to be who we are not. In being who we are not, we discover who we truly are. No-one is immune to ego chaos, domination and the need to be in control (of ourselves or another), but it is our spirituality that will evolve if we rise above ego driven drama, learn from it, forgive, and LET GO.

In the summer of 2012, the family took a wonderful overdue vacation in Hawaii (i was originally going to join them as a babysitter if needed), and life seemed to be going well. Everyone appeared happy and healthy.

Diagnosis Cancer:
I never made it up to Oregon to visit, until late in Arnon's illness, in October 2013. He was first diagnosed with Stage 4 Diffuse large B-cell lymphoma (DLBCL), in the early springtime of 2013. I had not spoken to him for awhile since he now worked from home.
I was very shocked as he was only 38 years old - his children only 5 and 7yrs old.

In May, Arnon and i had a few conversations about his diagnosis, his full intention to immediately proceed with chemo, and we attempted to explore his emotional issues. He was so very strong, his stubbornness served him well, and he sailed through the first months of orthodox medicine with clarity and focus. The chemo seemingly had no effect on his mind which remained grounded and sharp. He even continued his computer work from his bed, and he delighted in telling every nurse and doctor that he met about Pranic healing.


Portland-Hospital

Fall 2013 - We had long conversations on the phone from his hospital bed whilst he was strong enough,
and one day he took and sent me a beautiful photo of the view from his bed, overlooking Portland, Oregon.

Sadly, his wellness was short lived and after a vacation climbing mountains in Idaho with his father, his wife and two children, Arnon's body took a turn for the worst from which he never recovered. In July he was diagnosed with Acute Lymphoblastic Leukemia (ALL). The cancer was in his bone marrow (the mind/body connection indicates previous deep trauma, causing self de-evaluation), and later found in his lungs (fear) and his sinus (deep mental conflict). He had practically no immune system, barely any white blood cells or platelets.

Arnon's internal emotional trauma and stress remained unaddressed, a sugar free, alkaline diet was never adhered to, and although he had access to Hemp Oil he refused it because he didn't like the taste (dosage size is a grain of rice). Actually nothing was changed other than the introduction of more drugs, more chemo, endless blood transfusions, pain medication (synthetic heroin), fluids and antibiotics - his body was flooded non-stop, day in and day out. There was no respect, no dignity. Arnon never stood a chance. The possibility for miracles was an empty illusion. He battled with tremendous bravery and courage through the following dark and painful months, underwent two emergency surgeries on his sinus cavities, and finally left his body on December 21st.


Farewell sweet soul:
I last saw Arnon on October 29th, the afternoon he was being transferred to Seattle, Washington for more drugs and experimental chemo. I finally got to spend two wonderful hours with this special and fragile soul, flooding his body with healing and love. When i kissed him goodbye and whispered "I love you", i felt in my heart i would never see him again, i had no delusions, but part of me refused to give up and refused to let go.


Chemo
                      kills. 

The following five weeks seemed like five years as i continued to step up my intense cancer research every waking moment, day in and day out. When Arnon returned from his Seattle clinical trials and went right back to Portland hospital, my heart was beyond crushed by Arnon's state of health which had taken a dramatically dark turn from the Seattle chemotherapy. Iatrogenic disease (deadly affect of chemotherapy poison), became very apparent, invading his lungs, his sinus, his lips and his mouth (he could barely eat or talk). He had bacteria, fungus and yeast infections.

I knew with absolutely no doubt, 2 weeks prior to Arnon's actual passing, that he was going to leave the earth very soon. Every day was hell for me, not knowing how he was doing, not being able to be with him, to give him love and healing. I asked his spirit guides to take him asap, be it for his highest good, and to remove him from his suffering. I then had a visit from spirit that confirmed the time was close.

The night he finally crossed over, i was not told, but i was up all night, very restless and i only slept for a couple of hours as the sun came up. Arnon's dad called me a few hours later and confirmed what my soul already knew.

Arnon's nickname was Bear - my beloved Bear had finally returned home.

I cannot express the depth of my love for this gentle, kind, intelligent, peaceful soul. We have a special soul bond that will never be broken and within the first 3 days of his passing, i felt his warmth and love around me, he comforted me and yes, he made me smile once again.

May all who suffer be free from suffering.
May all those in fear find freedom from fear.
May all who grieve find freedom from grief.
May all living beings be free.
~ The Buddha


Even in his last few months of life, Arnon continued to tithe to an organization in the Philippines, helping to save many lives devastated by Typhoon Haiyan. The Davidovici family and friends have chosen a non-profit children's cancer organization at the bottom of this page to honor his memory.

A special mention goes to Arnon's sister-in-law and husband, two incredible human beings that loved and looked after Arnon's two little boys during his illness - their focus, strength, sacrifice and courage is beyond words.

Choices:

Arnon and i both shared a thirst for knowledge and exploration, and he leaves me with a gift of a deeper understanding and insight regarding cancer. I did not have the opportunity or the chance to help Arnon become well, but i have the rest of my life to continue helping others, and to guide them so they may not experience the suffering he endured needlessly. Choices in dealing with cancer, must be researched and made without FEAR, which is unfortunately the place most patients and families come from. Blind faith and trust very rarely extends or saves lives. Grief, fear and religious belief muddies reality. DETOXIFICATION of the body and mind is critical. RESEARCH is critical.

Personally i would have pulled Arnon from the orthodox, barbaric, antiquated medical protocols months ago, but that was not my right and not my decision to make, so i stood by helplessly, witnessing in silence the horror of toxic orthodox therapy which is simply a science experiment of deadly drug cocktails. I watched conventional medicine legally murder him. He never stood a chance.

Arnon was adamant and strong willed regarding his hasty, fear based, logical choice of conventional oncology. He also chose to firmly adhere to Pranic healing protocol. The point being, stubborn as Taurus the bull (he was actually Cancer/Leo cusp), he lived his life his way.

Myself, Gina, and my son (who knew him since he was 11yrs old), will miss him always and never forget him. Namaste.

Postface:
The one and only miracle that can be said to occur, was that i discovered Dr. Sam Chachoua. I contacted Arnon's wife to tell her i could connect with him but i received no reply. It became too late, but it is not too late for Dr. Sam who must be made known to the world despite orthodox medicine denying his existence - the $11 million lawsuit he won against Cedars Sinai hospital is public record - forcing him to continue his work and research in hiding in Mexico.


Dr Sam
                      Chachoua
Dr. Sam Chachoua - A brilliant, compassionate, Australian born,
Jewish medical genius of Egyptian ancestry

Dr.Sam's Induced Remission Therapy (IRT) works, and it must become a recognized cancer protocol, demanded as such by all of us. Then and only then, will lives be saved by this new technology against AIDS, cancer, heart disease and other terminal illnesses. Agonizing torture, suffering and what amounts to legalized murder must end. Dr. Sam graduated from medical school at only 18 yrs of age, after he watched his own father die of bone cancer multiple myeloma, which is the reason he has dedicated his life to saving others from the same fate.

Become acquainted with Dr. Sam, and what NBC News called in August 2000 "THE MOST EFFECTIVE THERAPY AGAINST CANCER AND AIDS IN HISTORY."  - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xNoT8lb3aIs

Ginny's Story
Ginny beat cancer by loving herself, forgiveness, and the healing powers of Chi-Lel Qigong.

NEVER underestimate the incredible regenerative powers of the mind and the body!



Here follows a conversation of sorts, with Arnon. He belonged to a group on the internet called Quora, a question and answer website. His intelligence, love, spirituality and humor shines through, as does his simplistic, grounded, and non-judgemental approach to life. Some of the questions are obviously ironic ...

River

A Conversation With Arnon.
Always Learning.

What are the best ways to start a New Year?
Give to others. As you give, so shall you receive.
12/30/11

How has having a biblical first name made an impact on your life?
Arnon is actually a biblical river. I've been told it means "Joy through dancing and singing".
However, except for the difficulty in pronunciation, it really hasn't had much effect.
12/25/11

How did you pick up your signature?
I used to write my name in regular print as a signature. I got tired of people saying "No! You're SIGNATURE goes there!"  It happened more time than I can count... "That IS my signature!" So after a few years of that, I started making it messier. Now its just big A and big D with wavy line after each.
6/13/13

If life had to be defined in one word what would that word be?
School OR Lessons.
1/4/12

Does free will exist?
According to Theosophy (and many other spiritual schools), we are born into physical existence to learn certain lessons. Those lessons are based on certain karma (or the causality that others have mentioned). Those target lessons and an individual's karma determine a "destiny" for that life.

Within that destiny, we have certain free will whether to go the path of learning the lessons or not. If we avoid our destiny, life gets harder; there is more resistance when we get off the path. However, if we learn our lessons faster (thus "exceeding" our causes), we have MORE freedom to move to greater lessons and greater works. The wisest among us have the most free will; of course, those people choose to align their free will with the greater good.
1/1/12

What are the most underrated life skills?
Peace, calmness and rational thought in the face of adversity.

Many people throw all rationality out the door under pressure or stress, and make hasty, emotional, or capitulating decisions. Meditation, mental exercises, and mental scenario practice can help.
2/7/12


Arnon-teaching
Arnon teaching Pranic healing - October 2012.

In your career path, is money or role more important?
Learning is most important. If you learn, the roles and the money will grow. When you interview, if you can tell a story of what you learned from your previous jobs and how you overcame a previous challenge, it goes a long way to telling them how you will act in their company. When they ask you where you see yourself in 5 years, a good stock answer is "Learning as much as I can and bringing value from that learning to the company I am working for."

Personally, I prefer any job that gives me many opportunities to learn over money and role. Money comes in a close second, but if I'm earning a lot of money in a rote, repetitive job, my quality of life would suffer. Role only matters to me in the breadth of learning it allows me to have (lower jobs have more limited scope and ability to look into other projects) and the influence to get my ideas out into a company. Role is a distant third (or fourth or fifth... I'd have to think about what others might be in there).
12/25/11

Is emotion the slave to reason or vice versa?

The two are different and equal. The question is whether the person is slave to the emotion or the reason at any given time.

As an example, should love (an emotion) rule over our reason? In some cases yes, in some no. It's reasonable to tell a person everything that is wrong about them, so they can fix it, but is it loving? Actually, it could be a loving act (telling someone something they can correct) in small doses, if the person is open to that input. The question is whether the person decides do do the loving thing or reasonable thing (or both).

Well, then, how does the person decide? Are they driven by their passion? Are they driven by compassion? Are they driven by the logical thinking out of consequences? Are they driven by some knowledge of what is for the greatest good of this person?

The person is the key factor here. Their decisions improve as they improve their character. That doesn't mean they are more logically driven or more emotionally driven, but by the higher forms of both (e.g. moving from passion to compassion). Logic and emotion are two inputs, both of which we must use to make our life decisions.

Alternative interpretation: The charioteer is the soul. The horses are intellect and emotion. The soul has to keep both on track to go where he wants to go. If one lets intellect rule with no heart, the person is ruthless. If one lets emotion rule, one the person chases desires without considering consequences. The soul keeps these on track, and balanced, to target one in a positive direction.

Many people try to make emotion a form of reason. I disagree with that assertion.
6/19/13


What are good ways to have the perfect life?
Enjoy what you have and always strive for more.

If you don't enjoy and appreciate with what you have, you will never feel peace. You will never feel settled. The day that I first said, "If my life stayed the same, it would be a great life", I felt this feeling. I called it "satisfaction".

But we are also striving beings; we need a mission, a goal, in life (On that same day, I called this "ambition"). Those who retire with no aims are dead in a few years. Strive to improve what you have, your conditions, yourself, to better than what they are even though they are great already.  If there is no improvement you desire in your own life or in your own character, improve the lives of those around you, and eventually, those you don't even know.

Remember, life has changes. It has it's ups and downs. You can't guarantee everything will be as it is for the rest of your life. But if you have ambition beyond the satisfaction, a perfect life is easier to have. For example, if you strive to have twice the income you really satisfied with, and an economic change happens that halves your income, satisfaction still continues. This is a superficial example, but can be applied in all areas of life.
6/19/12

What do people miss about their youth?
Nothing. Life just continues to get better and better.
4/29/12

How is today different from yesterday?
5 letters.
1/16/12

What are quintessential first-world problems?
My work provided laptop, just had Outlook go down. Now my company pays me $X to waste time talking to these darn IT guys from India (getting paid $X/10). Since I'm working from home, I waste my time watching online TV on my home computer, while the IT guy worked on my computer remotely (so I don't even have to guide him). It took that guy TWO WHOLE HOURS to get it done so I couldn't get any REAL work done today. My day sucked!

And now a couple from my kids that actually happened today:

1) "Dad! This burrito (with fresh healthy ingredients just made by their mom) isn't as good as the Taco Bell ones!"

2) The other one ... crying - "Dad, I hate you. You only gave me ONE cookie!"

3) New one ... not exactly a problem, but definitely first world: Upon seeing me open my car door with a key, rather than the wireless fob, for the first time, my son says "Wow, Dad! That's cool! I didn't know you could do that!"

2/18/12
Faiths
Arnon had an Interfaith marriage - Sikh and Jew.

Why do some white guys like black girls?
I'm a white guy who married an Indian girl. That she was Indian didn't even factor into the equation.
5/28/13

What is it like being tall?
Although I agree with the other things that have been said, I have to say that being tall FEELS normal! It's normal to see over everyone's head and reach things they can't. It's normal for almost everyone to look up at me (physically), and actually a little weird spending time with guys who I have to look up to (physically -- there are plenty I look up to metaphorically).

It's normal for my wife to be 10.5 inches shorter than me, and to adjust for that when hugging or kissing. It's normal, but annoying, to not fit into the drivers seat after she drives the car. 

Basically, because it's always been this way, I don't think about it in a normal day until someone like you calls my attention to it.
12/14/11

What are the wisest quotes you've ever heard or read?
Wisdom implies time, process, and lots of dumb mistakes.
4/22/12

Assuming God (any god you like) is real, what would you ask them/it?
Strength to overcome my weaknesses. Guidance to know the best way forward. Patience with myself as I continue to struggle.
12/24/11


Why should I desire to live as long as possible?
When I decide to leave this earth at the ripe old age of 263, I will have enjoyed:

1) Seeing my 8th generation of descendants excel because they will have had Old Arnon to guide them with his wisdom.

2) After 100 years of compounded investment growth, I will have unbelievable amounts of money to spend (probably on all my great-great-great-great grandkids, and of course, my wife).

3) Peace on earth (and the remote outer colonies) created through the United World Netizens (aka UWN, aka Triple UN).
4) Taken a step through the Infinite Probability Portal over to visit Earth 2, Terra 5, and Andromeda Galactic Hub.
5) Taking a weekend trip with my wife to the asteroid belt (with the requisite zero G drinks at Solar Sailor's Pub)

6) Learning 100 languages (and they are all accessible on my brain dock which has an Solid Quantum Yotta Drive with the latest 364 Yotta capacity with enhanced research and analysis assistant).

7) My Phone/Pad/TV will have a perpetual energy core (1000 year warranty) with a variable screen size, of course, from 1 inch square wristwatch to 20X40 ft movie screen on demand. It will allow me to stream any video in the universe (the latest Supernova in Gamma Quadrant was hot in the last year), including all the memories from the last 100 years in Super eXtra Hexa Definition.

8) Having 10^13 points on Quora ;)  Just kidding ... Actually the enjoyable part would be watching Quora finally decide if God exists or not, and whether free will exists or not.

9) I will finally understand women (although that took 262 years!).
1/3/12

Why do most people view death so negatively?
I don't believe this is the only life we have, yet I want it to last as long as possible. I have a lot to do in this life before I take a "vacation".

I have had a strange experiment, when I tell people that I want to live until 263 years old. Many people ask "Why would you want to live that long?" My response: "Really?!?!?  Is your life that bad? Why would you NOT want to live that long?"
6/14/13

If you died today, would you die happy?
Satisfaction and ambition.

A few years ago I came to a realization that I was content with the way my life was going. I would be satisfied if everything continued on the same path for the rest of my life. It was (is) a very freeing and relaxing feeling.

However, at the same time, I knew I could do better. I wanted more. This ambition has continued to drive me to new heights, happy the whole way that this life is great and is on the right path. That's not to say I don't have stress and strife, but it's part of the process of the life I choose. If I stayed in the life I am satisfied with, my ambitious side wouldn't be happy.

So my answer is yes and no. I would be happy about my life, but I would not feel complete. Plus I have young kids.
4/16/12

Does God punish souls at the final judgment day?
According to my studies (and specifically Theosophy), the real "punishment" is by the person himself realizing what he or she has done. At the end of a life, the person is led through a review of his or her life, with full awareness now, rather than the limited awareness while in the body. The person gets to experience joy for things not previously noticed, and also experiences pain and regret for negative actions done. The purpose, however, is not to punish, but to learn. Through this review, the person learns and grows and resolves to change behavior in the next life. I would expect that "final judgment", whatever that is, would be equivalent.
7/10/12



Arnon Davidovici

COMPLIMENTARY AND ALTERNATIVE MEDICINE:

Preface:
As readers of this extensive website can attest, i have dedicated my life to alternative healing, specializing in cancer research and therapy for several years now. Arnon's immediate choice of healing was orthodox medicine. He held the firm belief (ironically made obvious below, written in 2011), that Pranic healing and chemo, would save his life.
I respected his choice, regardless that i did not hold the same belief.

His wife purchased a Far Infrared Hothouse Dome (heat therapy - hyperthermia - is used extensively in Europe and Japan as a cancer therapy), but it was far, far too late ... three days after it arrived, Arnon passed on.



Why don't people use alternative medicine more often (e.g., herbal, acupuncture, meditation, energy healing)?
I value western medicine and its skills and improvement in our life, but there are gaps in knowledge that are still addressed by ancient knowledge and skills. So-called "alternative" techniques are the conventional medicine in other countries. The point is to use the right tool for the right problem. 

These practices have grown in the west due to the inability of western medicine to solve many chronic issues.  Unfortunately, as has been stated, many charlatans have also stepped up with "snake oils." One reason it's not used more often is that people have a tendency to listen to naysayers (some of whom have been taken in by charlatans) rather than investigating for themselves with people who actually have experience with these practices. Since many comments have been related to the efficacy of so-called "alternative medicine," let's talk about that.

From personal experience, chiropractic has healed TMJ problems for me and addressed back pains that result from my sedentary life sitting in front of a computer. I have multiple experiences with Pranic Healing, but one drastic example is when I got a pretty bad burn from picking up a hot iron (from the iron side ... ouch).  The pain was gone in FIVE MINUTES (I've been told it takes 2-3 days with normal procedures) through the immediate use of Pranic Healing.

My son was running around a coffee table, slipped and gashed the side of his eye.  At that moment, with the amount of blood gushing out, we couldn't tell if it was the eye itself or the side. We were freaking out and about to call 911, but just two minutes of work the gushing blood reduced enough that we could see it was just the side of the eye.  Five minutes after hitting his eye, the bleeding stopped, and five minutes later the swelling went away. By 15 minutes, he was laughing and running around the living room again (we moved the table into the corner). This and many other normal childhood incidents are why I call Pranic Healing "parental stress relief".

My day job is as a lead Technical Architect (designing and building information systems and applications, for those who don't know that title) at a major communications company. I don't tend to talk about this with people in that line of work, but one time it came up in conversation. He told me if ANYONE else had told him this stuff he would not believe, but he had been working with me for two years and he knew I was rational and thought things through very well.

My examples above are relatively minor issues because I tend to address our issues early. However, I have had many clients with issues (like arthritis, cancer, AIDS, and even things as simple as migraine headaches) that medical science simply has not satisfactorily addressed yet.  The "yet" is important, because I expect that someday they might. One example case (which I have testimonials for), the doctors had given the client 3 months to live, as the chemotherapy was simply not working. His normal response to chemo was to be out of commission for a week.  The first result (which in this case we can only attribute to the Pranic Healing done on the same day) was that he only felt the chemo for the evening and was normal by the next day. He started to work with me, changed his diet, and tried several other processes. After two months, the MRI found that the tumors were gone. He has gone on to learn how to work on himself to maintain his own health.

Now let's explore the part that really gets people: the responsiveness to treatment depends both on the specific situation of the client and the skill of the healer.  Many people point to this and say "See! The results are psychosomatic," but the answer is not so simple. The truth is that Western medicine works differently on different people as well. Let's take the case of cancer again (but we could as easily take arthritis, AIDS, psychological issues, or many other ailments). The treatment of cancer is not as simple and straightforward as setting a bone. There are many different treatments for cancer (different chemical cocktails and radiation treatments) and many different types of cancer. Even with one type of cancer, the same western treatment will have varying results in different patients. A more skilled doctor with more experience will know better what techniques will have the best results on an individualized basis. In fact, there are books and articles stating that those who get the best results are those who are their own advocates. The same is true of eastern healing techniques and healers. Results will vary, so you must explore what treatment is correct and adjust accordingly

So how do you find a good healer? Note that this answer applies for both western doctors and eastern doctors and healers of any type.  Training and a certificate are not enough ... we all know there are many people (and doctors) with tons of certifications who we wouldn't go anywhere near. The key is to look at results. If you have a significant issue, and need a lot of work, get testimonials, talk to previous patients, review negative results, question the methods, and other due diligence that you would normally do when signing up for anything. In this case, it's not just time and money invested, but potentially your life. Make sure you have the right doctor/healer for the job. Unfortunately, many people just take the first opinion without doing the additional due diligence. For less significant issues, one can experiment more, but don't skip the effort of validating what you are being told.

To sum up, no ailment has one and only one solution.I find that results are best when multiple healers/doctors work together. I have NEVER told a client to change anything their doctor told them, and like I stated earlier, I do my work along with the chemotherapy or other treatment. A broken bone must be set before we can accelerate the process of healing the bone. I have had clients ask me timidly if they can also meet with a nutritionist or some other type of healer, and I encourage them wholeheartedly. To reiterate, use the right tool for the right problem.
9/28/11

Additional:
It has been asked why much evidence for "alternative" techniques seems anecdotal. I recently had a conversation with a doctor who said that even the evidence for dietary changes improving health is anecdotal. The reason is that it's very hard to have a controlled study of diet (and some of these other techniques). Many of the studies for these drugs and treatments are from people in hospitals or in expensive labs. In these places, diet and other factors can be somewhat controlled. This is the scientific method; comparing a controlled baseline to a different set of conditions.

However, according to this doctor, people self-reporting diet tend to be inaccurate or even lie. Very hard to control. This is true also of people who we see as healers for 1-3 hours in a week. What are they doing the rest of the time?
6/19/13

FYI: What is Pranic 'healing'? A collective hodge-podge of healing techniques and philosophy taken from multiple global sources including occultists, spiritual practitioners, Eastern healing modalities, various religions, Hindu literature, and yoga. Founder Filipino Choa Kok Sui, was a successful business man and chemical engineer. Drawn to esoteric science at an early age, he launched his spiritual thesis named modern Pranic healing in 1987, but died of pneumonia twenty years later in 2007, age only 53 yrs.



Pranic
                      Healing
Choa Kok Sui - founder of Pranic 'healing'.

SPIRITUALITY - RELIGION - ENLIGHTENMENT:

What is the difference between spirituality, religion, and church?

My mother used to say, "Religion divides. Spirituality unites."


Religion is a structure of belief and a set of guidelines for how to live life or be a better person. There are many different religions because there are many types of people and different cultures who have different philosophies. It is appropriate and good for these people to have these structures to guide them. The division comes in where people forget that the fact that someone else chooses another path does not make them wrong.

Spirituality in general focuses on unity and open-mindedness. Everyone has their own individual path of discovery, and each is good. Additionally, "all paths lead to the same destination" ultimately.

Religion and spirituality can be practiced together or separately. I know many devout religious people who also acknowledge that their experience is different and individual from their other parishioners, but accept all practices. There are, of course, religious people who focus on the form and structure of the religion to the exclusion of all others. That's simply where they are.

There are religious churches and spiritual churches. Spiritual churches would be those like Science of Mind, Center for Spiritual Living, and Unity Churches (these are just some I know; I'm sure there are plenty others). I've seen many of these churches who even bring in the symbols from all the major religions to be inclusive and acknowledge members of their church who practice both.
1/6/12


Is one particular religion the one true religion?
No. All religions at their roots are both a framework for belief AND a guideline for becoming a better person. They were developed in different time periods and regions to work for certain types of people. Just like different people like different forms of physical exercise, there are many forms of "character exercise" or spiritual exercise. All people are free to pick the belief system that works for them and helps them move through life.
1/6/12

Om

What fundamental elements exist consistently and coherently in every religion and every spiritual ethic?
Both The Law of Karma (or cause and effect) and The Golden Rule are taught universally in all major religions. Below are just some of the religious references (you can find them in other religions as well).

The Law of Karma is basically all variations of : "As you give, so shall you receive".

God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. -- Galatians 6:7 (Christian)

For with the same measure that ye mete, withal it shall be measured to you again. -- Luke 6:38 (Christian)

Thou shalt receive requital and reward in just return for whatsoever thou doest. -- Koran (Islam)

Just as a farmer plants a certain kind of seed and gets a certain crop, so it is with good and bad seeds. -- Mahabharata (Hindu)

So long as an evil deed has not karmically matured, the fool thinks his deed to be sweet as honey; but when his evil deed karmically matures, he falls into untold misery. -- Dhammapada (Wisdom of Buddha)

The Golden Rule is all variations of "Do unto others as you would have them do into you" (yang or active version) and "Do not do unto others as you would not have others do unto you" (yin or passive version).

Do not do unto others what you do not want others to do unto you. -- Confucius

As ye would that men should do to you, do ye also to them likewise. -- Luke 6:31

This is the sum of all true righteousness: Deal with others as thou wouldst thyself be dealth by. Do nothing to thy neighbor which thou wouldst not have him do to thee hereafter. -- Mahabharata

Whatever thou likest no for thine own self, for any person else, too, like it not. -- Dhammapada

Noblest religion this -- that thou shouldst like for others what thou likest for thyself and what thou feelest painful for thyself, hold that as painful for all others too. -- Koran
2/7/12

Is there any evidence for God's existence?
Many people argue what constitutes evidence. Many people say that if God was to appear right in front of us, we wouldn't believe it was him. Well, here's one view.

Excerpt from Master Choa Kok Sui, 'The Existence of God is Self Evident', (followed by some additional thoughts):

1. The existence of God is self-evident. It is amazing that those who have eyes do not see.The existence of a camera factory is self-evident by the existence of the camera. The existence of God is self-evident by the existence of the eye, which is infinitely more complicated than a camera.

2. The existence of a computer factory is self-evident by the existence of the computer. The existence of God is self-evident by the existence of the brain, which is infinitely more complex than the most advanced computer.

7. A beautiful rose is made of only four physical ingredients:
a. water
b. trace minerals
c. air
d. sunlight

Only God can make something so complex, so beautiful, with just these four physical ingredients. Scientists, even if given trillions of U.S. dollars, will not be able to produce a rose with just these four physical ingredients.

8. The flowers, the fruits, the plants, and the trees are produced with these four physical ingredients. To produce chemicals you need chemical factories, chemists and chemical engineers. Many of the biochemicals in the flowers, in the fruits, in the plants and in the trees cannot be reproduced by the biochemists and the chemical engineers. Yet a plant or a tree, which is not managed by biochemists and chemical engineers and is much smaller than a chemical factory, produces them... Nature is God's factory. To see nature is to see the creation of God. The existence of God is self-evident!

For several years, I made the mental efforts to argue these points, especially #7. What about seeds? DNA? Try going down that rabbit hole and see where that takes you. Challenging these statements (and many others in the book) has been intellectually and spiritually stimulating, and I have not been able to find a flaw in his logic. I invite you to try.

I was agnostic for the first part of my life. I tell people that I have never believed in God. I went from not believing there is a God to KNOWING there is a God. Belief didn't enter into the picture. It is self-evident physically, intellectually, and spiritually.
12/30/11

Ilan Maya
Arnon's loving brother and sister - Ilan and Maya.
His other sister Talia was a bone marrow match, but she never got the chance.

If God is omnipotent and knows what we will do before he created us, how can we have free will?
You are discussing in four-dimensional space-time, which includes only a single timeline. Current physics postulates AT LEAST 11 dimensions.  Assume for a moment, that dimension number 5 is choice.  The choices we make would spread out into at least a "time plane" or maybe even a "time cube" (three dimensions of time). With this, we have only covered six dimensions of time and space (and there is much more beyond that).  The theory postulated above is at least as plausible as the "all the higher dimensions are curled up in little balls" theory. There is much more knowable than our four dimensional minds can fathom.

Discussion of the scope of omniscience is a subject for a different time, but let's stick with the fact that within a given space (e.g. the universe), God knows everything.

I believe I'm actually expanding the definition of omniscience beyond what most people actually think it is. There is never only one choice. All choices are known and calculated (and possibly exist simultaneously, though I'm not an expert in n-dimensional physics).

Most people think of omnipotence and omniscience as absolutes and in three or four dimensions. That's what creates these supposed paradoxes.  "If God has the ability, it must be used" and "If God knows everything, we have no free will". But this is a higher-dimensional universe where there are multiple possibilities of what we might do.

Omnipotence: He could stop us, just like I could stop my child from falling the first time they go on a bike. But I let my child fall and get back on the bike again and again so that he builds his own skills and confidence. There are a large number of physical, emotional and mental skills that we all need to gain.

Omniscience:  I'm sure it's more complex than this, but we could think of it as probabilities. Omniscience is not knowing a single future; it is knowing the space of all possible futures. The future is in flux. You may have a 99% chance of choosing chocolate, but there's always that possibility that this time you might choose vanilla with fruit and sprinkles. God may know our propensities, but does not lock us into a specific choice.

Most people think of omnipotence and omniscience as absolutes and in three or four dimensions. That's what creates these supposed paradoxes.  "If God has the ability, it must be used" and "If God knows everything, we have no free will". But this is a multi-dimensional universe where there are multiple possibilities of what we might do. God may know our propensities, but does not lock us into a specific choice.

Omniscience is not knowing a single future; it is knowing the space of all possible futures. The future is in flux. You may have a 99% chance of choosing chocolate, but there's always that possibility that this time you might choose vanilla with fruit and sprinkles.

We have free will because we choose the correct path or the mistaken path (or one of the many in between). God does not stop us from making those choices, so our will is free.

Sure he knows ... just like I know my son will fall the first time he tries to ride. I'm saying he doesn't exercise his omnipotence to stop our mistakes.
7/15/13

Is God a paradox?
I have seen this many times, and the assumption that if he will not, he is not "all good" is where this goes off track.  Are people intended to act as little children being guided at every turn? Or are they intended to learn and grow and become wise?  I don't know about you, but "all good" for me means that I consistently become a better person.

Wisdom implies time, process, and lots of dumb mistakes. If God intends us to grow, he has to take off the training wheels, and let us make mistakes. Those mistakes will cause pain and "evil". But how else would we become wise beings ourselves?

To throw in an analogy:  A parent helps a child ride a bike for the first time. The child falls and hurts his knee and cries. The parent could have avoided all the pain by keeping the training wheels on, but a greater good was served by the child learning to ride the bike himself.  Of course, the parent then encourages the child to get back on and ride again. Now multiply this times every skill in existence, physical, emotional, and mental, and you can see the complexity of the situation.
7/10/13

Can God solve P=NP?
If one assumes that God is beyond time, does polynomial time matter?
2/8/12

Do the majority of intellectual people believe in religion?
The majority of intelligent people dissect everything they believe in. So would an intelligent person believe EVERY part of a religion without question? Unlikely. After questioning, would an intelligent person believe that the principles and practices have value regardless of the stories' basis in fact?  Likely.

Most people are more intelligent than you think. Take any religion or spiritual practice and five people in that practice and you can uncover differences in their belief systems. Some will emphasize some parts and some others. In truth, even those who "accept the Bible as the Word of God" without question, will debate the meaning of those words. So "belief in religion" is too general a term.
5/19/13

If you convert into Judaism, and your father asks you to come worship other gods with him, what should you do according to the 10 commandments?
This question presumes that there are "other gods". There is one God by many names. I have worshiped with four religions in one month, and the feeling was the same. All are striving for greater connection with the same universal force.
12/25/11

Robert-Davidovici
Arnon's dad, Robert Davidovici - a world famous violinist.
Interview: www.youtube.com/watch?v=sHAekA6clo4

Why are Jews not evangelistic?
Jews and Hindus are alike in that regard. The general thought is that everyone has their own path. Why would you want to change yours? Most Jews just aim to live a good life by the principles in which they were raised. The majority of the Jewish religion is really a manual on how to live a good life.

However, if you want to know more, there are reams and reams of books on Judaism and Jewish thought. All of these are available in many bookstores and online. Choose your favorite subject.

In response to "our" God being "famous"... just a sec... need to stop laughing. The whole concept is something that doesn't occur to a Jew. There is only one God, no matter what you choose to call him. And one's belief in God doesn't make a bit of difference in that truth. Notice that the Commandment was to believe; not to force others to believe as you do. All that is asked of a Jew is to live a good life. (The whole concept that one had to believe to be "saved" was a Christian invention in 553 A.D.)
12/24/11

How would you describe Islam in three words?
All religions similar.
2/15/12

Does the Big Bang theory rule out Creation?
Why do people try to take things as conflicting? According to what I've been taught, creation is ongoing and evolutionary. Creation was not a single event, but continues now in every moment and in all of us. The proper term is Evolutionary Creation.

This obviously does not agree with a literal interpretation of the Bible, but aligns with the metaphorical and Kabbalistic interpretations. In Judaism, there are four levels in one must understand the Torah at to be a try biblical scholar. The literal interpretation is only one of the four, and is the most esoteric.
4/18/12 

How do you become enlightened?
By finding the darkest places within yourself, and bringing "light" to those places. The dark places are the areas we don't like about ourselves, don't want to acknowledge, and the negative, stagnant emotions that we all keep within. Bringing "light" includes:
- self-forgiveness
- forgiveness of others
- generosity (of time, money, and positive emotion)
- mental and emotional clarity
- mental and emotional freedom (not being stuck in the same ruts, or too attached to a specific belief system)
- moderation and balance (not being too excessive in any particular area of life)
- constancy of effort, dedication, and focus

There is no magic bullet. Although it is "easy", those negative emotions and stagnant patterns hold us back. It is a long and rewarding effort. The nice part is that it is not a single event. The efforts one makes show up continuously in improvement of character and better interactions with people. 

These results can be achieved through many paths of meditation, prayer, study, and many life events. Any activity which challenges your old beliefs or patterns is an opportunity for progress forward, including having a child, starting a company and many other life changing events.  Meditation, prayer, and study help to get past the blockages we have. But I know many growing people (some who have no other practice) whose life is a meditation, striving each day to be better than the next. That is the path to illumination, and in truth, that is illumination itself.
11/24/12

Meditation
Arnon leading a beautiful meditation - his passion, joy and greatest love.
www.youtube.com/watch?v=I9IyvKz4qO4


What do the enlightened understand that others just don't get yet?
I was taught that enlightenment has many facets, many levels, and many manifestations. A person could be more enlightened about baseball statistics than me (most are), which means you understand not only what a number means, but how that applies in a player's career and a team's chances for reaching the playoffs. But for me it's just a number. In the same way, I understand the ins and outs of computer systems and applications design, but for others, it's all gibberish ... they just want it to work. The same is true of parenting, business management, and so on and so on. There are any number of ways that others are more enlightened than me, and vice versa. I can always learn something unique from everyone I meet.

Now I know this question was probably asked in a "spiritual enlightenment" context. And the answer is still the same. You might say that a great person understands the inner workings of the universe, but what does that mean? The universe is multi-faceted and large and has such depth to every law that there are many levels to that one law.

So, as my teacher said, if someone tells you they are an enlightened being, you can ask them, respectfully, "To what level?" and "In what areas?"  Even someone who is soul-aware or even god-aware is aware to a certain extent and in a certain domain. Even the great beings are called the Buddha of Compassion and the Medicine Buddha and so on. That's because they have areas of specialization.

The experience of enlightenment is unique and indescribable (as my teacher said as an analogy, "How do you describe an orgasm to someone who hasn't had one?"). It is also hard to describe because it is unique to every individual. There are those who believe that all enlightenment is the same, but that is a projection on other people. In fact, my own experience of enlightenment has grown over time. The first time was like dipping a toe in an ocean. Over time the experience grows to fill the ocean, and then the one realizes that there is limitless space beyond that ocean. This is an unsatisfactory description, but I know it is true for others from years and years of reading about and talking to others about their experiences.

The ancients said "You know a tree by it's fruits." What they meant was that you know an enlightened person by the effect they have on the people around them. By the good works they do for those they know and those they don't. We know that enlightenment is unique and individual because each person grows and gives differently from their experience of enlightenment. The "enlightened" understand the depth of a subject to such an extent that it seems magical or transcendent to us, and there are limitless subjects to master.
12/6/11

Tam
Arnon's devoted mom and uncle - Tamara, with her brother Chaim.

Is there Absolute Truth?
Yes, there is an Absolute Truth which contains all other truths. To understand, one must realize that truth has many levels and facets, and can look different depending on how you look at it. And lesser truths are encompassed by, but not invalidated by, higher truths.

As an example, all of the following are true:
- 1+1=2 (base 10)
- 1+1=10 (binary)
- 1+1=11 (unary)
- 1+1=1 (boolean logic)
- 1+1=3 (Steven Covey synergy)
- 1+1 = a family

They are all facets of the same Absolute Truth, looked at from different frames of reference. All are true, and yet all are different, and yet all are connected into one singular Absolute Truth.

In spiritual or religious circles, the following are all true:
- Service is the path to God
- Love is the path to God
- Understanding is the path to God
- Jesus is the path to God
- Dedication is the path to God
- Ceremony or ritual is the path to God
- The ego is the path to God
- The monad is the path to God
- The Higher Soul is the path to God
- Harmony is the path to God
- Conflict is the path to God
- Sacrifice is the path to God
- Suffering is the path to God
- Study is the path to God
- Prayer is the path to God
- Letting go is the path to God
- There is no path to God because we are God

Some people only accept one of these truths, but all are true, and are subsumed by the greater truth that "There are many paths to God". This does not invalidate the truth of the people who say "There is only one path to God", because that IS TRUE for that person. There is yet a higher truth that encompasses all that were stated before that "All paths to God are one." And ALL of these statements are simply reflections on the Absolute Truth of God.
12/23/11

Facebook June/July 2011 - Thoughts on Meditation:
"With nothing else to do or place to be, have you just been aware of the sensations of the sun, wind and ground? Letting go in meditation is exactly the same except that the awareness is on inner senses rather than outer senses. "Just be aware and let go.""

"How does one "let go" in meditation? No answer I ever got before I experienced it myself was satisfactory. However, the other day, after a picnic, I had an inspiration for explaining it! Have you ever laid on the grass in a park (or on a beach) and just relaxed?"



Insight

PERSONAL INSIGHTS:

What is the craziest thing you have ever said (or done) at an interview and still got the job?
When the interviewer asked me about certain technologies, I told him that I didn't know them, and asked him about them. He was talking almost the entire interview. I got the job.
10/4/13

What's the greatest experience you've had when your flight was delayed?
I had never flown business class before. Coming back from the Philippines to Portland, OR, I had a 4 hour layover in Taiwan and another one in San Francisco ... I was up for a very broken night. I decided to pay $35 to go to my airline's lounge, which gives comfortable seating, WiFi, and a large buffet of food. For four hours, it was worth it.

About one hour in (after already having a great dinner), they asked me if they could change my flight. I would be in Taiwan for 8 hours, then jump flights in Seattle, and take a hopper to Portland. They gave me access you a recliner chair in a private room (so now I got 7 hours of sleep), and upgraded me to business class.

For those of you who have never experienced international business class, there were hot moist towels all the time, so I felt refreshed (since I was already well rested, I didn't need to sleep on the flight). The seats recline all the way back and there is no seat next to me. I got to pick my movies/shows on the screen (that's becoming more common these days). Food was first class quality.

Suffice it to say that my trip went from a sleepless night to a dream vacation in itself. I have a rule now that if my layover is more than 2 hours, I go to the airline's lounge. It probably wouldn't be THIS good in the US (US first class is worse than international business class), but the amenities are worth it, and there are possible upgrades.
9/26/13

Are relationships on the Internet really real?
Relationships exist at multiple levels:
- Physical
- Emotional
- Mental
- Spiritual

In college, I had a couple of internet (and eventually phone) romantic relationships. Although the physical is strongly missed, since it is not there, the other levels are much more intense. The bond feels stronger, much faster (maybe too fast) than when the physical relationship is not there.

Since you were not specific to romantic relationships, I work in an international company, and have build strong mental-level relationships with people whom I have never met. When the IM turns green, that has the same effect as them coming into the office. IMs feel like having a conversation over the cube wall. I have built quite good friendships with these people whom I have never seen. Of course, the relationships get stronger with those whom I am also on the phone with 5 times a day.

And I have a depth of mental relationship with you people on Quora, this knowledge/idea network, that is completely different.

So, in my opinion, these are not superficial. Only those who believe that physical is the most important would say so.
12/24/11

Is it more selfish to have children or to remain childless?
I had a friend once who said it was selfish to want YOUR OWN child, when there are so many children out there needing a loving parent. He adopted.
12/23/11

What are the things/customs you do or follow without any reason?
I'm a white guy and I don't write in or highlight book pages, though I learned it in adulthood. It's a gesture of respect to the knowledge in the book and the author of the book. The same with pointing feet towards the teacher of a class. Since I was a kid, I never wrote in books for the same reason (though I don't know where I learned that ... everyone around me did).
May 28th 2013



Intelligence

THE MIND - INTELLIGENCE, STUPIDITY, EMOTION, THOUGHTS:


How much untapped brain power exists in the world?
Since the explanation of the question refers to mental power (not the physical computing capacity of the brain), I will answer to that framing of the question.

I have found that a lot of people are great at focus, they just focus on the wrong that they received 20 years or 20 minutes ago, rather than focusing on the solution which would improve their and others lives.

I have found that a lot of people understand numbers and math, but apply it to baseball or gambling or gaming, rather than economics and saving for the up and down cycles in their lives.

I have found that a lot of people understand their limits (whether their own or imposed by others), but choose to stay within them (very precisely and carefully in some cases), rather than regularly making the effort to step beyond them. This is also a use of mental power.

I have found that a lot of people apply their mental power to understanding the people around them, rather than math and science. This is just as valid a use of mental power. My brother, for example, is a social genius ... though I'm not faulting his math and science.

I don't think that mental power is unused, but rather misused (based on the speaker's perception). When people are told they don't apply themselves, that just means they are not applying the mental power to what the speaker believes they should. I have found that a lot of people make choices in life that others don't agree with.

That being said, there are those who can apply more of their mental power to positive, rather than destructive (self-destructive or externally destructive), endeavors. How many? 100% of humanity.  Every single one of us, even the most positive, has some place we put mental effort where it detracts from our lives. Every single one of us has the capacity to improve our lives every day through the proper application of mental effort.
5/19/13

Is it possible to be really smart in some ways and really stupid in some others?
Geeks who read Quora tend to be intellectually smart. Socially smart is another story ... or is that just me :)
4/13/12

How can you tell if someone is smart?
By the questions they ask.

Anyone can talk in depth about a subject they have spent a lot of time on, but how many willingly open their minds continuously to expand further? They must question and then LISTEN to the answer (I know many who question and then keep talking.)
12/25/11  

Does being extremely smart make you lonely?
Smarts do not make you lonely. Arrogance about how smart you are is what drives people away and makes you lonely. If you are really smart, you should study what makes people like people more (e.g. humility, joyfulness, talking to people at their own level) and implement those practices.
3/26/13

How would you define intelligence?
The ability to question appropriately and LISTEN to the answers (too many people question and just keep talking).
3/3/12

Lake
                      View
Arnon and dear friend Gina - 1997 hiking the Santa Monica Mountains.

What can I do to become more intelligent?
Throughout your day, don't take the easy route to an answer. Need to add up some costs? Try to do it in your head before pulling out the calculator. Look up every word you read that you don't understand, and work to understand the roots of those words (your vocabulary will grow by leaps and bounds). After an interaction with a person, take some time to review it and consider what may have been behind what was said and what you could have added/changed in the conversation. When you have a question, spend a few minutes thinking through possible answers, before you jump on Google or Quora. And when you read the answers, try to think of other information that might not have been included.

Every moment of every day is an opportunity to sharpen your mind. Even if you don't have the time every day to follow the excellent suggestions given, you DO have time to think in your own life more. At first it will be hard, but that means you are exercising the mental muscle. Over time, you will think faster and be more aware of things in your day. You know you are doing it right when your number of questions in a day is growing. "Judge a person by their questions, rather than their answers" - Voltaire (yes, I looked up that quote before putting it here, and realized I had it wrong before and the wrong person). Always be learning.
12/8/11

Do intelligent people tend to be unhappy? If so, why?
The technical term is "morbid introspection". We always are good at less things than we are not good at. We don't know more things than we know.  As we become more aware of our "failings", it is easy to be burdened by the weight of it. This is actually a bit of ego thinking one has the ability or responsibility to know everything.

After one gets tired of beating oneself up over it (I used to call it "mental self-flagellation"), one begins to realize that one is not expected to know everything and these "failings" are actually opportunities to grow. Historically, those who are the wisest are also the most humble, because the road ahead gets LONGE - one realizes that what one knows is but a drop in the bucket.
12/17/11

How should one react to controversial opinions held by highly intelligent people?
Don't blindly believe what I say. Don't believe me because others convince you of my words. Don't believe anything you see, read, or hear from others, whether of authority, religious teachers or texts. Don't rely on logic alone, nor speculation. Don't infer or be deceived by appearances.

Do not give up your authority and follow blindly the will of others. This way will lead to only delusion.

Find out for yourself what is truth, what is real. Discover that there are virtuous things and there are non-virtuous things. Once you have discovered for yourself give up the bad and embrace the good.

- The Buddha

If he would say that about his own words, what more of the words of any other wise or intelligent people. We must discriminate with regards to what everyone tells us, no matter how highly we regard what they say in certain subjects.
1/3/12

How can you tell whether someone is wiser than you?
To answer this, one must first define a measurement scale.

I think the wisest are open to the largest set of possibilities, including mine. So a wise one will question intelligently and respectfully, looking to learn the most. Then they will share their opinion (as opinion, not fact) in the best way for me to understand it. They might say it in 100 different ways to 100 different people, because what's important is the concept, not how it's said.
12/30/11

Why is it important to be smart rather than important to be good?
"Good" implies you have skill in the referred to subject. "Smart" implies you can analyze the subject and build more skill, becoming "good", then "better", then "best". One who is smart can usually also continually grow to master multiple subjects.

This implies that it's more important to teach children passion in learning and how to go about it, rather than rote learning. It is more important to learn concepts than details. Learning a multiplication table makes a child "good" (from 1 to 20), but learning why one wants to multiply and how it applies to the real world ("If you want 5 of that toy and each is $6.99, how much do you need?"), they will quickly learn 1 through 20 and far beyond.

Many schools will teach the proper way to write a letter first. Then have them write words and learn spelling. Then sentences and so on, taking years to get "good". My son's school took the "smart" approach, and he wrote a BOOK (literally, all the kids did) in the first semester of kindergarten. Who cares which order he writes a "b" in if it looks like a "b". Who cares how he spells a word initially, as long as it's understandable ("nise" vs. "nice" can be learned later). Instead, he wrote a book about a fictional character he made up. This generates more passion to write and read, where those spellings will be corrected naturally.

Note: the teachers do correct spelling occasionally, but only on about one writing sample in ten ... to keep the momentum in the right direction.
12/23/11

Bear
Find your passion, do what makes you happy, and never stop learning!

In evaluating a new acquaintance, what is the best way to distinguish mental laziness from general stupidity?
The two are functionally the same in my opinion. Assuming you are looking to hire, don't.

That being said, people who are intelligent must have some place to exercise that intelligence. It's like a muscle - if they don't use it, they ARE generally stupid. Therefore, finding out if someone is intelligent requires finding those areas in which they use that muscle. In those areas, they would be enthused and coherent.

I would ask that person what they were interested in and have a discussion about that subject. If they show deep thought and clear understanding of the subject, it means they have intelligence in subjects where they choose to exercise it.  Now, if you want them to exercise it in another subject, you are going to have to find a way to motivate them to be enthusiastic about that subject ...
4/3/12

Do intelligent lazy people achieve more in life than intelligent active people?
I tell people that I'm good because I'm lazy. Rather than trying to power through in the most obvious path, I sit back for a bit to think if there is a more efficient path to what needs to be achieved. I regularly get the same results in one half to one tenth the time.

Let me give some specific examples in software development:

1) Testing is boring, long, and a lot of effort. So I have learned to test in my head. As I'm coding, I'm running through potential flows of the system, and I correct problems before they would ever be head scratchers in testing. It doesn't catch everything, but it reduces testing and searching time significantly.

2) Because I have the ability to have the whole system in my head, I can notice where something is becoming (or will become) repetitive and code a class which takes multiple instances into account.

3) I think ahead to what the logical next steps of the system are in the next 6-12 months, and code those flexibilities into the system. It might take an extra half an hour right now, but it saves hours when marketing/executives ask for it and I say, "Done!"

4) When talking to a client, I'm designing the system in my head down to quite a bit of detail. Many times, I have told them what won't work (for the system or for user interaction) right in the first hour or two of talking to them about requirements. These changes, made halfway into development (or even worse, at user testing), would take much more effort.  Sometimes, alternative ideas I have come up with at these meetings have become the centerpiece of the site, rather than what the client thought they wanted.

Applying extra mental leverage up front allows me to save a lot of time in the end, and increases customer satisfaction.

Cases in point:

a) For a performance management system, my colleagues were proposing (and coding) a 40 table data structure. I proposed an alternative with three tables, one being a hierarchy linking table. This new structure had MUCH more expressive power, and MUCH more flexibility.  It allowed the business owners to change the structure of measurements and their meanings on the fly, literally, and also differently per business unit, where the other structure would have been locked in place (we gave them administration screens to change the structure and calculations). It also allowed both the data warehousing code (PL/SQL which rolled up and down the hierarchy doing calculations) and the database linking code, and the Java code working on the display to be MUCH simpler.

b) Using the principles above, I was able to do a complete restructuring of a large code base for a major site (moving to Hibernate, Spring, and a layered architecture) in two weeks because I was able to test much of it in my head. I was able to change 20-40 classes a day, running tests for everything I had done at the end of the week (or the end of a module). Those who would have been testing each step would have taken two to three months (I know because I have seen it done).

BEWARE:  This does not work for all things! Being efficient with my wife DOES NOT WORK!  She sees it as cold and distant.  She also wants to hear the steps in my thinking, not the jumps that I make. The only thing that laziness buys me at home is that I realize it's more effective to hire someone to clean than do it myself ... and I still get it from my wife if I don't make SOME effort cleaning the dishes or after the kids. Perceived effort is important sometimes here. We had to interview 5 location, 5 bands, etc. etc. for all of our wedding stuff, even though we both knew the first or second was the one we were going with.
12/30/11

Fran
                      Cyn
Arnon, myself, Gina, and Rog, climbed a mountain in 1997 on my birthday.
Sixteen years later, in 2013 on my birthday, i was in an Oregon hospital visiting Arnon.


Are thoughtful people happier or less happy than non-thoughtful people?
It depends on the focus of one's thoughts.

If one focuses on their internal weaknesses and the failings in the world, they take themselves down a vicious circle. The technical term for constant thought on one's weaknesses is "morbid introspection" (I used to call it "mental self-flagellation"). We always are good at less things than we are not good at. We don't know more things than we know. As we become more aware of our "failings", it is easy to be burdened by the weight of it.  Add to that a negative view on the external world, and a thoughtful person will become more and more unhappy.

If one instead chooses to focus on their strengths and the beauty and joy in the world, one begins to realize that one's "failings" are actually opportunities to grow. These ones take joy in the challenge of life and every step along the way. These are likely happier than the one who thoughtlessly takes life as it is without direction, purpose, or passion for growth (as in the example hedonist given by Nan).

There are many variations in between these. Ultimately, it is not one's thoughtfulness that makes one happy or unhappy, but where one focuses one's thought and the interpretation of the evidence around them.
2/7/12

What is the difference between consciousness and mind?
I think of meta-levels. The mind thinks. Consciousness is thought ABOUT thought, meaning thinking about our own thought process and the effects on the world around us. This is where self-awareness begins (the child realizes he is separate from this thing he waves in front of his face).
12/24/11

How does one achieve true objectivity?
One doesn't. We are subjective beings. We can adapt for that subjectivity, but never eliminate it.
6/23/12

How valuable is Myers-Briggs personality typing?
A few years ago, I think I came out as an INTP.  I just took the test again and came out as an INTJ. After reading Paul King's answer, I read both of the descriptions, and both could describe me at different times. Whether I exercise one or the other is really situational or based on my confidence or interest at the time. Very interesting.
1/2/12


How do I get over "analysis paralysis"? I know what I want to accomplish, but I spent too much time thinking and not doing.
Take the first step. Once you are moving in a direction, you will learn more about that direction, and can re-adjust. As others have said, in every step, in any direction, is growth ... even if the only growth is having overcome the fear to take that step.
11/23/12



Arnon
                      Davidovici
Arnon 23 yrs old, out on the town having fun!

HUMOR:
Horses: Do horses celebrate New Year's?
Neigh.
9/21/12

Is there a foolproof way to tell identical twins apart?
Pierce an ear for one of the children  ;)
2/7/12

Is black a color?
My sons use a black crayon ...
12/30/11

Does God have feet?
If God is everywhere and nothing is outside of God, then God has at least 7 billion pairs of human feet and innumerable animal feet, table feet, chair feet and so on.
12/23/11




Aman-davidovici
Indian Restaurant 2007 - Arnon, his wife Aman, Gina and her husband.

VEGETARIANISM:


What does it feel like for a long-time vegetarian to discover they've accidentally consumed meat?
I was recently served chicken soup instead of the vegetable soup I ordered. It was a dark dinner theater, so I didn't notice and just scooped it into my mouth. I noticed the taste was strange, and as I chewed I noticed that the texture was more meaty than expected. I looked at the next spoonful in the dim light to make sure I wasn't fooling myself with a unique vegetable (it's happened before, but more often with fake meats or burgers). Vegetarians need to pay close attention with soups because many have meat base, but this had actual chicken in it. After that, I took it back and got what I ordered.

I didn't have any of the emotions others have stated. It was just a mistake. I was taught long ago, "What goes into your mouth may dirty your body, but what comes out of your mouth can dirty your soul." What one eats comes out in a few hours or a day ... what one says affects their character.  When something like this happens, if one gets angry and especially says negative things to the waiter, they may as well have just eaten the meat. It would have had less negative effect on their system.
6/18/12

Should I feel sad while eating animals?
No. Enjoy the food you chose to eat. I say this as a vegetarian. But that's my choice, and have no issue with those who make other choices.
5/9/12



Space

RANDOM INSIGHTS:


How could it be argued that imagination is more valuable than knowledge?
Imagination creates hypotheses. Knowledge is the result of testing those hypotheses.
4/8/12

Do the same laws of physics apply everywhere in the cosmos?
To be honest, we don't know. We assume so and test those hypotheses through telescopes, but there may be exceptions to the rules.
4/22/12

Assuming Moore's law will be correct for the next 100 years. How long do we have before artificial intelligence takes over the planet?
42yrs.
12/23/11

What if there are phenomena possible in this Universe, in which one needs to believe first, in order to understand/observe rather than understand/observe in order to believe?
As I was reading through these answers, it occurred to me that observation bias plays a big role here. Some people can have the truth put right in their face, but will not see it. It always comes back to whether or not someone accepts (believes) the axioms on which logic is based, and the evidence which leads to conclusions.

Some other historical and modern cases which everyone believes in now:

a) Global Climate Change ... only those who accepted the evidence ("believed") could see the trend.
b) The earth goes around the sun (people didn't believe it even when evidence was given ... until they did)
c) The earth is round (though I've seen other questions on Quora that say people back then weren't as disbelieving as popular stores say).

Additionally, there is what one could call perception bias (or "I'll believe it when I see it"). It is fair to say that that which we can cannot perceive is MUCH more than what we can perceive. Mankind has built tools to detect things outside of our perception and translate them to perceivable signals (microscopes, x-ray detectors, etc). However we have just begun to build these detectors. One must have a hypothesis and believe in such hypothesis to even conceive of building such a detector.

Lastly, I had another thought (which one could call mass belief effects): If enough people believe that stock X will go up, you will see it.
2/11/12

What did Nietzsche mean when he said "if you stare into the abyss, the abyss stares back at you"?
Notice he said "stare" or "gaze long", not just look into the abyss. As you think deeply (about anything), that thought changes you.
12/23/11

What's the insight inside "the truth will set you free"?
It is the process of thinking about what is true that allows you to escape delusions. Thinking deeply takes effort. The reason that they are called "mass delusions" is that the masses are mentally lazy, and will accept the truth that is most convenient, even if it does not serve them. "The truth will set you free" is about the process, not the end goal.
12/23/11

What are some theoretically possible ways to achieve faster than light communication?
Telepathy.
10/8/13



Kindergarten
Arnon is the blond on the left with the red heart.
He inherited his super intelligence from his parents
and grand-parents.

EDUCATION:

As a top high school student, how can I deal with depression and frustration stemming from the fact that high school has largely been an unenjoyable waste of time for me?
Just one additional note: your adult life does not necessarily have to be mindless work. I noticed a lot of people saying that. Some of it may be, but if you do what you enjoy, most of it is enjoyable and mentally stimulating.

I agree with what many said about taking the time to do additional work. Don't feel trapped; feel happy that you have time to study what you love. My entire adult life I have had two simultaneous (and sometimes changing) careers, each with multiple projects. I don't have too many chances to get bored. In school, I studied ahead, and asked what I thought were cooler questions.

I wish I had thought of what others stated here to make the study of my fellow students a second career ... What motivates them? What are their fears and joys? What are their strengths and weaknesses? That study will be time well spent and serve you well.
12/13/11

What data structures does the human brain use?
This can be answered at many levels. Technically, the brain stores information in the chemical and electrical composition of the neuron and in it's connections to other neurons.

But I choose to answer at a level that is more practical to our daily lives. Sometime in high school, I figured out how my mind organized information. It puts related facts in folders where my mind organized them into coherent responses. These folders have connections to other folders in related subjects or higher levels (meta-levels) of the same subject.

When I realized this, I found that if I didn't understand a subject, I could imagine a folder with a title and just dump all the information in there. At a certain point, once a critical mass of information was in the folder, it would start to self-organize and gel into understanding. To this day, I still create a title first whenever I am starting a project or trying to understand something (I have a big one I'm working on labelled "Happy Wife"). The folder title doesn't have to be "right"; it just needs to be indicative. What is important is the folder.

I don't really know the structure inside the folder, but that is probably the way it should be. Initially I just pile things in there when I don't understand. Eventually, I start to understand some of the connections inside the folder. Then the structure grows from there, sometimes splitting into sub-folders as I understand the sub domains better.

It was only years later that I saw studies that framed the mind structure in similar ways. Now they have "mind maps" As a tool (I don't use these but it's similar in some ways).
12/11/11
Teaching
Arnon loved being in a classroom both as a teacher or student.

Do more intelligent students benefit less from homework than other students in any given class?
How about an answer from an intelligent student. What qualifies me as an intelligent student?


* Graduated 10th in my class at a Magnet High School for gifted children.
* 4.1 HS GPA (this school put an A grade at 4 and an A+ at 4.33).
* 1470 SAT score (back when SATs went to 1600).
* 3.75 college GPA - Magna Cum Laude honors.
* Graduated college with 2 majors and 3 minors and 1.5 times the credits I needed to graduate.

I WANTED to learn more. When I was young, I would take things apart to learn more about them. If I hadn't been given homework, I would have researched additional things. The homework helped to guide my studies. My standard work in late HS and college was to do the next day's reading so that I could ask more intelligent questions in class the next day. I noticed that knocking the teacher off the standard teaching track gave all of us more, because it also brought out more passion from the teacher and showed their deep understanding of the subject. I STILL learn constantly. If I don't understand a word that I'm reading, I look it up (rather than just let it pass by) and I look at the roots of that word so that I can see if I can apply it in other contexts. There are a multitude of opportunities to always be learning.

It is a fallacy to believe that a teacher can teach 25+ students all at their individual level. Homework brings more individuality into learning, allowing students to learn at their own pace, and review many times (which would disrupt the class). Imagine having a student like me who wanted all the extra stuff, and a student who is struggling to understand the basics. One teacher has a hard time serving both equally. Homework allowed me to extend. I like some of the current models (like is encouraged by Khan Academy) where the rote teaching is given as homework, and the teacher is more a coach than a repeater of rote information year after year (I don't mean to deride teachers here by any stretch).

Yes, parents have a significant impact on the child's ability and dedication to learning, but I disagree that most parents don't care. I believe that some parents don't know where to start and don't have the time. I have two little ones now, and my wife has been going through workbooks with each of them since before they were three years old. They consider it FUN, rather than a chore, because that's how she makes it (thank God for my wife). They are passionate about reading because my wife makes it into a fun activity to do. I would also add that the quality of teachers also has a huge impact on how a student responds to learning (I was lucky in this regards, and aim for my children to be as well).

I currently have two simultaneous careers (plus two little ones) and although I constantly learn on the job, I miss the times when I could just pick up a book and learn more about a subject. My reading list keeps growing, but unfortunately, I don't make much impact on it on a regular basis (thank God for my wife being an encouraging, dedicated coach with the children, because I don't have the time to be there for them that much).

To put this in context, I graduated HS in 1992 and college in 1997 (I took a year off to be an entrepreneur). This was before 'No Child Left Behind' and the focus on passing tests. I hear that the level of homework has gotten excessive these days, but I don't have direct experience to judge by. 

Luckily, the administrator at the public school where my children are going spends absolutely no time on the standardized tests. He focuses on providing a high standard of education, and encouraging the kids to love learning. The kids take the tests and pass at a very high rate. This is the #3 school in the country - counting both public and private schools. Again, thank God for my wife for doing all the research to find the best school :).
12/11/11

What are some of the most useful online resources for parents with young children?
It depends what you mean by young, but my kids started using khanacademy.org at 3 yrs old.
12/15/11

Facebook June 2012 - The children:
"Feeling the love ... my youngest boy, to win an argument with his older brother, says "Dad said so, and Dad is right about EVERYTHING!!!" I need to take him to my next work meeting ... or discussion with my wife."



Poitics

POLITICS:


How much power does the President of United States really have?
Anonymous had a great list for the powers he has, but one man only has so much attention. So he appoints people to lead these various powers. The truth is only so much intelligence and so many decisions would filter up to him. 

So although he has the final say and ultimate responsibility, he doesn't actually exercise these powers on a daily or even monthly basis. There are many other people who actually exercise and utilize these powers on his behalf.

So how much power is REALLY his and how much is theirs? I guess that depends on his attention at any given time. If they don't screw up, and play the political game well, they can be appointed across various Presidents, and thus the power is really theirs.
1/3/12

Would US citizens be served better if there were more members of Congress?
Congress has a hard enough time coming to a consensus NOW! Adding more members would make this harder. With more members, there would be more opinions and amendments, bringing debate to a crawl.

There is a certain size team in any organization that is effective for getting things done. Congress already breaks into committees to do this, but then they bring decisions back to 500 other members who have no expertise in the given subject. Not that I blame them; it's not possible to know everything.
12/17/11



BS
Proud father to be 2005.

TECHNO:


What are the best telecommuting jobs?
I've found that companies who have nationwide offices seem to have people used to communicating on the phone and online meeting software regularly.  Nationwide teams are part of the way of life. I used to travel to a company office to just sit on the phone all day. Now I sit at home and no one (except those who I tell) know the difference. And I don't know when my colleagues are working from the office or home that day.
12/11/11 

Are telephone calls an inefficient mode of communication?
Most ways to look at this are subjective. But from a cost perspective, depending on your plan, you generally pay more for the data for Skype voice calls than you do for standard mobile voice minutes.
12/11/11

What was daily life like before the internet?
I used to have to watch TV (or record it) when the cable company said!
12/16/11




Loren--Anthony Robbins
Awesome Loren Slocum and Tony Robbins.
Outstanding magic moments - the 1990's.

ANTHONY ROBBINS:


"How often do you get a huge new understanding of something you learned 10-20 years ago? It helps having several geniuses as teachers. Have one (or several) teachers whose books you read or classes you take. Sometimes it's like I have little copies of them in my head, discussing and coming out with new pearls of wisdom!"

"Last night I was talking with a friend who was asking about how I deal with "difficult" people. As I was forming the answer (not that I'm an expert, but I have some experience), I realized that I only used one need of what Tony taught as SIX needs. That was something I learned 18 years ago, and now I got a whole new level to the teaching! A gift that keeps on giving!"

"I recommend reading and learning from Master Choa Kok Sui and Tony Robbins. The beauty of these genius teachers is that not only do they have teachings that keep on giving, but they also recommend other great teachers and books. If you read, think, and put things together, your life will continue to improve even years AFTER you have read the books.
"
Facebook - Written May 2011

Oregon
                      Sunset
Sunset over Oregon - Arnon crossed over around 6pm.
July 23rd 1974 - December 21st 2013.


'Bear' has begun a new journey but all i have to do is close my eyes and i see his beautiful smile and i feel his essence.
During his illness, i added two new pages to guide cancer patients, and their families, towards health and recovery:


Kill Cancer
Checklist for cancer patients - alternative and conventional.

Diagnosis Cancer
What IS cancer - understand it and heal.

CANCER IS A WAKE-UP CALL TO CHANGE.
DETOXIFICATION OF THE BODY AND MIND IS CRITICAL.
LIFESTYLE CHANGES ARE MANDATORY.



Arnon-hike
Until we meet again ...

To honor Arnon's memory, his family and friends have chosen to give donations in his name to:
Israel Children's Cancer Foundation - a unique non-profit organization.
www.israelcancer.org

This charity was decided on because Arnon was born in Israel, he lives on thru his two little boys,
he loved to tithe and give to others, it's non-profit, and because cancer took his life.


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